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Ukuba uzama ukukhulelwa ixesha elithile, mhlawumbi awukho mva kwiimvavanyo zokukhulelwa ezimbi . Unokucinga ukuba uza kuba nokunyamezela kwabo emva kwexeshana, kwaye nangona abanye abantu bekwenza, baninzi bafumana ubunzima bokulandelelana. Xa uvavanyo lokukhulelwa lungalunganga emva kokuba unyango lwenzala , ukudumala kukukhulu.
Ukujongana neengxaki zokuvalelwa - uxhala lokuba mhlawumbi unokukhulelwa, ukudabuka okucinga ukuba awukho - kunzima.
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Ngaba Iphutha Kwithemba Ngaba Usenokuba Ukhulelwe?
Umzuzu wokuqala emva kokuvavanya ukukhulelwa okungathandekiyo ngokuqhelekileyo kuvelisa ukunyuka okufutshane esifubeni, kodwa umzuzu wesibili unokubandakanya ingcamango ethembekileyo-mhlawumbi unokuba ukhulelwe. Unokufumana le themba xa ixesha lakho lifika. Mhlawumbi, mhlawumbi, lo vavanyo okanye ixesha liwukhuhlane.
Kuyinyaniso ukuba uvavanyo lokukhulelwa olubi alukuthathi ngokuzenzekelayo ekusebenzeni kwaloo mjikelo. Ezinye izinto zandisa amathuba onokuthi ukhulelwe:
Ixesha lakho lisekupheleni kwexesha : Ukuba unexesha lakho, akunakwenzeka ukuba ukhulelwe. Kwenzeka, kodwa kunqabile. Ukuba awuzange ufumane ixesha lakho, kukho ithuba lokuhlala ukhulelwe. Ukuba iiveki ihamba, ixesha lakho alifiki, kwaye iimvavanyo zakho zokukhulelwa zisengalunganga, unokufuna ukubiza udokotela wakho.
Uqalise ukuvavanya kwangaphambili : Kwasekuseni, anditsho ukuba iintsuku ezintathu ngaphambi kokuba ixesha lakho lifanele.
(Ukuba uthe wuthatha okokuqala, mpela ungavumi ukuhamba nethemba! Kulungile kakhulu .) Nangona umhla wokulindela unokuqala kakhulu kwiimvavanyo ezininzi. Ukukhulelwa konke kuphakamisa izinga le- hCG (i-hormone yokukhulelwa ukuba iimvavanyo zokukhulelwa zibonwe) ngokungafaniyo. Abanye abesifazana abanako ukufumana umphumo wokuvavanya okulungileyo kuze kube yimini embalwa okanye kwiveki emva kwexesha.
Imijikelezo yakho ayifanelekanga : Ukuba imijikelezo yakho ingavumelekanga , unako ukungazi ngokuqinisekileyo xa ixesha lakho liphelile. Kungenzeka ukuba uqale ukuvavanya kakhulu.
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Ukupheka kwisifuba ekufumaneni uvavanyo lokukhulelwa okungathandabuzekiyo ngokuqhelekileyo kuthatyathwa kwinto eyenzekayo okwangoku. Ukubona umgca owodwa wepinki kuneendawo ezimbini. Ukukhala emva kokuvavanya ukukhulelwa okubi kuninzi kuncinci malunga nento eyenzekayo ngoku nangaphezulu malunga nebali elidalileyo malunga nokuba uvavanyo olubi lithetha ntoni.
Wonke umntu udala amabali malunga nento eyenzekayo ebomini bethu, kwaye yinto eqhelekileyo. Umzekelo, ukuba iqabane lakho liza ekhaya ngaphandle kobisi, umcele ukuba athenge, akufanele kube yinto enjalo. Nangona kunjalo, ibali onokuzixelela lona - "Ulibale ngenxa yokuba akhathalele" okanye "Akaze aphulaphule xa ndicela ukuba enze izinto" - yinto eyenza ukhathazeke. Ukwahlula "iimbali" ezivela "kwibali" kunokukunceda usebenze bhetele ngeemeko ezinzima.
Ngoko, xa uvavanyo lokukhulelwa lubi, inyaniso "uvavanyo alubi." Kungenzeka okanye mhlawumbi kungathi loo mjikelezo wehlulekile (okwamanje)! Amabali ongazixelela wona:
Andiyi ku khulelwa. Lo ngowona mkhulu kunzima kakhulu.
