Izizathu Singazixoxani Ngokungafihliyo kunye nokutshatyalaliswa kwabantu

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Izizathu Singazixoxani Ngokungafihliyo kunye nokutshatyalaliswa kwabantu

Nangona kukho iinzame ezininzi zokunciphisa ukungazinzi nokulahleka kokukhulelwa, ukuzala nokukhulelwa kwesisu kuhleli zifundo.

Abo babandezeleka abahlali nabanye ngamava abo. Abangewona amalungu eklabhu yokungabikho kwengqondo-kunye nokulahlekelwa yilala abazi ukuba basabele njani okanye bafanele benzani xa bexelelwa ngomzabalazo womhlobo. Abanye bathe baziva bengenakuziva malunga naso.

Ihlazo lomeleleyo.

Ngoba?

Ngesibini esinezibini ezi-8 ezifumana ukungabikho kwengqondo - kunye ne-25% yokukhulelwa ekuphelelweni kokuphuphuma kwesisu - kutheni nje njengentlalo esiyinto engakhululekile ukuxoxa ngayo ngeziganeko eziqhelekileyo zobomi?

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Iimvakalelo zokuBhuqa kunye nehlazo

Xa indoda okanye ibhinqa ifumanisa ukuba ayinasiphelo, ihlazo luyindlela eqhelekileyo yokuphendula . Abantu abangenasiphelo bahlala bebelana nabo baziva bephukile okanye bengenasiphelo.

Abasetyhini kunye namadoda athile abafumana ukulahlekelwa ngokukhulelwa-ngokukodwa ukulahlekelwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo-banokuphendula okufanayo. Kutheni umzimba wam ungeke unamathele kumntwana? Yintoni ephosakeleyo ngododa okanye i-genetic yam ukuba ayikwazi ukunceda ukudala ubomi obungapheliyo?

Ngaphezulu, abantu banokuzibuza ukuba benze into ebangela ukulahleka.

Unobangela obuninzi bokungabikho komntwana kunye nokuphuphuma kwesisu akuphantsi kolawulo oluqinileyo kwesibini. Nangona kunjalo, nangona umntu eyazi oku, ukuvakalelwa kukuba le nto yonke iphoso lam lithatha kuwo.

Okuthakazelisayo, awuyikukubona oku njalo ngezinye iinkalo zonyango.

Bangaphi abantu abanesifo sikashukela se-type 1, isifo se-asthma, okanye isifo se-celiac abazigxeka, okanye babe neentloni zokuvuma ukuba banezifo zabo?

Uphi umehluko?

Ngaphantsi, ukusuka kumbono ocacileyo, akukho mmahluko.

Ukungenzi lutho kunye nokulahleka kokukhulelwa yimiba yonyango. Azikho iimpawu zomntu.

Ukungabi nantoni kunye nokukhulelwa komzimba kukukwenza ube ngumntu ongaphantsi, ungowesifazane ongaphantsi kunye nomntu ongaphantsi.

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Ukungenzi lutho kunye nokutshatyalaliswa komtshato kunye neenxalenye zomzimba "phantsi apho"

Ukukhulelwa, ukukhulelwa kwesisu, nokukhulelwa kuxhulumene ngqo kwizesondo kunye nezitho zokuzala. Ukucinga ukuba awusebenzisi izibonelelo zonyango , ukuba ufuna ukukhulelwa, kufuneka ulale ngesondo.

Ukususela kwimbali ka-Adam noEva, izidalwa zobulili kunye nokuvelisa ziye zadibana nehlazo. Izihloko ezibandakanya umzimba wesisu kunye nento yokuzala yomzimba zifana nje.

(Qaphela ukuba ukungabikho komntwana kunye nokulahleka kokukhulelwa akunakudityaniswa nentsingiselo ngokwabelana ngesondo ngokwaso okanye ubunzima bokulala ngesondo ngokwaso.Noko kunjalo, umbutho ukhona kwingqondo yabantu, kwaye okwaneleyo ukubenza bangakhululeki ngesihloko.)

Kwimeko kwinqanaba, thabatha lo mzekelo weendaba zentlalo: @womenshealth kukutya kwe-Twitter kwiHhovisi leMpilo yabaseTyhini, eliyinxalenye yeSebe lezeMpilo lezeMpilo eMelika.

