Xa uzama ukukhulelwa iinyanga, kwaye akukho nto eyenzekayo, unokuziva udidekile, unxunguphekile, kwaye ungenwaba.
Ubutyebi benkcazelo efumaneka kwi-intanethi kwizibini ezama ukukhulelwa zibabini iintsikelelo nesiqalekiso. Intsikelelo, kuba unokuphanda malunga naluphi na ukhetho, kwaye ufumane ulwazi oluninzi kunokuba ugqirha wakho unethuba lokubelana nawe.
Kodwa ingaba isiqalekiso kuba awuyazi ukuba uqala kuphi. Okanye ufunde okanye uzame ngokulandelayo. Kufuneka kwakhona uhlele uluhlu lweengcebiso ezikhohlisayo kunye ezilahlekisayo kwi-intanethi, kwaye uqaphele ngokucokisekileyo imveliso kunye neenkonzo ezithengiswayo kwi-fertility challenge.
Ngaloo nto engqondweni, zizinto ezintlanu ezisisiseko endifuna ukuba wazi.
Yazi nini kwaye njani unokufumana uncedo oluyidingayo
Ungalibali ukufumana uncedo.
Ndiyazi ukuba kukhwankqisayo, kwaye ndiyazi ukuba uhambahamba "ulindele ummangaliso" kunokufumanisa ukuba into ephosakeleyo.
Kodwa nangona ulinde ixesha elide ukuze ufumane uncedo, kuncinci uza kuba neyonyango ngempumelelo.
Ukuba uneminyaka engaphezulu kwama-35, kufuneka ubone ugqirha wakho emva kweenyanga ezintandathu zokuzama ukukhulelwa.
Ukuba uneminyaka engaphantsi kwama-35, kufuneka ufumane uncedo emva konyaka omnye wokuzama ukukhulelwa.
Ukuba unamava emibini alandelanayo, kufuneka ufumane uvavanyo.
Ukuba ufumana iimpawu zokungabikho kwengqondo, okanye ukuba unobungozi obunobungozi bokungabikho kwengqondo, jonga ugqirha wakho xa usenza isigqibo sokuba ufuna ukuqala ukuba nezingane.
Awudingi ukuzama unyaka wokuqala!
Ngubani omele uthethe naye?
Abasetyhini bafanele bathethe ne-gynecologist yabo, kwaye amadoda kufuneka enze ukuqesha kunye ne-urologist. (Ewe, amadoda kufuneka ahlolwe! Ukwenza izinto ngokukhawuleza kunokukugcina ixesha elixabisekileyo.)
Unokwenza okanye awufuneki ikliniki yokuzala, kodwa ukuba wenza njalo, oogqirha bokuqala baya kunika ukuthunyelwa.
Kufuneka Uzithethelele
Kulula kakhulu (kwaye eqhelekileyo) ukuba abantu bangene kwimodi engenakunceda xa bezama ukufumana uncedo abayidingayo kumgqirha wabo.
Ndifuna ukukukhumbuza ukuba awuncedi. Unako kwaye ufanele ulwe ukuze ufumane unonophelo!
Ingaba ugqirha wakho akayi kuthatha ingxaki yakho? Ukuxelela ukuba "uncinci" ukuba ube neengxaki zokuzala? Ukuxelela ukuba "uneminyaka endala" ukukhathazeka ukufumana uncedo? Okanye "uyatyebile?"
Emva koko funani ugqirha omtsha. Ngona ncinane, fumana umbono wesibini.
Ngaba iziphakamiso zakho zeklinikhi zokuzala zibonakala zinzima kakhulu kwiimeko zakho? Ngaba uziva ukuba abawuthatheli ngokunyamekela? Ngaba baphinda ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwenkqubo yokwenza unyango ngokungafaniyo, kunokuba uphendule izinto ukuze uphucule impumelelo yakho?
Thola umbono wesibini, okanye ufumane iklinikhi entsha yokuzala.
Zikela wena. Phanda uphendlo lwakho kwaye uzifundise. Unokwenza oku!
Awunanto Yokuba Uhlazeke
Ewe, akukho nto.
Ukungabi nalutho akukuthi ube ngaphantsi . Awukho ngaphantsi komfazi kwaye akukho ngaphantsi komntu kunowesifazane ovuthiweyo okanye umntu.
Ufanelwe uthando kwaye ube njengomnye umntu kulo mhlaba.
