Indlela yokwenza okulindelekileyo okulindelekileyo
Nangona ukukulindela okuphezulu komntwana wakho kunokuba luncedo, ukubeka umntwana wakho phantsi kwengcinezelo eninzi kunokuphelisa. Abantwana baya kufezekisa ukuba ulindele ntoni xa ezi zilindelekile. Kodwa ulindele ukuba umntwana wakho enze okungaphezu kokusombulula, uya kumenza alahleke kusasa. Unokuqala ukubonisa iimpawu zokuxinezeleka, ezinokubandakanya iimpawu zomzimba kunye neempawu zengqondo.
Nazi izicatshulwa ezinhlanu zokubeka ingcinezelo eninzi kumntwana wakho:
1. Uhlalutya ngakumbi kunokuba udumise
Ukugxila kuzo zonke izinto umntwana wakho akwenzayo kakubi kuthetha ukuba ukhangele zonke izinto akwenzayo ngokufanelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, abazali abaninzi banaki ukuziphatha kakuhle ngenxa yokuba bacinga ukuba abantwana bafanele badunyiswe ngokulungileyo-kunokuba badinga uxinzelelo lokuba lukhulu.
Ukunikezela ngokugxeka kakhulu akuyi kukhuthaza umntwana wakho, nangona kunjalo. Akukho mntu uthanda ukuhlala eva malunga nazo zonke izinto abazenzayo ezingalunganga. Yenza umzamo wokubamba umntwana wakho ulungile kwaye unikezele udumo ngaphezu kokugxekwa kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bomntwana wakho.
2. Wena Micromanage Imisebenzi Yomntwana Wakho
Abazali abaneengcinezelo eziphezulu basengozini yokuba yi- freaks control . Ukuba uhambela imisebenzi yakho yansuku zonke-njengomsebenzi wasekhaya, imisebenzi yasekhaya, kunye nokudlala-ukuqinisekisa ukuba wenza konke ngokufanelekileyo, mhlawumbi ubeka ingcinezelo enkulu kuye.
Ngekubeni kubalulekile ukubandakanyeka ebomini bentsapho yakho, ukwenza izinto ezincinci kwimisebenzi yakhe kunokunyusa ukuphuhlisa kwakhe.
Ukuba ufuna umntwana wakho enze kakuhle, mvumele enze iimpazamo aze abhekane nemiphumo yemvelo xa kufanelekile. Nangona kunzima ukubukela umntwanakho ukwenza kakubi uvavanyo akazange alufunde okanye alahlekelwe ngethuba ngenxa yokuba akazange afake umzamo, le miphumo ingaba ngabanye ootitshala abakhulu kunabo bonke ubomi.
3. Ukholisekile yonke imeko Ngaba ubomi buguquka
Ukuba ufumana uxelela umntwana wakho ukuba ezininzi iimeko "zenza-okanye-ziya kufa," ngokuqinisekileyo ubeka ingcinezelo enkulu kuye. Ukuthi, "Le yakho yinto edityanisiweyo ukunyanzela umqeqeshi wakho ukuze wenze inkampani yeenkwenkwezi zonke," okanye "Kufuneka ufumane i-A kule vavanyo ukuba ufuna ukucingelwa uluntu ohloniphekileyo," uthumela umyalezo othi abantwana bafumana ithuba elilodwa lokuzifumana kakuhle.
Nangona kukho imeko ebomini apho olo hlobo lombono luyinto engokoqobo-xa intsha isithuba sokudliwano-ndlebe kunye neemeko eziqhelekileyo zeekholejini apho ufumana ithuba elilodwa lokuzifumana ngokufanelekileyo akuzona eziqhelekileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, kubazali abaninzi, kuba ngumkhwa wokunyanga uvavanyo lovavanyo, ukhuphiswano, okanye intsebenzo njengokuba kuphela yinto ebalulekileyo. Zama ukukhumbuza wena-kunye nomntwana wakho-ukuba kukho amathuba amaninzi okukhanya kunye nesiphumo sezona ziganeko aziyi kuguqula ubomi.
4. Uthabathelekisa iiNgqungquthela kwabanye abantwana
Ndihlala ndikhumbuza umntwana wakho ngezinto ezinjengokuthi, "Udade wakho wakwenza ujikelezo oluphezulu kwizinyosi zokupeliswa ngokuba wenza njalo," okanye "Uqaphele ukuba mangaphi amanqaku uJohnny anamhlanje? Ndicinga ukuba mhlawumbi ungangena amanqaku amaninzi kunokuba akwenza ngaphezulu. "Ukuthelekisa umntwana wakho nakwamanye abantwana lonke ixesha elimncincileyo kunye nalabo abasondezayo kwaye akayi kuthathelwa ingqalelo yakhe ngabanye.
Xa abantwana bephantsi koxinzelelo ngokuthelekiswa nabanye, kunokunciphisa ukuzimisela kwabo ukwenza izinto apho bengayi kuba khona. Basenokuyeka ukudlala ibhola xa bengabanomdla wokukhawuleza okanye bangahle baye kwiqela leematriki ukuba abayena mntu ohlakaniphile kwiqela.
Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba abe ngcono ngokukhuphisana naye. Xoxa ngokubaluleka kokufunda nokuziqhuba ukuze abe ngcono namhlanje kunokuba wayedlala-kungakhathaliseki ukuba abanye abazungezile bayenza njani.
5. Ulahlekelwa Ikhowudi Yakho Ngokuqhelekileyo
Ukubeka abantwana phantsi koxinzelelo oluninzi kuthetha ukuba abazali baziva bexhala.
Xa abantwana bengabonisananga nokulindela abazali, kubangela ukuba abazali bakhule ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba ulahlekelwa ngumsindo ngenxa yokuba umntwana wakho ayenzi ngendlela othanda ngayo, unokuba ubeka ingcinezelo enkulu kumntwana wakho.
Umntwana wakho akasoze waba yinkwenkwezi yenkwenkwezi kwaye akanakuze abe ngumgcini-mva weklasini yakhe. Ukubeka uxinzelelo kuye ukuba abe yizinto angenayo umdla kunokubangela uxinzelelo olungakumbi kumntu wonke. Fumana ibhalansi enempilo ekhuthaza umntwana ukuba abe yinto engcono kakhulu, ngaphandle kokuzama ukumphoqa ukuba ahlangabezane nokulindela okungenakwenzeka.
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