Ngomhla ka-Agasti 11, 2015, bathumela i-Tweet eyaqala ngo-"Ukuzibuza ukuba yiphi indlela engcono yokucoca ... phantsi apho? "U

Lo urhulumente uqhuba impilo yezempilo yabasetyhini i-Twitter feed ... kodwa abazange bazive bekhululekile ukusebenzisa igama elithigama elifanelekileyo.

Ndiyabulela ngamandla oonxibelelwano loluntu, abasebenzisi abaninzi be-Twitter babhikisha ukuphanga, kuquka ukukhulelwa kwengcali uRobin Elise Weiss (@RobinPregnancy).

Ngokuphendula, @womenshealth ithunyelwe ukuba baya kusebenzisa isigama esilungileyo kwixesha elizayo. I-follow-up tweet: "Siyavuma #VaginaIsNotaDirtyWord kwaye siya kuqiniseka ukuba siyayisebenzisa kwikamva."

Ukuba oogqirha bezonyango abanamathele ngamazwi afana nesondo kunye ne-penis, sinokulindela njani ukuthetha ngokuzala nokukhulelwa komzimba, imiba enxulumene kakhulu?

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Abantu Abayazi Oko Kukusho-Bathi Izinto Ezimbi Ngokuqhelekileyo

Ufuna ukwenza umntu angakhathazeki? Batshele ukuba uye wafumana ulahleko lokukhulelwa. Okanye ukuba ujongene nokungafumaneki.

Nangona abo bavele benamava abo baya kuthatha isigqibo ngokufanelekileyo (mhlawumbi - kungekhona njalo ), ininzi iya kugxuma.

Abantu abaninzi-abantu abanobubele nabanobubele - abanakukhathazeka ngezihloko ezinzima ezinjenge-infertility nokukhulelwa kwesisu. Bayazi nje ukuba bathetha ntoni.

Ukungabi nalutho akuyona yodwa imeko apho abantu bathi izinto eziphosakeleyo. Ukufa, umtshato kunye nezinye izinto ezininzi zonyango zifumana isabelo esilungileyo sezimvo ezingenangqondo.

Ngelishwa, ngenxa yokungathandeki kwabo, banokuthi bathethe izinto eziphosakeleyo.

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Awu, wawusele nje iiveki ezimbalwa ukhulelwe? Akuyinto enkulu, ukukhulelwa kwesisu kwenzeka njalo. Kufuneka ufike phezu kwayo. Yayiyodwa iqela leeseli, kungekhona umntwana wangempela.

• Izinto Ezinokuthi Ungalokothi Uthi Kumntu Othe Wayenomtshato

Ukumangalela izimvo ziqhelekile.

Akufanele ukulinde ixesha elide ukuba ube nezingane. Kufuneka utshintshe ukutya kwakho; ngoko uza kukhulelwa.

Nantsi into eyenzeka rhoqo:

Umntu ongenasiphelo ubonisa umzabalazo wabo. Zidibana neenjongo ezilungileyo kodwa ezibuhlungu zivakalisa ukuba bazive bebi kakhulu. Kwaye, ngenxa yoko, bancitshiswa kakhulu ukuba babelane ngomzabalazo wabo nomnye umntu.

Umjikelezo onobuqili kunye negalelo elikhulu lokuthulisa.

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Imizabalazo Yomzali Ingenza Ukunyanzeliswa Kwenesihawu Kunzima

Uyazi ukuba yintoni enye into ebhaliweyo? Ukuthetha ngeengxaki zokukhulelwa, ukubeletha, kunye nomzali.

Hlanganisa intlungu yokungabikho kwengxaki kunye neengxaki zokuba ngumzali, kwaye kufuneka ufumane impendulo engafanelekanga.

Uhlolisiso lwaseJamani lwabathathi-20,000 abathathi-nxaxheba bavavanya indlela abantu abanomxholo wokuba baphila ngayo ngaphambi nangemva kwemicimbi ebalulekileyo yokuphila. Abaphandi baqaphele ukuba bangazibuza ngokucacileyo indlela isiganeko sokuphila esathintela ngayo amanqanaba abo okonwabileyo.

