Ukungenzi nto kunye nokuxinezeleka kuhamba rhoqo. Ngoxa ungeke umangaliswe ukuva ukuba ukungabikho kwintsholongwane kunokukhokelela ekudakaleni, ungazi ukuba abantu abajamelana nokudakumba banokuthi babe neengxaki zokuzala.
Usenokumangaliswa nokufunda ukuba ukudakumba ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwaye emva kokukhulelwa (ukudandatheka kwangemva kokubeleka) kuqhelekileyo kubasetyhini ababenzima ukuzama ukukhulelwa.
Kodwa ngenxa yokuba uxinzelelo luqhelekile phakathi kokuvelisa inselele, oku akuthethi ukuba umele uyityeshele okanye uyiphumelele ukuyiphatha.
Ukwahluke phakathi koxinzelelo kunye nosizi oluqhelekileyo
Kuqhelekile ukuba uzive ubuhlungu xa ujongana nokungabikho komntwana .
Unokuthi udibane ne-blues xa ixesha lakho lifika , xa uvavanyo lokuvuna lubuya ngeendaba ezimbi xa unyango luphela, okanye xa uxilongwa ngokungafumaneki.
Unokuziva uxhala xa ukhunjulwa ngemizabalazo yakho yokuzala, njengokuba umhlobo uphosa umbane okanye udade wakho unomntwana wesine .
Omnye umehluko phakathi kokudakumba kunye nokudandatheka kukuxhalaba emva kwexesha elithile, ngelixa uxinzelelo ludla, luquka ezinye iimpawu, kwaye luphazamise ubomi bakho .
Ngaba kunzulu ukuxinezeleka kuxhomekeke kwindlela echaphazela ngayo ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla.
Izimpawu zokudakumba ziquka:
- Intlungu ehlala iiveki okanye iinyanga.
- Imiva yokungathembeki kunye nokungenakunceda.
- Ukukhala rhoqo okanye ukuphazamisa.
- Ngokusoloko esicatshukiswa okanye enganyaniseki kwabanye abantu, ngokukodwa abantu oye waba nandipha.
- Ukungabi nokhuthazo, ukuzama ukufumana umsebenzi eofisini okanye malunga nekhaya.
- Ubunzima bokulala, okanye ukulala kakhulu okanye ukuhluleka ukulala kakuhle (ukungakwazi ukulala).
- Ubunzima ngokutya, ukutya ngokutya okanye ukufumana ukutya okuncinci.
- Ukulwa nokufumana ulonwabo ebomini, kubandakanywa nomdla ophantsi kwisini.
- Ukuvakalelwa rhoqo okanye uxhalabele.
- Iingcamango zokufa, ukuzilimaza, okanye ukuzibulala. (Ukuba ucinga ngokuthatha ubomi bakho, nceda ufumane uncedo ngokukhawuleza.)
Ukuba into ojongene nayo ibonakala ngathi "nje i-blues," kwaye ingagxininiswa ngokupheleleyo, musa ukukuyeka ukufuna uncedo.
Izinto ezininzi ezibanceda abanokudakumba, njengengcebiso, amaqela enkxaso, kunye neengqondo zomzimba, kunokuncedisa ne-blues yokungabikho.
Yintoni Ebangelwa Ukuxinezeleka Okuhlobene Nezifo?
Ukungabi naluphi uhlobo oluxinzelelekileyo , olunefuthe elinamandla kubomi bakho bobulili , ubudlelwane, ukuvakalelwa, kunye nobomi bemihla ngemihla.
Phakathi kokuvavanywa kunye nokunyanga, ukungabikho kwengqondo kunokuthi uzive ngathi lube ngumphefumlo wakho wonke, njengoko uhamba uye kwiindawo zokunyulwa kwamagqirha.
Yonke ingcinezelo inokuba negalelo ekuphuhliseni ukudandatheka.
Uxinzelelo luyinto eqhelekileyo phakathi kobunzima obunzima ukuba ngubani onentsapho yembandezelo yokuxinezeleka, oye wahlangabezana nokudandatheka ngaphambi kokulwa kwabo, okanye abo abanakho uxhumo lwenethiwekhi.
Ukungabi nantoni kaninzi kubangele ukuba neentloni , ezenza kube nzima ukuthetha nabahlobo kunye nosapho malunga neengxaki zakho.
Ukuzihlukanisa kwenza ukuba ucinezeleke ngakumbi.
Ezinye ukungalingani kwe-hormonal ezibangelwa ukungabikho kwintlungu zingabangela nefuthe kwiimpawu zengqondo kunye nokuxhatshazwa kwengcinezelo.
