Ukuba nomntwana ngumsebenzi onzima, kwaye xa ekugqibeleni ubona umntwana wakho okokuqala , mhlawumbi ungacingi ngento ofuna ukuyithetha ngayo umntwana wakho emva kokulinda ixesha elide ukuba ubone umntwana wakho. Ezinye iinkcubeko zineemithandazo ezikhethekileyo ezithethwa ngokukhawuleza emva kokuzalwa okanye okungenani iimvakalelo ezithile ezimele zitshiwo okanye zivezwe.
Xa ndababuza umama kunye nabazali oko bathetha kwintsana yabo xa bebonile, ndineempendulo ezahlukeneyo.
Nazi ezinye ezimbalwa zezinto onokuzithetha kumntwana wakho ekuzalweni:
- Ndiyakuthanda!
- Ndikunqwenelela usuku lokuzalwa!
- Wamkelekile, mncinane.
- Uxolo, umntwana.
- Thetha nam…
- Inkosi ikusikelele.
- Andiyi kukholwa.
- Ndingumama!
- Ufanelekile ukulinda.
- Uyakhula ukuze ube ngummangaliso kangaka!
- Siya kuhlala siyakuthanda.
- Intombazana! / Yinkwenkwe!
- Kwangathi ungafuni nantoni na.
- Ndifuna ukukubamba ngonaphakade.
- Bantwana, ndingumama / ntata wakho. (Kungcono nakwixesha elikhankanywe kwi-Star Wars accent).
- Siyakwamkela kwintsapho yakho yobuqili.
- Ukhohlise kakhulu.
- Ngoko nguwe o ndikhabe ngaphakathi.
- Mholo.
- Umhle.
- Ndikulindele wena.
- Enkosi.
- Si kelela wena, umntwana.
- Andiyi kukholwa!
- Ndinezinto ezininzi zokukuxelela ...
Njengoko ndathi, ezinye iinkonzo zinemithandazo ekhethekileyo ekujoliswe ukuba ixutywe kwindlebe yomntwana ngexesha lokuzalwa. Uninzi lwabafazi kunye noodade bathetha nantoni na engqondweni yabo ngaloo mzuzu. Ingaba ngamava ahambelayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntwana wakho ujoyina njani intsapho yakho, ingaba kuzalwa okanye ukuba umntwana wakho abekwe ezandleni zakho okokuqala emva kokuzalwa.
Abanye oogqirha okanye abancinci banamasiko. Oku kungabandakanya iinqwenelelo ezikhethekileyo kwintsana yakho xa ususa . Abanye abasebenzi abaphefumlelweyo baphanda bonke abantwana xa bezalwa. Omnye ugqirha ndiyazi ukuba uhlabelela u-Birthday Happy ngexesha lokuzalwa. (Ukuba awukwazi kwaye awufuniyo - qi niseka ukuba ubuze.) Ukuba le nto inzwakala ngathi isithethe intsapho yakho ingafuna ukuqala, qwalasela iingoma ezahlukahlukeneyo ofuna ukuzibandakanya.
Ngaba uya kuba nomculo ofanayo kuwo wonke umntwana? Ngaba uya kukhetha ingoma nayo yonke inzala? Mhlawumbi uya kukhetha nantoni na ekushukumisayo kuloo mzuzu.
Le nto ayiyiyo into ekumele yenzeke ngayo malunga nokuba awukwazi ukucinga into efanelekileyo. Uninzi unina kunye nabazali abanalo naluphi na olucwangcisiweyo, bavele balubone njengoko luvela. Emva kokuya kwikhulu lokuzalwa, ndinokuxelela, uya kukwazi ukuba uthethe ntoni kumntwana wakho kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kulula. Landela umntwana wakho ekukholeni kwaye ungakhathazeki.
Ukuba ukucwangcisa oko ufuna ukuthetha kubalulekile, cinga ukubhala phantsi. Ungaphinda ufune ukumisela umntu njengomntu ukuba akukhumbuze ukuba uthethe uluvo lwakho olukhethekileyo, ukuba ufanele ubanjwe ngexesha lokuzalwa uze ulibale.
Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba unokuqhubeka nokuthetha nomntwana wakho. Oku kunene into enhle kuba ukuthetha nomntwana wakho kubancedisa kwaye bafunde iipatheni zentetho, kufana nokufunda umntwana. Nangona ungaqinisekanga ukuba uthetha ntoni, unokwazi ukulivakalisa imini yabo. "Sawu, mntwana! Ndiya kutshintsha i-diaper yakho ngoku." Ithenda yakho kunye nenyaniso othethayo ibaluleke kakhulu.