Xa uthi, "Awufanele uyenze loo nto," kumntwana osemtsha, impendulo yakho iyakwazi ukudibana ne-eye roll. Ngethuba ixesha abantwana bajika baba yintsholongwane, abakucingi ukuba badinga uncedo oluninzi kubantu abadala-ngakumbi abazali babo.
Kodwa, ngenxa yokuba umntwana wakho akayikuxabisa amazwi akho wobulumko, akuthethi ukuba akufanele ufumane icebiso lakho. Ukugxeka okubalulekileyo kunokubaluleka kwintlalo yakho yentlalo.
Ingane yakho kufuneka ikwazi ukuphucula izakhono zakhe zentlalo. Uya kufuna isikhokelo kumanyathelo angathabatha ukuze abe nempilo. Uya kuyidinga icebiso lakho ngendlela anokuphucula amathuba akhe okuphumelela. Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba ufanele unike ukugxekwa kwakho kwintsha.
Kutheni kubalulekile ukugxeka okuKhuthazayo
Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana wakho akwazi ukuva ukugxeka okwakhiwe ngaphandle kokuzikhusela ngokuzenzekelayo okanye ukuphikisana. Umphathi wakhe wexesha elizayo, ootitshala beekholeji kunye neqabane liyakumnika ukugxeka okukhawulezayo ngezikhathi ezithile. Ukukwazi ukuva loo mazwi-kwaye uyayisebenzisa-kunokumnceda abe ngumntu ongcono.
Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba athathe le ngcebiso, kuya kufuneka avulekele ukuphulaphula. Emva koko, kuya kufuneka ukuba akwazi ukuvavanya loo ngcebiso aze avule ukutshintsha indlela yakhe yokuziphatha.
Njalo xa unikezela ukugxekwa okwenkqayo, uyamnika ithuba lokukhula nokutshintsha. Uya kumnika ithuba lokusebenzisa iimpendulo kwabanye.
Ukuphazamisa ukusebenza kwentsha yakho, nokuba unika ingxelo ngendlela azalise ngayo isicelo sakhe somsebenzi, okanye ukumxelela oko wakuphawula ngexesha lomdlalo wakhe webhola, kubalulekile.
Ukucacisa iimpazamo ngenyameko kunokunceda umntwana wakho abone ukuba iimpazamo akuyonto into ayimele abe neentloni ngazo.
Kunoko, ungayisebenzisa njengethuba lokumbonisa indlela yokubuyisela emuva ekuphumeleleni ngokuguqula iimpazamo zakhe zibe ithuba lokufunda.
Iimpendulo ezakhayo kunye nokubeka imida
Ukuba unika ingxelo eyakhayo, jonga indima yakho njengesikhokelo . Chaza oko umntwana wakho akwenza kakuhle, ngelixa wongeza oko angakwenza ngcono ngexesha elizayo.
Khumbula ukuba ukugxeka okubalulekileyo kukuba uluvo lwakho. Kuhluke ekujonganeni nomgaqo ophukileyo okanye ukuphulwa okukhulu. Kunoko, malunga nokunika ingcebiso malunga nendlela umntwana wakho angayiphucula ngayo.
Ukucetyisa umntwana wakho osemtsha kwihembe lakhe ngaphambi kokuphuma kumdaniso kukugxeka. Ukumgxeka kwakhe ngenxa yokushiya ixesha lokufihla kwakhe ngokuphathelele ukubeka imida.
Qala Ngobudlelwane obuhle
Ngaba uke wamukelwa umgxeka kumphathi ongazihloneliyo? Ngaba uyayikhumbula ixesha lokusukela ebuntwaneni bakho xa umntu omdala ongammangaleli wanikezela ngcebiso?
Ukuba awuzithembi umntu onika ingxelo, awuyi kuphulaphula oko okuthethwa ngumntu lowo. Kunokuba ucinge ngendlela yokufaka ingxelo ngayo ebomini bakho, uza kutyhala amandla akho ukuba ucinge ukuba kutheni le ngcebiso engabalulekanga.
Ngoko ngaphambi kokuba unike ukugxeka kwakho okwenkqayo, qiniseka ukuba unobudlelwane obuhle .
Ukuba umntwana wakho uya kukuhlonipha, uya kuhlonipha uluvo lwakho.
Kodwa nangona ungekho kumgangatho ophezulu, qiniseka ukuba usenomlinganiselo onempilo kwaye ulandele nemiphumo xa kuyimfuneko. Njengoko usebenza ukwakha ulwalamano lwakho, ungaqala ukunikela ingxelo engakumbi malunga nezinto ezincinci.
Jongana nendlela yokuziphatha, kungekhona umntu
Gcina izimvo zakho zigxininise kwinto eyenziwa ngumntwana wakho, kungekhona yena. Ngoko endaweni yokuthi, "Uhlala ugqoka njenge-slob," zama, "Ukugqoka iipadjama zakho ngokugqithiseleyo kuluntu kunokuthumela umyalezo ongafanelekanga kubantu ngendlela ozivakalelwa ngayo."
Khankanya indlela oziphatha ngayo kwaye uxela ukuba kutheni uxhalabele.
Musa ukumhlasela kwaye ungaphepheli ukukhupha ngaphezulu kweyodwa ngethuba.
Yiba nomusa, kodwa ngokuthe ngqo
Melana nokuhlambalaza okanye ukugculela umntwana wakho malunga nokukhetha kwakhe. Ukubonisa inkxalabo yakho ngobubele, kodwa ngendlela ecacileyo.