Qinisekisa ukuba uthethe oogqirha ukuba uziva naziphi na iimvakalelo zengqondo ephantsi, njengoko kunokubanceda bahlolisise ukungabikho kwengqondo kwaye uphathe unonophelo lwakho jikelele.
Ngaba Ukudandatheka Kungabangela Ukungabikho?
Akukho mntu uyazi ngokucacileyo ukuba ukudandatheka kungabangela ukungabikho komsebenzi, nangona uphando oluthile lufumene ukulungelelaniswa phakathi kokudakumba nokukhula kwezinga lokungabikho.
Abanye bathi le nto ingaba ngenxa yokugqithiswa kweminye yemiba ye-hormonal echaphazelekayo kwiimeko zombini.
Kwakhona, ukudakumba kunokukhokelela kwimikhwa yokuphila engachaphazela kakubi ukuzala kwakho.
Ngokomzekelo, ukudandatheka kukubangela ukutya ngokutya okanye ukungabi nxilweni, kwaye ukugqithisa ngokweqile okanye ukungaphantsi komzimba kungabangela ukungabikho.
Abantu abadandathekileyo banokuthi bashiye okanye baphuze , oku kunokukulimaza ukuzala kwakho.
Ngaba Ukukhulelwa Kuza Kuphilisa Uxinzelelo?
Ukuba kungabikho ukukhulelwa kubangela ukudandatheka, kubonakala kunengqiqo ukucinga ukuba ekugqibeleni ukufumana ukukhulelwa kuya kuphazamisa ukudandatheka.
Nangona kunjalo, oku akusoloko kunjalo.
Enyanisweni, abo baye bafumana ukungabikho kwengqondo banokuziva bazive bexinezelekile ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwaye banomngcipheko ophezulu wokuxinezeleka kwangemva kokubeleka.
Ukuba Andizange Ndibe Nomntwana, Ngaba Ndiza Kuziva Ndixhalabile?
Ukungaphumeleli ukukhulelwa, okanye ukungaphumeleli kuba nabantwana ngokuthotyelwa okanye ezinye iindlela, akuthethi ukuba uya kuziva ucinezelekile ubomi bakho bonke. Kunokwenzeka ukufumana ulonwabo ebomini kwakhona.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uxinzelelo luye lwabamba, akunakwenzeka ukuba isombulule.
Abaphandi baye bafumanisa ukuba emva kokuhluleka kwe-IVF, isibini esithile sasihlala sibuhlungu ukuya kwiminyaka emithathu kamva. Ukucebisa kunokukunceda ukuba ufikelele kwinkqubo yokulila kwaye ubuyisele ubomi bakho emva kokungapheli.
Indlela Yokuziva Ulunge
Ezinye izibini zitshitshisa ukufumana unyango lokudakumba, ukucinga ukuba izidandlululo azikwazi ukuthathwa xa zizama ukukhulelwa.
Ngelixa ezinye izidakamizwa ezichaphazelekayo zingonakalisa kakubi ukuzala kwakho, akuzona zonke iziyobisi ezizenzayo. Enyanisweni, uphando oluthile lufumene ukuba ukunyamezela ukuxinezeleka kunye nokuxiliswa komzimba kunye kunye nokuxinzezeleka kwengqondo kunye kunye nokuphumelela kokukhulelwa.
Oko kwathiwa, ngenxa yokudakumba okukhulu, imishanguzo yokuxhatshazwayo yinto enye yeendlela ezininzi zokonyango. Uxinzelelo luyakwazi unyango lwentetho , amaqela enkxaso kunye neengqondo zomzimba .
Qiniseka ukuba uthetha ugqirha wakho ukuba unobandezeleko xa ufumana ukungabi nantoni. Iikliniki ezininzi zokuzala zihlinzeka ngamacebiso okanye amaqela enkxaso.
Ugqirha wakho wokuzala unokukwazi ukulungelelanisa imishanguzo yakho yokuzala, ukunikezela okuncinci ukuphazamiseka kwemiba, kuba iziyobisi zonyango zingenza ngcono ukudandatheka kwaye kubangele ukuguquka kwemizwelo.
Ukuba unyango lwexinzelelo luyadingeka, ugqirha wakho wokubeletha kunye nesifo sengqondo kufuneka usebenze kunye ekuncedeni ukuba wenze isigqibo sokufumana unyango olukhuselekileyo kunye nolona lusebenzayo xa uzama ukukhulelwa.
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