Ukuqhagamshelana ngokucacileyo kunye nokulindela kukunceda ukuqinisekisa ilungiselelo elifanelekileyo
Ukuba unethamsanqa ukuba ube nootatomkhulu bomntwana wakho ohlala kufuphi nawe, amathuba okuwasebenzisa kakade ukunyamekela abantwana . Kodwa nokuba kungenxa yokubakho abantwana okanye ukunyamekela ixesha elide ngelixa usebenza, nantoni na izinto ongathanda ukuba umkhulu okanye umkhulu wakho azi ngokubukela abantwana bakho .
1. Uvuyayo Bayabuka Abantwana Bakho
Kukunika kakhulu intuthuzelo yokuba banokubukela umntwana wakho oxabisekileyo okanye encinane.
Uyazi ukuba bayabathanda kwaye banakekele abantwana bakho kwaye baya kubakhathalela ngokusemandleni abo.
2. Uhlala Ukhathazekile Ngayo Ukubukela Abantwana Bakho
Ukujonga emva kokuba umntwana ephazamisayo, ingakumbi ukuba unako ngaphezu kweyodwa. Wena ungaphezulu kweyona nto inokukhathazeka ukuba ngaba ootatomkhulu bangabahamba njani. Emva kwakho konke, awukwazi ukuhlala uhlala nabo. Unokuba usenokukhathazeka ngoogqirha boogogo nabazali boogogo, amaqatha okanye amadolo. Awufuni ukuba bazithabathele wena xa uzama ukuwagcina ekukhuphukeni izitebhisi. Ungazama ukufumana iindlela zokwenza kube lula kubo.
3. Unenkxalabo yokuba baya kuvumela abantwana bakho benze izinto ongazivumeli ukuba zenze
Enyanisweni, ootatomkhulu nabo kufuneka bavelele baze bawaphange nabakhulu babo. Kodwa amaxesha okulala, akukho iiskese ngaphambi kokutya, kwaye akukho nto yokugubha phezu kwebhelethi yimithetho oyaziyo ukuba abantwana bakho baya kuvavanya umzuzu oya kuwo. Unethemba lokuba ootatomkhulu baya kuhlonipha imithetho yakho.
Oko kuhamba oko abantwana abangayidla (okanye abakwaziyo) ngokunjalo. Ufuna ukuba bangabesabi ukuxelela abakhulukazi "Hayi!"
4. Gcina amayeza ngaphandle kwendlela yokulimala yabazukulu
Abantwana banomdla kakhulu, kunye nekhredithi evulekile enezinto ezininzi ezinomdla ngaphakathi ngaphakathi nje. Uyazi ukuba oogogo nomkhulu ngokuqhelekileyo bagcina imishanguzo yabo ngokulula ukukhumbula iintsuku zeeveki kunye nokuzonda ezo zithintelo ezingenamntwana.
Kodwa kufuneka baqaphele kakhulu kunye nezingane ezizungezile. Ootatomkhulu nabo kufuneka baxoxe nayiphi na inkxalabo yezempilo engabangela umngcipheko kubo okanye abantwana, njengokubamba, ukulala okanye ukuwa. Ukusuka kwimeko yokuphepha, abazali kunye nootatomkhulu kufuneka bathathe isigqibo sokuba ukuba abantwana bayabathanda bonke.
5. Awulindele ukuba oogogo nabazali banike abantwana abantwana
Enyanisweni, ngaphandle kokuba oogogo bekhulile ngokwaneleyo ukuba bahlambe ngokuzimeleyo, ootatomkhulu kufuneka baqhewule lo msebenzi. Iintsana zixhamla kwaye zidibeneyo, kwaye iintsana ziza kuphahlazeka kwaye zenze ezinye izinto oogogo nabazali abayidingayo ukujongana nazo. Kulungile ukuba abantwana babe yingcolileyo encinane. Amabhati angalinda ade abazali bafike ekhaya.
6. Ootatomkhulu akudingeki ukuchitha nayiphi na imali kwizingane
Awulindele ukuba ootatomkhulu bakwazi ukuthenga amathoyizi amatsha okanye iimpahla zokulungiselela abantwana, ngakumbi xa babenomusa gqitha ukuba banakekele abantwana. Bangakwazi ukukhonza nantoni na kwifriji. Ukufunda incwadi, ukudlala umdlalo olula, okanye ukubukela ibhayisikobho efanelekileyo iminyaka kunye kunye. Wonke umzali ufuna ngokwenene ukuba abantwana baphephile, banempilo kwaye banolwazi.
7. Uya kuba neemisebenzi ezininzi nabazali abaninzi kunye nabantwana abanokudlala kunye
Ngelixa abantwana banokuthabatha ukwenza konke abakwazi ukucinga ngako, awulindele ukuba ootatomkhulu bafune ukufihla baze bafune okanye i-Hungry Hippo ngaphandle kokuba bafuna.
Ootatomkhulu akudingeki ukuba bahlambulule indlu okanye bahlambe xa bephelile, nokuba kunjalo.
8. Unokuya kwi-Overboard kunye noLuhlu lweeNgcebiso okanye iZiko kunye neNkohlakalo
Nangona uqaphela ukuba ootatomkhulu owakhulisa (okanye iqabane lakho), uvumelekile ukuba wenze uluhlu okanye ubonise indlela yokwenza izinto. Ezinye izinto ezisisiseko zokunakekela abantwana zifana nokuba zihlala zihlala njalo. Nangona kunjalo, ezinye azikho. Ukuba ubakhumbuza ukuba uhlala ulele umntwana wakhe emhlane (kungekhona ngesisu) okanye ubonise indlela yokusebenzisa i-Diaper Genie, kufuneka baqonde ukuba uhamba phezu kwezinto ezifanayo kunye nabo njengokuba unako nawuphi na umntwana .
9. Awuyi kuzama ukuthatha inzuzo yoNogogo nomkhulu
Ukunyamekelwa kwabantwana kuyindleko kwaye unokuba ufuna yonke indlela yokunciphisa uhlahlo lwabiwo lwenu. Ukuba nootatomkhulu ugqithise ukufumana abantwana kukuvumela ukuba ugcine imali ngelixa ulungiselela uxhamlwane olusondeleyo phakathi kootatomkhulu kunye nabakhulu. Ukuba bavakalelwa kukuba uyabaxhaphaza, kunjalo, unethemba lokuba baya kuthetha. Awufuni ukuba ubudlelwane buhlupheke ngenxa yalo.
10. Ukuba awuyi kuzisa iSifundo seNtlawulo, Uqinisekile ukuba ootatomkhulu baya
Nangona unethemba lokuba ootatomkhulu baya kulindeleka ukuba bahlawulwe ngexesha lokubakho abantwana, kunengqiqo ukuba bahlawulwe ukuba banikezela ngononophelo oluqhubekayo okanye oluzeleyo lokunyamekela abantwana. Emva kwakho konke, ukubamba umntwana ngumsebenzi, kwaye kuyafuneka ukuba babe neembopheleleko ezithile baze bagcine iiyure ezithile. Bafanele balindele ukuba bahlawulwe okanye babe nohlobo oluthambileyo lokutshintshana.
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