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Ukuzama ukukhulelwa ngesondo kunokuzonwabisa kwaye kuvuya ... ekuqaleni. Kodwa njengoko iinyanga okanye iminyaka ihamba, ubulili buya kuba ngumthombo wokukhungatheka nokuxinezeleka. Uphando lufumene ukuba izibini ezininzi zithandana nesondo kunye nokungabikho komntwana .
Unokuphucula njani ubomi bakho besondo xa uzama ukukhulelwa?
Akukho zimpendulo ezilula. Unokuziva udidekile xa ufunda izixhobo zobulumko ezifana "uqhubeke neminye imihla kunye" okanye "ucoce ngesondo kunye namakhandlela."
Ewe, kukho indawo yale ndlela. Nangona kunjalo, akusoloko kulula. Intlungu yokungabikho kwengqondo ingaba yinkangala. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukufumana amandla okanye ukuzimisela ukuzama izinto ezintsha kunzima.
Njengoko ufunda ngezi ngcebiso, gcina konke oku engqondweni. Le ngcebiso ayifanelekanga ukunyanzelisa ukuba kunzima kangakanani eli xesha , iqabane lakho, kunye nolwalamano lwakho lwesondo .
Thetha Ngamanye
Izibini ezininzi ezenza umzabalazo wokukhulelwa ...
- kunye neemvakalelo eziphantsi kwe libido
- iingxaki zivusa ngexesha lesondo
- ingxaki yokufikelela kwi-orgasm
Abanye banokuqala ukuxhalaba ngesondo. Unokungabaza ukuba ngaba iqabane lakho liya kuba nomdla "kumnandi wokulala" ukuba intonga ye-ovulation yayingabonisi ukuba ixesha lilungile.
Nangona abaninzi abantu beva ezi zinto, baninzi abakhulumi ngabo.
Kunoko, bayigcina yonke ibhotile ngaphakathi. Oku kuqinisa iimvakalelo zokuzihlalisa, ukuhlazeka kunye nentukuthelo.
Akulula, kodwa kubalulekile ukuthetha omnye nomnye.
Xoxa malunga nendlela ozivakalelwa ngayo ngesondo, oko kwenzeka ntoni ngengqondo yakho, kwaye kukubangela ntoni inkathazo.
Mhlawumbi kunzima nakakhulu, kufuneka uphulaphule.
Ukuba iqabane lakho likuxelela ukuba isondo sele sibe ngumsebenzi okanye umthwalo, yiva oko bathethayo. Ungazicingeli ngokuzenzekelayo kukuhlaselwa kwakho.
Ulapha kunye kunye.
Kuphela kunye unokufumana indlela yokuhlangabezana nayo.
Yenza ihlazo
Ukungenanto kunokuvelisa iimvakalelo ezihlazo kubayeni nabasetyhini. Kuqhelekileyo ukuxilongwa ukuba ushiye ibhinqa eziva 'yonakaliswe' okanye "njengento encinane yowesifazane." Amadoda angenasifo angenza ingxelo ngokuthi "ungaphantsi komntu."
Nangona ubukade uvakalelwa kwaye ukhangelekile ngaphambili, ukungazinzi kunokutshintsha indlela ozibona ngayo.
Ukuvavanywa kunye nokunyangwa kokungabikho kwengqondo kunokuvelisa iimvakalelo. Unokuqala ukuziva ngathi uqokelelo lweengxenye, abanye basebenzayo kunye nabanye bengabikho, konke kuxhomekeke kuvavanyo.
Enye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokulwa neentloni kukuzisa iimvakalelo zakho zokungafaneleki.
Ihlazo lifana nokubunjwa. Yigcine kwindawo emnyama kwaye iya kukhula. Yithathe ilanga nomoya omtsha, kwaye ayiyi kukhula ngokukhawuleza.
Ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho ezihlazo kuya kunceda. Qiniseka ukuba ukhetha umntu ocinga ukuba unokukunika indlebe enomdla. (Oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka bafumane ukungabikho komntwana.)
Thetha kumhlobo. Thetha kumgqirha. Thetha nomlingane wakho.
Ukumemeza ngokuzwakalayo ukuba uzive ungathandeki okanye uvakalise ukukhathazeka kwakho ukuba iqabane lakho likushiye "indoda yangempela" okanye "umfazi wokwenene" unokusongela. Kodwa ukuthatha ihlazo kwindawo evulekile yindlela efanelekileyo yokuyibulala.
Izinto eziphambili
Hayi, ukukhanyisa ezinye iibhola kunye nokudlala umculo ococekileyo akuyi kuhlamba yonke intlungu engabonakaliyo ebangele ubomi bakho. Nangona kunjalo, kunokukunceda. Kancinci.
Kufana nokwenza utyumke xa uziva ubi. Uqinisekile ukuba akuyi kunceda nonke. Kodwa xa unika uzame, uyamangaliswa yindlela engcono ngayo.
Ngokukodwa xa ugqirha wakho "wanike" ngesondo kwiintsuku ezithile, ukugxotha izinto kungase kube yindlela efanelekileyo yokulwa neengxaki zokuvusa.
Kunganokwandisa amathuba akho okufumana impumelelo yokukhulelwa.
Uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba amadoda avelisa ngaphezulu kwesidoda emva kokukhangela imifanekiso emihle kwaye xa uvakalelwa ngakumbi.
Abasetyhini abavusayo ngokwesondo banokuthi banamanzi amaninzi emzimbeni , okuya kunceda ukuthutha isidoda kwindawo efanelekileyo.
Kukho uphando nokuba uthi i- orgasm yowesibini inokunceda ekukhulelwe .
Sebenzisa i-Fertility-Friendly Lubricants
Uxinzelelo kunye nokuxhalaba ngesondo ngokukhulelwa kunokuphazamisa ukuvusa. Kubafazi, oku kuthetha ukungazi "umanzi" okanye ungabi namanzi athile ngexesha lesondo. Oku kunokwenza ubulili bubuhlungu .
Ngokuqhelekileyo iiblue on the market is a good to try pregnancy. Abaninzi babo ba bulala okanye bavimbela ukunyakaza kwesidoda , nangaphandle kokungabonakali kwemithi.
Nangona kunjalo, loo nto ayithethi ukuba ufanele uhlupheke ngenxa yesini esibuhlungu.
Kukho iimbumba ezinobuncwane ezinobuncwane obufumanekayo.
Ukuba usoloko unenkathazo ngokuphuma kwamanzi, khuluma nogqirha wakho. Ingaba ngumqondiso wokungalingani kwe-hormonal. Ingcaciso inokumnceda ukuba aphathe ukungafumaneki.
Ugqirha wakho unokukwazi ukunika i-estrogen. Oku kunokukunceda ukwandisa umkhuhlane wesibeleko .
Ukulahla ukugxila kwi-Ovulation and Timing
Nangona ungekho phakathi kwonyango , kwaye ugqirha wakho akakunikanga ukuba ulale ngesondo ngosuku oluthile, kungcono kakhulu ukuyeka ukuxela kwangaphambili .
Ukuzama ukulala ngesini kwiintsuku ezivumileyo kuyindlela efanelekileyo yokukhulelwa ngokukhawuleza . Kodwa ukuba ukubulala ubuhlobo bakho bezesondo, akufanelekile.
Endaweni yoko, zama ukulala ngesibini ukuya kweyesithathu ngeveki, kungakhathaliseki ukuba usuku lwakho lokuvuthwa . Ukuba ufuna ukufumana "ukhuselekileyo," ulale ngesondo ubuncinane kathathu ngeveki, mhlawumbi amaxesha amane.
Uvumelekile ukuba ulala ngesinye seentsuku zakho ezivundileyo, nangona akusiyo imini yakho evulekileyo.
Ngaphezu koko, ukulala ngesondo kaninzi kunokunyusa amathuba akho. I-Sperm iphilile xa isondo senzeke rhoqo.
Enye ibhonasi, ukuba isondo ngexesha lokukhulelwa liyakucima kwaye kukugxininise, ungonwabela ngesondo xa ungacwangciswanga kuphela kwintsana.
Hlola Ulwabelana Ngezesondo Ngaphandle Kwezondo Zokulala
Ukuzama ukukhulelwa kunokusenza sikhohlwe ukuba isondo singaphezu kokulala kwesondo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ufuna ukulala ngesondo ukuze ukhulelwe. (Ukucinga ukuba awunayo unyango lwe- IUI okanye i- IVF , okanye uzama ukusabalalisa ekhaya .) Kodwa kukho ezinye iindlela ezithandekayo zokubonisa uthando nothando.
Ukuthatha ixesha lokuzonwabisa okungekho ekukhombiseni ukukhulelwa kunokubonelela ngesithenxiso sokunwabelana ngesondo esingabandakanyekanga ngokusenza abantwana.
Ukwabelana ngesondo xa Ungeke ukwazi ukukhulelwa
Enye indlela yokubuyisa umxhwele kunye nokuzonwabisa kukuba ngenjongo yokulala ngesondo xa ungenayo i-ovulating .
Ngexesha leveki ezimbini zokulinda , okanye phambi kweentsuku zakho ezivundileyo ekuqaleni komjikelezo wakho, ungazi ukuba isondo asiyi kuhokela umntwana. Kukho uxinzelelo oluncinci kwaye uzibuza ukuba "le nto iya kusebenza."
Iyakwazi ukuphulukisa iimvakalelo phakathi kwamaqabane ukuba umntu uyazibuza ukuba bacela ukulala ngesondo ukuze bafumane ukukhulelwa.
Jonga i-Therapist
Awudingi ukuhamba kule nto yodwa. Kukho abacebisi abaqeqeshwe ngokukodwa ukukunceda ukujamelana noxinzelelo lokungapheli . Banokukunceda wena kunye neqabane lakho ukuba niphumelele ngeli xesha elinzima.
Kukho neengcali zezocansi, abantu abaqeqeshwe ukukunceda ngobudlelwane bakho bezesondo. Zama ukufumana umntu onamava asebenza kunye nezibini ezicelwe ngumngeni, ngoko awufumani ngengozi umntu ekunike iingcamango zobuxoki.
(Ukuba bakuxelela ukuba ulwalamano lwakho lwezesondo luyimbangela yokungasebenzi kwakho, umzekelo, fumana omnye umntu.)
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