Ungavumeli ukuhlazeka kwakho kukugcine ungenakufumana uncedo kunye nenkxaso oyifunayo, nokuba uvela kugqirha okanye kumntu othandekayo.
AWUKHO wedwa
Cinga kwakhona esikolweni sakho sokuzivocavoca esikolweni esiphakeme. Masithi unamantombazana angama-30 eklasini lakho.
Ukuthetha ngesitatimende, phakathi kwamathathu kunye nantathu kuni kuya kuba nzima ukukhulelwa. Kodwa iziganeko kukuba akukho namnye kuni oza kuthethwa ngaye.
Unokuziva uwedwa, kodwa ngokwenene, awukho.
EUnited States, kukho izigidi ezi-6.7 eziziintombi zokubeletha ezenza umzabalazo wokufumana okanye ukuhlala ukhulelwe.
Izigidi ezithandathu-ezisixhenxe nezigidi.
Fumana inkxaso! Kwaye kukho inkxaso apho, kuquka amaqela enkxaso, iiphrothera, kunye noluntu oluxhomekeke kwi-intanethi ukwenzela ukuba kuvelwe inselele.
Nokuba bakho abahlobo abacebileyo kunye namalungu entsapho banokukuxhasa xa ubafundisa indlela.
Musa ukulibala malunga nodokotela wakho, naye! Ngaba ungaqinisekanga ngento ethi ufunde kwi-intanethi, okanye malunga neengcebiso zomntu onike yona? Buza ugqirha wakho. Balapho ukuze bancede!
Ukungabi nalutho akulula, kodwa ukufikelela kuyo kulula xa unabantu oncike kuyo.
Ufanele Uze Ugqibelele Yiyiphi Inketho Ekulungele Wena
Ndiyakhuthaza ukuba ubone ugqirha wakho ngokukhawuleza ukuze ukwazi ukukhetha ezinye izinto, kodwa kuphela unquma ukuba yeyiphi indlela ongayisebenzisa.
Unokugqiba emva kokubona ugqirha wakho ukuba uzame ixesha elide ngokwakho, okanye unokugqiba isigqibo sokuzama ukunyanga kwangoko.
Unokugqiba isigqibo seyeza zomlomo ezifana neComomid zifana ne-tech ephezulu njengoko ufuna ukuhamba. Unokugqiba isigqibo sokuba awufuni ukusebenzisa nayiphi na imithi yokwelapha.
Unokwenza isigqibo sokumkelwa nguwe, kwaye ufuna kuphela ukuphinda umzali ngokunyanga. Unokugqiba isigqibo sokuba unokukhetha ngaphezu kokuzama i-IVF.
Unokugqiba ukuyeka ukuzama emva konyaka owodwa unyango, okanye emva kweminyaka emihlanu yonyango, okanye emva kokuba ugqirha okanye i-akhawunti yakho yasebhanki ikhethwa ngamanyathelo kuwe.
Ukuthetha nge-akhawunti yebhanki, unakho ukhetho oluninzi lwemali. Ngombulelo, uninzi lwabantu abathandanayo abanomdla aluyi kufuna iimveliso zonyango, kodwa ukuba uyazifuna, kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuzihlawulela.
Nguwe kuphela onokugqiba ukuba yintoni umlinganiselo wakho wokuchitha. Kwaye, ke, unokukhetha ukuba ungasebenzisi iiwaka kwiinkatho zonyango.
Ngaphantsi: Ndifuna ukuba wazi ukuba unokhetho.
Akunakukukhathazeka ukuba uzixelele ukuba unokhetho olulodwa. Ngokomzekelo, ungazixeleli ukuba i-IVF yodwa inketho yakho, nokuba loo yindlela kuphela yonyango onokuyithatha. Ngenxa yokuba unokukhetha ukhetho olungapheliyo.
Ndiyaqonda ukuba ayifuni ukuzikhethela, kodwa kukhetha.
Kuphela xa uqonda ukuba ukhetha ukhetho oluvela kwindawo yokuxhotyiswa kunye namandla. Kuphela xa ukhetha ngokuzikhethela ukuba wenzeni unokwazi ukuba kukho ubomi emva (nangaphezulu) ukungabikho.
Kwaye kukho ubomi emva kokusweleka. Ndiyathembisa.
Imithombo:
FastStats: Ukungenzi. Isiko soLawulo lweZifo. http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/fertile.htm