Ngamanye amazwi, abazange babuze, "Ngaba uvuyo okanye ungonwabi emva kokuzalwa komntwana wakho?" Kuba abantu babeya kulala. Bambalwa kakhulu abantu besithi bangonwabi kakhulu ngenxa yokuzalwa komntwana.

Abaphandi bafumanisa ukuba ukulinganiswa kwabazali benhlalakahle kunye nolonwabo kunene kakhulu kunyaka wokuqala wokuzalwa komntwana.

Enyanisweni, ngokwemyinge, ukuwa kweentlalontle kwakunzima emva kokuzalwa komntwana kunokuba kuphele ukufa komlingane, umtshato okanye ukungasebenzi.

Ukubeka umzabalazo wokuba ngumzali ube ngumbono, ngokugqithiseleyo, ngabaphandi bafumanisa ukuba ukuba nabantwana ababini baphakamisa ukuqonda kwabantu ngokubanzi. Udonsa olukhulu luya kwenzeka ngaphakathi kuloo nyaka wokuqala wokulungiswa.

Ngoku, makhe siqwalasele abo abangenasifo.

Umntu ongenasiphako-onentswela-ntlungu ejulile-uxelela umzabalazo wabo nomhlobo osandul 'utsha okanye mhlawumbi unabantwana abadala kodwa ukhumbula loo mihla inzima.

Umzali ogxininxiweyo kwaye ukhathele uthi (ngaphandle kokucinga) into enjengoku, Unokuthatha abantwana bam! Awunayo into yokuba unenhlanhla.

Oku kubuhlungu kumntu ongenamntwana ngenxa yokuba uyayichaza njengoko omnye umntu engayithobeli intsikelelo abanayo. Kwakhona yindlela yokugxotha intlungu yomntu ongathethiyo. Kubonisa ukuba ukungabikho kobubele akuyona into embi njengoko bacinga ukuba kunjalo.

Okwangoku, umzali uthi le nto (engafanelekanga) kwingxelo kuba abazali bazinzima kakhulu , kodwa abakwazi ukuthetha ngento enjalo nabantu ngqo. Ngoko iphuma kwiimeko ezinzima ezifana nale.

Ezi mpendulo zikhokelela ekuthuleni okungakumbi.

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Iimfihlakalo zokuqala zokukhulelwa zikhokelela ekulahlekeni koMzimba oMfihlakeleyo

Esinye sezizathu eziphambili abantu abazithethi malunga nokukhulelwa kwangaphambili kukuba akukho mntu uthetha malunga nokukhulelwa kwangaphambili. Awukho "ufanele uxelele abantu.

Kubonakala kubakho umthetho ongabhalwa phantsi ukuba awukwazi ukuxelela abantu abakhulelwe de ubuncinane semester yesibili.

Kufuneka uhlanganyele, kwaye unokufumana izibhengezo kunye nezigwebo:

• Oo, kuyinhlanhla ukuxelela abantu! Musa ukuxelela mntu.
• TMI. Ulwazi oluninzi. Musa ukuxelela abantu ukhulelwe ukuba wonke umntu abone ukuba ukhulelwe nje ngokujonga.
• Othandekayo, ukuba uthetha abantu, kwaye ulahlekelwa ukukhulelwa, kufuneka uxelele wonke umntu malunga nokulahleka.

Ukuba awufuni ukwabelana ngeendaba zokukhulelwa kwakho kwasekuqaleni, oko kuyamkeleka ngokupheleleyo. Abantu bafanele bahlonele eso sigqibo.

• Ngakanani na Indlela Yokuxelela Abantu Ngaba Ukhulelwe Emva kokungabi Namaqondo

Ngaloo nto uthe, ukuba ufuna ukwabelana, akufanele uhlazeke kwaye uloyike.

Ekugqibeleni ndihlolisise, ukwabelana ngeendaba zakho zokukhulelwa kweendaba akuyikuphakamisa umngcipheko wokufumana isisu.

Kwaye kutheni kufuneka ukwabelana ngokukhulelwa kwangaphambili kuthathelwe ingqalelo kwi-TMI ngaphezu kokuxelela iindaba malunga nokukhulelwa kamva? (Ndiyabuza ukuba abantu bayayiqwalasela i-TMI ukuba ukukhulelwa emva koko kwakungabonakali kubantu abangaphandle.

