Abazali bajonge phambili kubafundi babo basekholejini ababuyela ekhaya ngenxa yekhefu lekhefu. Ukuxhalabisa ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabo, baceba ukwenza ukutya okuthandwayo, ukuya kwiimvumi, ukwenza intengiso encinci, mhlawumbi ukuya kwiholide yentsapho. Nangona zonke ezi zinto zivakala kakhulu, inyaniso kukuba iikholeji zasekholeji ziye zahlala unyaka ukusuka ekhaya kwaye zenzeke ukuzimela kunye nokuzithemba kunokuba zihlala kwikhaya labazali zingafuna okanye zivumele.
Abazali kufuneka baxelele abantu abaselula ababuyelayo oko kulindelwe kubo, kwaye kufuneka balalelisise nabafundi babo beekholejini xa bevakalisa iimvakalelo zabo nezimvo zabo.
Abazali abaye bachitha unyaka osondeleyo ngaphandle kootitshala babo basekholeji banokuyifumana into encinci ukuze bahlaziywe ubomi ndawonye. Kodwa njengokuba kubuyeka ngokuqhelekileyo, iingcinga zabo ngoku zize ziphendukele kwezinye iinyanga ezilisithoba, elidlulileyo, ezidlulileyo ngokukhawuleza kwaye ekugqibeleni, zisishiywe nje ngokugqithiswa ngumntu omtsha owafika ekhaya ukuba ahlale nathi. - Susan Bonifant, Eminye Eyesithoba Kwiinyanga-Xa umfundi wakho wekholeji ebuyela ekhaya okokuqala - IWashington Post
Abazali bathumela abantwana babo kwiikholeji ukuba bafundiswe, bafunde ngehlabathi baze balungiselele abantu abadala. Asinakuzilindela ukuba babuyele ekhaya kwiimeko zabo zangaphambi kwekholeji. Ukuxhatshazwa kufuneka kwenziwe kwimiba yomibini ukuphepha iingxabano kunye nokudumala.
1. Ukubonelela okuqikelelwayo malunga nokuphuka kwehlobo
Umntu wakho omdala uza kuba nomsebenzi wehlobo okanye enze umsebenzi wokuzithandela okanye uthathe iklasi yesikolo sasehlobo. Uya kufuna kwakhona ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabahlobo besikolo esiphakamileyo abangazange babone ixesha elithile, kwaye badibanise ukuxinezeleka kwonyaka wokuqala wekholeji.
Ukulindela ukuba umntu omdala omdala abe kwisidlo sesidlo sakusihlwa ngokutya kwentsapho akuyinto engqiqweni, kwaye ayilungile. Emva konyaka wokuzimela, abantu abadala bayakufuna inkululeko efanayo kunye nokukhetha xa bekhaya. Umntu omdala osemdala makangayiphathi indlu yakho njengehotele, kodwa akafanele afune ukuphinda abuyele kwintsapho njengomntwana, nokuba njalo.
2. IShedyuli zeZenzeko ngaphambili
Unokucinga ukuba kulungile ukuvumela umntu omdala omdala ukuba azi ukuba ngoMgqibelo ukuba bonke ootata kunye noomalume bayeza ukutyelela ngeCawa kwaye kulindeleke ukuba bachithe usuku ekhaya, kodwa mhlawumbi sele athenge amathikithi kumdlalo webhola okanye abe nezicwangciso Umdlalo we-X-Box 1 kunye nabahlobo bakhe okanye umtshini we-movie kunye nentombi yakhe. Ukuhlonela ixesha lakhe kubalulekile njengoko kuhlonishwa naliphi na ixesha lomnye umntu omdala. Ucinga ukuba "uhlala endlwini yam, kufuneka enze into endiyicelayo," kwaye mhlawumbi yinyaniso-ukuya kwinqanaba. Uya kukuxabisa ukuba uthathe ixesha lakhe xa eceba imisebenzi ekulindeleke ukuba aye kuyo.
3. Hamba lula kwixesha eliqhelekileyo
Khumbula, ikholeji yakho yasekolishi - ngokukhawuleza iya kuba yinto ethanda ukuyenza - nayiphi na into ayifunayo, nanini na xa efuna, kunyaka owedlule. Ukufika ekhaya ukuya kwixesha eliphakathi kwamabhiyoki ngeempela-veki alunamdla kuye, kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, unokukubeka ngokungaqhelekanga kunokuba ungathanda.
Ulungelelaniso olufanelekileyo kukucela umntu omdala osemdala ukuba akuthumelelele ukuba uya kuphumla emva kokuba ukhululekile kuwe - umzekelo, ukuba uya kulala ngo-11 ntambama kwaye ufuna ukwazi xa ungalindela ukuva isitshixo emnyango , cela isicatshulwa ngo-10:45 okanye ngoko kukuvumela ukwazi izicwangciso zakhe. Nangona banako-kwaye mhlawumbi baya kutshintsha, ngamanye amaxesha, kukunyanzela ukuba bakugcine unolwazi ukuze ulale ebusuku.
4. Umntwana Wakho Omdala Akafanele Abe Ngumngeneleli Wakho
Kukulungele ukucela uncedo malunga nendlu, kwaye kulungile ukulindela ukuba agcine umtya wakhe uvalelwe kwigumbi lakhe lokulala. Awuyi kungena egumbini lakhe, kodwa, ngaphandle kokuba ulungele ukucoca okanye ukuthula.
Ngethuba nje umdala wakho omdala ehlonipha iindawo ezabelwana ngazo ekhaya lakho-ikhitshini, indlu yokulala, igumbi lentsapho, njl - apho alala khona kwaye agqoke kufuneka abe ngumda wokungagqibekanga kuwe, ukuba kuphela ngenxa yentlonipho yakhe .
5. Lindela Umsindo kunye neMlayezo ngamanye amaxesha
Enye yezinto ezilungileyo ngokuza ekhaya ihlobo lichitha ixesha kunye nabahlobo besikolo esiphakeme. Amathuba abo aya kuba yiminyango yakho yonke imihla ngoku. Jabulela esi sikhumbuzo semini yesikolo sakho esikolweni esiphakamileyo. Ukutyelela kunye nabo uze uhambe ngokuphumayo, ubenike ithuba lokuba baxhumane. Umntwana wakho akayena kuphela oye waba ngumntu omdala-bonke banalo!
6. Jabulela amaxesha xa befuna umama wabo noyise
Kuqinisekisiwe ukuba ngezinye iinyanga zasehlotyeni, umntu odala osekudala uza kuthanda ukuziphatha kwaye uphathwe njengento encinane yebhokhwe - ingaba ihlobo lokubanda okanye intliziyo ephukileyo efuna ukuyenza. Nika kwaye ujabulele! Uzoziva ulunge ngakumbi xa wenza.