Umama ngokukhawuleza ufunda ukuqaphela ukukhala kwakhe okuyingane. Kukho ukukhala xa belambile , ukukhala xa bengakhathazeki-nokuba enye xa besaba.
Kwiiyure ezimbalwa zokuba ngumzali, ufunda ukwahlula phakathi kweemva eziza kutsalwa, kwaye kukunceda uphendule ngokufanelekileyo ukunyamekela umntwana wakho. Njengoko kuvela, kukho isizathu sokuba oomama bafunde ngokukhawuleza ukutshintsha isandi somntwana ngamnye-kuba ubunzima boomama balungelelanisa kwinqanaba elisisiseko ekuphenduleni iintsana zabo.
Ngaphakathi kwe-Mother's Brain Xa umntwana ekhala
Kukho uphando oluninzi olwenziweyo olwenziweyo kwinto eyenzeka kubabomi babazali xa umntwana ekhala. Nangona kubonakala ngathi yinkqubo elula-umntwana uyakhala, umama uyasabela-uphando olulodwa kwiNcwadi ye-Neuroendocrinology ichaza ukuba ngokwenene inani elingaqhelekanga lomsebenzi wengqondo kunye neenkqubo ezihambelana nokuvelisa impendulo.
Uphando lwe-2011 luchaze ukuba kukho iindawo ezahlukeneyo zobuchopho obandakanyekayo xa umntwana ekhala. Uhlolisiso luchaze inkqubo yendlela ingqondo yomama "ishintshwe ngayo" ngesandi somntwana okhala. Abaphandi ekuhlolisweni baqwalasela ukuba utshintsho oluninzi olwenzekayo kwingqondo yomama luqala kuqala ngaphambi kokuzalwa, ngexesha lokukhulelwa, kwaye luquka ukwanda okwenziwe kwi-hormone dopamine, encedisa ukucwangcisa ingqondo yakhe kubazali.
Iinkqubo zeHormonal ziphambili
Ngaphandle kwe-dopamine, i-hormone i-oxytocin inendima enkulu ekulawuleni indlela yokuziphatha komama ekuphenduleni umntwana wakhe.
Okokuqala, xa usana lubekwe kwibele, lubangela i-oxytocin ukuba ikhusele ingqondo yakhe kwaye ikhuthaze ukuxhamla, uvelwano kunye namanye ama-hormone "avakalayo" amnceda amise uxhumano olufutshane nengane yakhe.
Uninzi lwezixhobo ze-hormonal zinceda ekudlala indima "kwinkqubo", ngokugqithiseleyo ukukhukula kwengqondo yomama kunye nama-hormone azivalekileyo ekuphenduleni ukunakekela umntwana wakhe.
Indlela yendalo yokuqinisekisa ukuba umama ujabulela ukunyamekela umntwana wakhe!
Wonke Umama Uhlukile
Ucwaningo luka-2011 lufumene ukuba kukho ukungafani nokukhululwa kwe-hormone kunye nolawulo kumama. Ngokomzekelo, oomama ababelethe ngokugqithisileyo babonisa iimpendulo ezininzi zobuchopho kubantwana babo kwiintsuku ezi-2-4 emva kokubeleka kunomama abaye bazalela ngeC-section. Uphando lwafumanisa ukuba oomama abancancisayo babesabela kakhulu kwiqondo lobuchopho kunomama obondla iifom; oko akuthethi ukuba "babengcono" oomama, kodwa kuphela ukuba kukho ukungafani kwe-hormone, mhlawumbi kubalulekile kwimveliso yobisi kunye nomgaqo.
Ingqondo yomama iphinda ikhwephe ngokwayo ukuze iphendule kuphela umntwana wayo; oko kuchaza ukuba kutheni umama angafunda ukukhala kwakhe umntwana, kodwa kungekhona umntwana osegumbini. Ngaba unokucinga ukuba bekuya kwenzeka ntoni xa bonke oomama bebonke bekhenkcela zonke iintsana? Ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba yintlawulo engaphezu kweengqondo ngenxa yobuchopho babo. Esikhundleni sokuvumela oko kwenzeke, ingqondo yomama ihlutha ngokuzenzekelayo ukukhala kwamanye abantwana ukuba bakwazi ukugxila kwedwa.
Ezinye izinto, ezinjengokuthi unina unomxinzelelo oludlulileyo ebomini bakhe, njengentlungu okanye ukugula kwengqondo, kunokubangela ukuphazamiseka kwemimiselo ye-hormonal kunye nokusebenza kwengqondo.
Kwaye izinto ezinjengomama onabanakekeli abaninzi abahlukeneyo njengomntwana ngokwazo zazinxulumene nokuphendula okungaphantsi kunye nomntwana wakhe.
'Ubomi Bomama' Luyinyani
Uphononongo olusandul 'u-2017 lwakutshanje kwiNkcazo yeSizwe seSayensi yeeNzululwazi luqinisekisile ukuba utshintsho olwenzeka kwinqanaba lobuchopho kumama luyinyani kwaye luyenzeka kumama kuwo wonke umhlaba. Utshintsho lwengqondo yomama olwenzekayo ekuphenduleni umntwana olukhalayo luchaphazela inxalenye yengqondo yakhe eyenza ukuba ahambe kwaye athethe, asebenze izandi, kwaye abe ngumnakekeli. Okubalulekileyo, bayamnceda enze zonke izinto eziyimfuneko zokunyamekela usana.
Utshintsho kwingqondo lufunyaniswe ukuba luhluke phakathi kwabasetyhini abanabantwana xa kuthelekiswa nabangenabo abantwana.
Igama elivela kwi-Verywell
Ukukhala komntwana ngokusemthethweni kubonisa enye yezindlela zokuqala umama afunda ngazo ngomntwana wakhe. Ukukhala komntwana kuyindlela yokubonisa umnakekeli walo ukuba udinga uthando kunye nokunakekelwa. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba ukulila isisombululo kuphela sesana sokusinda, ingqondo yomama womntu ineempendulo ezicacileyo kunye nokuphendula ukuva umntwana wakhe ekhala. Ingane yakho inokukuxelela nje ukuba ulambile, kodwa kwinqanaba leengqondo, kukho okungakumbi kunokuba sinokuqonda.
Imithombo
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