Ngokuphathelele umngcipheko wokulahlekelwa ngumntwana, kwaye ufuna ukuxelela abantu olahlekelwe ngumntwana emva koko, yintoni ephosakeleyo ngayo?

Ewe, kuya kuba buhlungu. Kodwa ubuncinane awuyi kulila ilahleko yedwa. Ukulahlekelwa kwakho akuyi kubonwa. Ngendlela engcono kunokuba ubandezeleke.

Awudingi ukuhlupheka ngenxa yokuthula.

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Iingcamango ezingabonakaliyo kunye nokutshatyalaliswa kwabantu

Kukho inkcazelo engafanelekanga apho egalela ukuthulisa kunye neentloni.

Ingcaciso engafaniyo ikhona kumacala omabini, nabo-abo bathathaka ngokukhawuleza kunye nabo banokuva amabali ethu.

Ezinye iinkolelo ezikhokelela ekuthuleni kunye nokungabi ncedi ziquka:

• Ukungabikho kokusweleka nokuphulukana nokulahlekelwa yile mpazamo yowesifazane. Into eyenzayo ibangela ezi ngxaki.
• Ukungenanto kuyinkathazo kuphela kubafazi "abahamba phambili" abalinde "ixesha elide" lokuba nabantwana.
• Ukungabikho nto yinkinga yowesifazane.
• Ukhuseleko luyodwa ingxaki kubafazi abatshatileyo .
• Ulawulo lokuzalwa lubangelwa ukungabikho komzimba nokuphuphuma kwesisu.
• Abantu abanezityalo ezinobuncwane banokuthandwa. Abantu abangenasiphelo baxabisa ngaphantsi.
• Ukutshatyalaliswa komtshato kuyisijeziso esivela kuThixo.
• Ukungabi naluphi na isihlwayo esivela kuThixo.
• Indoda engenako ukunyusa umfazi wayo ibuthathaka kwaye ingaphantsi kwamadoda.
• Ibhinqa elingenako ukukhulelwa okanye ukubambelela ekukhulelwe lingaphantsi kwesifazana.
• Ukungabi nantoni kubangelwa ukungakwazi ukulala ngesondo.
• Intlungu ngenxa yokukhulelwa kwangaphambili akuqhelekanga. Kufuneka "ufumane ngaphaya kwayo."
• Ukungabi naluphi uhlobo lokuphila "ingxaki" - kungekhona isifo.
• Akukho mntu ufuna ukuva ubunzima bakho okanye ibali lokushiyeka.

Ngaloo ndlela sonke siyacaca - akukho nto ingentla iyenyani.

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Phuma Phandle uze Uphule Ukuthula

Ihlazo nokuthula kungaphila kwiindawo ezimnyama. Kufana nokubunjwa. Iyakhula xa ifihlakele ekukhanyeni.

Ixesha lethu siphulaphulisa ukuthula nokungabikho komzimba. Ixesha lethu siyeke ukuva neentloni ngeengxaki zezokwelapha esingaziphethe kakuhle.

Qala ukuthetha ngokusweleka nokukhulelwa komzimba. Yabelana ngamava akho.

Yabelana nabo nangona ukungafumaneki kwakho kunye nokulahleka kokukhulelwa kwenzeka kwiminyaka edlulileyo. Enyanisweni, belana nabo ngokukhethekileyo-ke usendaweni enamandla ukuxelela ibali lakho kunezo ezinzima.

Ukuba abantu bayasabela kakubi xa wabelana (kwaye abanye baya kuba), baxelele ngenyameko ukuba kutheni okuthethwa ngabo kukulimaza okanye akunjalo. Batshele oko bangathethayo. Bancede.

Ukuxelela ibali lakho liza kunceda wonk

Ukuxelela amabali ethu sixhobo sethu esinamandla esinalo malunga neentloni kunye nehlazo lokungabikho komntwana kunye nokukhulelwa komzimba.

Oluthe xaxa xa uthetha malunga nokungazinzi:

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• Izizathu Awufanele Uze Uzibuze, "Uya Kuba Nini Xa Unabantwana?"

_Imithombo:

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