Olunye uvavanyo olungalunganga - novavanyo olubi olungama-20 - aluthethi ukuba awusoze wakhulelwa. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba ude uzama, ubuncinci uya kuphumelela ngaphandle kokuncediswa. Kodwa uvavanyo olulodwa aluyilumkiso kule nto.
Unyango aluyi kusebenza kum. Ukuba ukuvavanya kwakho kwakungalunganga emva kokuqala kokuqala okanye kwesibini ukuzama kwonyango oluthile, musa ukukhawuleza ukucinga ukuba lo luphawu lokungaphumeleli kwexesha elizayo. Izilingo ezintathu ukuya kwezine zonyango olunikeziweyo ziyafuneka kakhulu ngaphambi kokuba wazi ukuba unyango luya kusebenza kuwe okanye cha. Nangona oku kuluvavanyo lwakho lwesine, oku akuthethi ukutshintsha unyango okanye ukuguqula ezinye iinkalo zonyango akunakunceda.
Ndiyiphumeleli. Ukufumana uvavanyo lokukhulelwa okungahambi kakuhle kunokusibuyisela ngokukhawuleza kwisikolo samabakala, sivakalelwa ngathi xa sihluleka "ukuvavanya," kuthetha ukuba sihluleka. Olu vavanyo lokukhulelwa olubi alukho uphawu lokubaluleka kwakho njengomntu. Enyanisweni, ukuba ungeze ukhulelwe, akusitsho nto malunga nexabiso lakho.
Andiyi kuba ngumama / ntata. Ukuba, emva kokuvavanya ukukhulelwa okubi, ufumanisa ukuba ucinga ngobomi bakho bonke ngaphandle kokuba uphuphaze umntwana wakho, unobungani obuhle. Khumbula ukuba olu vavanyo olubi lukuthetha ukuba awuyi kuba ngumzali.
Kwakhona khumbula ukuba nangona ukwesaba kwakho kunzima kwaye awukwazi ukukhulelwa okanye ungeke ulandele unyango ukuba ukhulelwe, unokufumana amanye amathuba okuba ngumzali, kuquka ukunakekelwa kwabantwana, ukuthatha umntwana, okanye nokuba nguAunti omhle okanye uMalume ukuba intsapho yakho kunye nabantwana bahlobo. Ukuba kucacile, andihlose ukuxubha ubuhlungu baloo mbono-kunene, kuphazamiseka kakhulu! Kodwa ngexesha elifanayo, kubalulekile ukugcina umbono omkhulu ukhangele kwaye ungavumeli uvavanyo lokukhulelwa-okanye nokuba ukwesaba ukuba awuyi kuba ngumzali we-biological - ubambe zonke izitshixo kubomi bakho bovuyo. Ubomi bakho bubaluleke kakhulu kunoko.
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Ngoko xa uvavanyo lubi, unokwenza ntoni ukuhlangabezana nalo?
Musa ukubuhlungu lo mjikelo xa ungapheli. Ukuba kusekhona ithuba lokuba ukhulelwe (jonga izizathu ezichazwe ngasentla), ungavumeli ukuba olu vavanyo olulodwa lufike kuwe.
Vumela ixesha lokuba uzive uhlungu. Ukubamba intlungu kubangela ukuba kube nzima. Bhala xa ufuna , kwaye uthethe ngeemvakalelo zakho nomhlobo okanye umcebisi.
Ukwahlula izinto ezivela kwibali. Unokufuna ukwenza uluhlu lwamabali ozixelela ngalo ngolu vavanyo olubi. Emva kokuba wenze olo luhlu, bhala phantsi impendulo ekhuthazayo neyengqiqo kula mabali. Yiba nguMcebisi wakho oBulumko. Unokumangaliswa ukuba ubulumko obungakanani ngaphakathi kwakho.
Qala ucinga ngecebo lakho lezenzo elizayo. Ngoko lo mjikelo usuphelile. Yintoni oya kuyenza ngoku? Ukwazi ukuba unesicwangciso senzo, nokuba sisicwangciso esilula kakhulu sokuqhubeka unyango lwakho lwangoku okanye ukuzama ukukhulelwa, kunokunceda. Isicwangciso sakho sinokuthi sithathe inyanga okanye ezimbini ukuzama ukukhulelwa. Ukucinga ngekamva kukunceda ukhumbule oku akusikuphela kwendlela.
Yenza into ejabulisayo kwaye eyahlukileyo ukukhumbuza ingqiqo yakho. Ewe, yenza ixesha lokukhala, kodwa ulandele ngokuwenza ixesha lokuphila kwakhona.