Kutheni ukuxelela wonke umntu akusoloko kulula
Ukuba uye wabhekana neengxaki zokungenabantwana okanye unokukhulelwa kwangoku, unokuziva unento engathandekiyo ngokumemezela ukuba ekugqibeleni ukhulelwe. Nangona inxalenye yakho ifuna ukwabelana ngeendaba-ukugubha uvuyo kunye nabahlobo nabathandekayo-enye inxalenye inokubamba.
Ezi ntlobo zeemvakalelo ziqhelekileyo. Ngeendlela ezininzi, ubuye uhlala kwiintente zengqondo, ujongene nemingeni kunye nokudumala okuye kwancipha kancinci kwintembelo yakho kunye nokuqiniseka ngokuqinisekileyo.
Nangona ekugqibeleni ufezekisile oko ukulangazelela, usenokuba ungathandabuzeki kwaye ukwesaba awukwazi ukususa ngokupheleleyo.
Musa ukuzibetha malunga nale nto. Yamkela iimvakalelo zakho uze uthathe ixesha ukuhlola apho ezi zivakalelo zivela khona. Ngokwenza njalo, unokuqala ukulinganisela izibonelelo kunye nemiphumo yokuxelela iindaba kwaye ekugqibeleni ufumane indlela yokwenza njalo.
Iziphumo zokuphula iindaba
Ngelixa libonakala libuyiselwa ukuba likhangele phambili, ngokuqhelekileyo le mvakalelo ekubambelayo. Enye yeengongoma ezisemgangathweni abaninzi abafazi banokuba ngaba baya kuhlangabezana nokunye ukudumazeka okuhambela phambili.
Emva kwakho konke, ukuhamba ngokusweleka komzimba kanye kunzima. Kodwa inxalenye yento eyenza kube nzima kakhulu ukuxelela abanye oko kwenzekayo , ukubona ukuphendula kwabo, kunye nokuba yindawo enokuba yenze ukuba uzive ungakumbi kunokuba ungcono.
Kuyafana nokuba uzama ukukhulelwa kwaye uye wanyamezela imibuzo engapheliyo "xa sinokulindela i-patter yeenyawo ezincinane" okanye sibone ukudumala ebusweni babantu (kubandakanye neqabane lakho) xa kuphinda kuhlolwe olunye uvavanyo lokukhulelwa ezimbi .
Ngaba ngokwenene ufuna ukuhamba kwakhona?
Izizathu Unokuba Ufuna Ukuzama
Ukuba ujongene nalezi ntlobo zeengxaki, zama ukutshintsha ingqalelo encinane kwaye ujonge abo bantu bancede kwaye banako ukukunika inkxaso ngenkxaso yakho. Xa usenza isigqibo sokuphula iindaba, uya kulungiswa ukuqala ngala bantu kuqala.
Baya kuba banakho ukuqonda ukukhupha kwakho kwaye bahloniphe ukhetho lwakho.
Into ongayifunayo ngumntu oza kukuxelela indlela ovakalelwa ngayo okanye ubunjani bakhe ukuba bathathe. ("Musani ukungafihlisi. Kufuneka uvuyiswe! Abantu bafanelwe ukuba bazi!")
Kwakhona kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ininzi yabasetyhini abafumana ukukhulelwa kokuqala kuya kubakho ukuhambisa umntwana ophilileyo ngokufanelekileyo okwesibini . Ekugqibeleni, ukuphuphuma kwesisu akuqhelekanga njengokuba abanye bakholelwa. Enyanisweni, inani elinama-25 ekhulwini labasetyhini abakhulelweyo baya kulahlwa yilahleko, ngokuqhelekileyo kwiiveki ezi-12 zokuqala.
Izizathu Zokuba Unokufuna Ukuzibuyisela
Kwamanye amabhinqa, iimpendulo zingahle zinyulwe kwaye zome. Ukuba unesifo esiphathekayo okanye unempilo yonyango ebeka ukukhulelwa kwakho engozini enkulu, ukukhulelwa kungabonakala njengesinyathelo sokuqala kwinkqubo engaqinisekanga.
Inyaniso kukuba ukuphazamiseka okuthile, njenge- polycystic ovary syndrome (i-PCOS) kunye ne- endometriosis , yifaka ibhinqa kwindawo eyingozi kakhulu yokukhulelwa kwesisu. Ukuba ubhekane nalezi zinyani, ukwabelana ngeendaba kungaba yinto yokugqibela engqondweni yakho.
Ukuba uziva unobungozi kwaye unzima ukujamelana nayo, unokufuna ukusebenza kunye neengcali zakho zokuzala kwaye ugxininise kwisicwangciso sakho sokuqala.
Ukwenza oko kunokukunika umgaqo wokulawula kunye nokuzimela ozidingayo ukujongana kangcono noxinzelelo lwangaphandle.
Unokwenza isigqibo sokuba nini na ngubani oza kuxela ngokukhulelwa, ngokufanelekileyo abo baqonda kakuhle imingeni kwaye banako ukunikela inkxaso yangempela.
Indlela yokwabelana ngeendaba
Nangona kukho ukhetho oluninzi ongayenza, into enye ongayifuni ukuyenza yedwa. Musa ukuthobela ixabiso lentlawulo. Abantu bafuna ukukunceda xa ubavumela kwaye baya kuhlazeka xa ubagcina emkhatsini wengalo.
Kwaye, makhe sijamelane nayo, ekugqibeleni kuya kuba nexesha apho wonke umntu uya kukwazi ukuba ukhulelwe.
Ngoko kungcono ukwenza isicwangciso kwangaphambili ukwenzela ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho nizokwabelana ngeendaba, kungekhona abanye. Ngale ndlela, uhlala ulawulwa kwaye awunakunyanzelwa ukuba unqande izinto ezininzi eziza kuthathwa njengeendaba ezilungileyo.
Isicwangciso esisodwa esinokukunceda ibhulo lokukhulelwa. Ikuvumela ukuba umeme abantu osapho kunye nabathandekayo ukuba bajoyine kwaye, ngexesha elifanayo, kunikezela iqonga lokuchaza into eyenzekayo, indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo, kwaye kutheni unokuba uzimisele ukulibazisa isaziso kuze kube ngoku.
Ukuba wenza njalo, ke, zama ukugcina ithoni. Into yokugqibela oyifunayo kukuba abantu baze bathuthuke ngenxa yokwesaba xa bacinga into engalunganga okanye ukuba uyayinqanda into ethile. Ngaphezu koko, qiniseka ukugcina abantu bahlaziywa njengoko ukhulelwe.
Ngokuthatha imali kunye nokugcina wonke umntu kwi-loop, unokuphephelela iingxaki ezingathandekiyo zengqondo kwaye ugxile kwizinto ezibalulekileyo: ukukhulelwa kwakho.
> Umthombo:
> Ikholeji yase-American ye-Obstetrics kunye neGynecology. " Ukulahlekelwa Ngaphambi kokukhulelwa kwangaphambili ." Yenza i-Bulletin. Meyi 2015; 15: 1-10.