Ngoko kunokuba ucinge ukuba imbobo yakhe igxininise, yiphakamise phambili malunga nenkxalabo yakho. Unokwenza ububele kunye nobumnene, ngelixa usebenzisa nokuthetha ngokuthe ngqo.
Sebenzisa ithoni yezwi engathathi hlangothi kwaye uzame ukusebenzisa "I" iingxelo kunokuthi "Wena" iingxelo. Esikhundleni sokuthi, "Awukwazi ukulawula umsebenzi wakho wesikolo ngeyure efanelekileyo," uthi, "Ndicinga ukuba kuya kuba yinto efanelekileyo ukuseka ishedyuli ukwenzela ukuba ufumane umsebenzi wakho wesikolo ngaphambili . "
Mamela Ingcamango Yakho Yemntwana
Emva kokuba uvakalise ukukhathazeka kwakho, cela umntwana wakho ukuba abe nembono. Buza imibuzo efana neyo, "Ngaba ucinga ukuba le nto ingaba yingxaki kuwe ngelo xesha?"
Ungamangalisi ukuba umntwana wakho ubona izinto ngendlela efanayo. Iminyaka yakho yobulumko iya kukunika indlela eyahlukileyo kwaye mhlawumbi unokunyanzelisa ukuba awuqondi into efunekayo ukuba ube ngumntwana osehlabathini namhlanje.
Kodwa ukubonisa ukuzimisela ukuphulaphula intombazana yakho inokuhamba ixesha elide ukukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba aphulaphule.
Iingcamango Zokugwema
Ingane yakho iya kuba yinto enokumamela ukugxeka kwakho okwakhayo xa ugwema ezi mpazamo zokunxibelelana eziqhelekileyo:
- Musa ukuthelekisa . Ukuthetha izinto ezinje, "Ufanele wenze umsebenzi wesikolo sakho emva kwesikolo njengomntakwenu," kuya kubakhokelela ekuphenduleni okukhuselekileyo kubantwana bakho. Yiphathe umntwana wakho njengomntu lowo kwaye uphephe ukuzithelekisa ngokungafanelekanga kwabanye abantu.
- Yeka idilesi . Ingaba isisifundo sakho, esiphezulu kwimeko yokuba umntwana wakho uya kukukhangela. Gcina isiluleko sakho siphephe kwaye sisebenze. Izivakalisi ezimbalwa ziya kusebenza kakuhle.
- Gwema ukugxeka kakhulu . Ukuba nomsindo kumntanakho kuya kubangela ukuba ulahlekelwe ukuthembeka.
- Ungasebenzisi iziphakamiso ezingenayo . Kubalulekile ukudumisa umntwana wakho, kodwa ugweme ukusebenzisa iincoma. Ukuthetha izinto ezinje, "Ndivuyisiwe kakhulu ukuba wenze ithala lakho namhlanje. Ukuba kuphela unako ukwenza oko lonke ixesha, "kuya kuphazamisa wakho umntwana.
- Khumbula ukuba kukho enye indlela yokwenza izinto . Musa ukubanjwa ukucinga indlela yakho yindlela efanelekileyo yokuyenza yonke into. Umntwana wakho uya kufumana indlela yakhe yokwenza imisebenzi emininzi kwaye uya kufumana into ebhetele kuyo.
- Musa ukuzibamba . Ukuba umntwana wakho akavisanga icebiso lakho okokuqala, akakwazi ukuphulaphula okwesihlandlo sesibini. Yenza uluvo lwakho luyazi, kodwa ungadli.
Indlela Yokusebenzisana Nezenzo Zakho Zentsha
Kuza kuba ngamaxesha xa wakho umntwana ephendula kwisabelo sakho ngengqumbo. Ingaba utsho ukuba uyaphosisa okanye uthi, "Ndiyamazi umama!" Angena emzabalazweni wamandla .
Ngaphantsi kokuphazamiseka kwakhe kunye nokucatshukiswa kunokuba yintloni okanye intloni. Kwaye unokufuna ixesha elithile ukuzola phambi kokuba ekulungele ukucinga malunga neengcebiso zakho.
Ukungahoyi i-eye roll okanye ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza xa wakho umntwana esithi, "Awuqondi. Akunjalo indlela oku kusebenza ngayo, "ingaba yinto ekhethekileyo.
Emva koko, unokwazi ukulungisa umba kwixesha elizayo. Yithi into enjengaleyo, "Nanini na xa ndikunika icebiso malunga nendlela yokuphucula ukuqhuba kwakho, unyanzela ukuba sele uyazi yonke into endikuxelela yona. Ndixhalabile ukuba awuphulaphuli mna kwaye awuyi kufunda indlela yokuba ngumqhubi ongcono. "
Qaphela ukuba kunzima ukuva ingxelo ngamanye amaxesha. Yithi, "Andiyithandi xa umphathi wam ubonisa iimpazamo zam. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ndiba nomsindo. Kodwa, ukuphulaphula iingcebiso zakhe kunceda ndenze umsebenzi wam bhetele. "
Ukuba umntakwenu uyayiphulaphula, ngethuba elithile, uya kufuneka unqume ukuba ufuna ukunyusa umba okanye uvumele ukuba uhambe. Ukuba kuyinkxalabo enzulu, unokufuna ukufaka imiphumo xa ukuziphatha kwentsha yakho ingatshintshi. Ukuba yinto encinane, kufuneka ufunde indlela yokuhlala nayo.