Ukuba sele bekhulile abantwana abazimeleyo, nokuba bakhulise iindwendwe zabo, bubangumthombo wokuqhayisa nokufezekiswa kwabazali. Ukuveliswa kwemvelo kwintsapho e-US kukuba abantwana baqaliswe ngempumelelo kwihlabathi, beshiya abazali kwisihlamba sabo esingenanto ngandlela-thile banqabile inkululeko kwaye banandipha inkululeko kwixanduva elininzi abayifumana emva kweminyaka yokuzala.
Nangona kunjalo ukuba uninzi lwabantu baseMerika bahlala kufuphi nabazali babo xa beshiye ikhaya, baninzi abantu abadala abasityalo abangcambu kude nalapho abazali babo bahlala khona. Abaninzi bahlala edolophini apho beya kwikholeji, bakhuphukele phezulu kunye nezixeko ezizayo kunye nezindlu ezinokuhlawulekayo okanye landela intombi okanye intombi apho bakhetha khona ukuqala ubomi babo. Njengokuba ubomi bentsha yabasetyhini bukhula kwaye buguquka, kubandakanya umtshato kunye nosapho, abazali banokucinga ngokuthatha umhlalaphantsi okanye ukufudukela kwiindawo zabo ezincinane.
Ingaba yinto efanelekileyo?
Ngaba Abazali Ngaba Bafanele Bahambe Babe kufuphi Nezingane Zabo?
Abazali kufuneka bacinge ngokucokisekileyo malunga nokuzikhupha ukuze bathathe isondelelo kubantwana babo. Kuvakala ngathi kukhethwe ngokufanelekileyo ekuqwalaselweni kokuqala, kodwa izinto ezininzi kufuneka zicinge ngaphambi kokuba zifike kwisigqibo.
Into yokuqala yokuxoxa ngayo ngumgangatho wobomi.
Imozulu yinto enkulu. Ukuba uphile ubomi bakho bonke kwindawo efudumele-sezulu, ukufudukela kwindawo ebanda okanye emvula kungekuphela nje kwimiqobo enzima kodwa kodwa kunzima ngokomoya.
Ngokufanayo, ukuba uthanda amaxesha amane kunye nohlobo lokushisa okubanda ngokushushu okushisayo, ukuhlala apho ilanga kunye nokufudumala kwexesha kunokubakhombisa.
Uphi umntwana wakho okhulileyo okhoyo? Ukuba uthanda ukuhamba, ujabulele indawo yokuzonwabisa, ubomi bemizi kunye nokuxakeka kunye nokusebenza, ukuhlala kwidolophana yasemaphandleni kude nommandla weedolophu kunokunciphisa ukhetho lwakho.
Hlola ukubona ukuba kukho imisebenzi yokuthatha umhlalaphantsi kuluntu-mhlawumbi ngamathuba okuzithandela , amaqela asekuhlaleni, okanye imibutho yenkcubeko - apho ungagcina ingqondo yakho kunye nomzimba unamandla kwaye uvuselelwe.
Ukufumana abahlobo akulula. Ukuba unentlalontle, ukuhamba kude nesangqa sakho sabahlobo kunye nabaziwayo kunokuba nzima kakhulu. Nangona kungenakwenzeka, kunokuba ngumngeni wokwenza ubuhlobo obutsha nabunentsingiselo kwisixeko esingaqhelekanga xa uhlala umhlala-phantsi, ngakumbi ukuba uyakha ubomi bakho kubantwana bakho kunye nabazukulu. Elinye i-caveat kukuba ukhetha ukufudukela kwintlalo yomhlalaphantsi, ukwenza ukudibanisa kuya kuba lula.
Iyini Indima Yakho Iya kuba Yintsapho?
Ngaba uya kuba ngumntwana? Ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabazukulwana kufuneka babe yolonwabo, kunokuba uxanduva. Nangona ezinye iintsapho zithembele kubazali nootata ukuba banakekele abantwana babo ngenxa yemithintelo yemali kunye nokungabikho kolondolozo lwezingane oluphezulu, ootatomkhulu kumele bakhululeke ngokubaluleka kwexesha abazinikeleyo ekunyamekeleni abazukulwana babo kwaye bangakhuli ukuba baxhomekeke kubantwana babo.
Umlingane wakho umva njani? Nangona umntwana wakho okhulile unokuvuya gqitha ukuba unokukufutshane kwaye unako ukuyeka ukutyelela rhoqo, umlingane wakhe akayi kuvuya kakhulu.
Qinisekisa ukuba uhlale uqaphele kwizibonakaliso ezibonisa ukuba unokwenene ngakumbi xa ukhetha ukufudukela kwintsapho yakho. Awufuni ukuba ngumthwalo kunokuba uyintsikelelo.
Unokuzuzisa Njani?
Inkxaso e kufuphi . Ukuba ulwa nesifo esingapheliyo okanye unokukhubazeka, ukukhulisa abantwana ekuhambeni kwemoto kunokuba luncedo olukhulu. Nangona mhlawumbi ungafuni ukucela abantwana bakho abaninzi abakhulileyo, kwiimeko ezinzima wena-kunye nabantwana bakho-bayavuya ukuba nisondelelene. Ukufumana enye indlebe kwindlela yokuqashwa kwamagqirha, ukufumana uncedo ekulawuleni iimali, nokuba nje ukwazi ukuba bayifowunela nje kuphela - ezi zinto zingabathuthuzela kakhulu abo bangengcono kwimpilo.
Jabulela intsapho yakho! Kukho into enokuthiwa ukuba ungayi kuhamba ngeemoto okanye indiza emide ubude ukuba ube kunye nalabo abathandayo kakhulu. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, ukuba kufuphi nabantwana bakho nabazukulu bangaba yinto efunekayo ukuba uhlale uzalisekile.
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