Kuthatha umsebenzi omninzi kubazali ababini ukuba bafike kwindawo apho banokuthi ubudlelwane babo bobuhlobo bobazali buya kuhamba kakuhle. Kwiintsapho ezininzi, kukho indawo enkulu yokuphucula. Esikhundleni sokugxila kwizinto ezingasebenziyo, ke, qaphela into ehamba kakuhle ukuze ukwazi ukugxininisa into enjengomsebenzi wokuxazulula iingxabano zakho zangaphambili. Ezi zilandelayo zibonakalisa izibonakaliso zobungqina bobuhlobo bomzali obunempilo kunye novelisayo. Njengoko uwafunda, qwalasela oko sele kusebenzela yona, kunye nezo ndawo uqinisekile ukuphucula.
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Imida ecacileyoKulula kakhulu ukusebenza ndawonye njengabazali-ntsebenziswano xa ubeka imida kwaye uqaphele oko ulawulayo-noko ungenakho-ngokuphathelele kubantwana bakho nakwakho. Ngokomzekelo, awukwazi ukulawula ukuba yeyiphi imihla yakho yangaphambili, okanye nokuba uyayifaka loo mntu kubantwana bakho (ngaphandle kokuba ibhaliwe kwisivumelwano sakho sokugcina okanye icebo lozali). Kodwa unako ukulawula umzekelo ozibekelayo abantwana bakho xa kufikelele ekujonganeni nokudumala kunye nokuncitshiswa.
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KwiShedyuliUkutshintsha kwexesha lokubazali kunokulawulwa ngakumbi kubo bonke abachaphazelekayo xa ishedyuli ibonisa isiseko esilungelelweyo, kunokuba iffy, "siza kubona" uhlobo lwelungiselelo. Abazali abaye bafikelela kwinqanaba lezonxibelelwano elifanelekileyo bayazi ukuba banokuthembela komnye umzali ukuba agcine izibophelelo zakhe ngaphandle kokuba into engaphezu kweyona nto ifuna ukuguqulwa kwenkqubo.
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Ukuzimisela Ukuba I-FlexibleNangona iprogram iphilile, kubalulekile ukuba uguquguquke. Indlela ephilileyo kukuba njengokuba uhlala kunye nomntu ongathanda ukuba naye abe naye. Nangona ucinga ukuba uncedo olufanayo aluyi kubuyiselwa kuwe, ukubonisa indlela onokuthanda ngayo izinto phakathi kwakho unokusebenza ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokumxelela ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba ilungiselelo langoku alisebenzi okanye alikuthandi.
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Ukunyamekela omnye komnye ukuNakekela abantwanaLo ngowunye uphawu lobudlelwane obuhle bobuhlobo bomzali. Abazali abasebenza ngokubambisana kunye nokusebenzisana njengoko abazali baya kubizana ngaphambi kokushiya abantwana kunye nomntwana. Ezinye iintsapho zibhalela le njongo kwisicwangciso sabo sobuzali, kodwa nokuba uthatha isinyathelo esisesikweni okanye cha, kuyinto eqhelekileyo yokucela ukuba ufune ukuba wakho xa efuna ukuthabatha abantwana kunokubashiya nge-sitter.
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NgokuvisisanayoAbazali ababini baya kuvuma kwisigqibo ngasinye. Nangona kunjalo, abazali abaqabane abasebenzisana kakuhle ngenxa yezingane zabo baye bafikelela kwisiseko esisisiseko semvumelwano kwizinto ezibaluleke kakhulu - njengemiba ephathelene nempilo yabantwana, ukuqeqeshwa , imfundo kunye nokukhuliswa ngokomoya. Kwezinye iimeko, ukusetyenziswa kwesicwangciso esibhaliweyo sabazali kuye kwabanceda abazali-co-parents bafikelela kule nqanaba elifanelekileyo lokunxibelelana.
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Akukho Mzamo wokuPhathaAbazali abanobuhle, ubudlelwane bobuhlobo bomzali obunempilo abazami ukusebenzisana okanye ukulawula ukuthembeka kwabo abantwana. Bayaqonda ukuba abantwana babo kufuneka babe nobudlelwane kunye nabazali bobabini kunye nokuba uthando lwabantwana ngomnye umzali aluyiyo ingozi kubo.
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Ncokola Ngolunye Utshintsho ngeShedyuli zoHleloXa kutshintshwa utshintsho lomzuzu wokugqibela, abazali ababelana ngolwalamano oluhle kunye nabazali benza umgudu wokuthetha omnye komnye kuqala, ngaphambi kokumemezela utshintsho lweeshedyuli kubantwana. Ezinye iintsapho zifumanisa kukunceda ukuquka izikhokelo zokusingatha utshintsho lweeshedyuli kwisicwangciso sabo sobuzali, ngokunjalo.
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Abantwana Babo bacinga ukuba bahlangana ngokuhleNgokuqhelekileyo, abantwana be-co-parents abasebenza kakuhle kunye bakholelwa ukuba abazali babo bahamba. Oku akuthethi ukuba bayavumelana nayo yonke into okanye nokuba bafana njani, kodwa babonisa inhlonipho omnye komnye phambi koonyana babo, kwaye bafunde indlela yokuthetha ngeendlela ezinciphisa ukuxabana.
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Ziyakwazi ukuya kwiZiko leZikolo kunye neZongezelelweyo zeNkcazo ngaphandle koMdaUkungabi nasengxaki yokuya kwiintlanganiso zesikolo, imicimbi yezemidlalo, kunye nezihlandlo xa omnye umzali ekhona, ungomnye uphawu lobudlelwane obudibeneyo bobuzali. Laba bazali bakhetha ukubeka abantwana babo kuqala kunye nexhala malunga nokuba "abanye" bacinga ukugqibela.
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Qaphela iCandelo ngalinye njengeziphumo ezintle kwiBantwana baboAbakwaCoparents ababelana ngolwalamano oluhle bayazi kakuhle ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani bobabini kubantwana babo. Basebenze kanzima ukuze bafikelele kwindawo abaya kusebenza ngayo kakuhle kuba baxabisa ithuba labantwana babo lokuba bazi kwaye bachithe ixesha kunye nomnye umzali, kwaye nangona kunzima ngamanye amaxesha, abayi kuba nayo enye indlela .