Ezinye iindlela zokuthi "Hayi"
Zingaphi kangangeentsuku othi " cha ?" Ukuba ungumzali womntwana omncinci, mhlawumbi ngokuqhelekileyo. Into ephathelene "no" kukuba, nangona kunjalo, kuba isetyenziswe rhoqo, intsingiselo yayo inokuhlaziywa, ilizwi likhawuleza lilahlekelwe ngempumelelo yalo. Into efanelekileyo yokuba ukuthi cha akusiyo kuphela inkqubo yokuziphatha ekhoyo ngaphandle. Kukho ininzi enokuyenza xa umfundi wakho ongeyena esikolweni engahambi kakuhle.
Nantsi indlela.
Inketho yokuthi "Ewe."
Oko akutsho ukuba ufanele uvumele ukuba ufundela esikolweni okanye uvume isicelo sakhe sesinye i-pop pop. Kodwa unokutshintsha umdlalo ngomncinci ngokumnika into efana nesicelo sakhe sokuqala. "Andiyazi ukuba ukuqaqa embhedeni unengcamango enje. Ngaba ungandibonisa ukuba ungaphila phezulu apha phantsi?" "Usuvele unomphunga namhlanje." Unokwenza omnye ngomso. Into ebalulekileyo ukuba uyikhumbule kukunika ukhetho lwakho oluncinane olwamkelekileyo kuwe kungakhathaliseki ukuba uthatha isigqibo.
Yithi "Hayi" ngokuhlukile.
Ngamanye amaxesha ufanele uthi cha. Ayikho inketho. Kodwa ukuba ukhathele ukuthetha igama elincinci ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kukho amanye amagama ongayisebenzisa kwindawo yayo. "Yeka!" "Mlilo!" "Ingozi!" Zonke ziyimpendulo ezamkelekileyo, kuxhomekeka kwimeko enokufumana ngayo into encinane.
Zithenge ixesha elithile.
Ukuphazamiseka kunokuba ngumhlobo wakho omkhulu. Ukuba umntwana wakho ucela ukuba ahambe ngaphandle kwaye adlale kodwa ungakulungele ukwenza oko kunjalo, mbuyisele kwenye into. Yithi, "Sizakuzama ukuphuma ngaphandle emineni embalwa. Nangona ulinde ukuba ndigqibe ukuhlamba, kutheni ungadlala namaloli akho?" Ukuba oko umntwana wakho akucelayo akuyiyo inketho kuwe ngelixa elizayo, uze uthi njalo.
"Asikwazi ukuphuma ngaphandle namhlanje, kodwa udlale nge-dollhouse yakho ngoku kwaye siza kubona ukuba sinokwenza into emnandi emva kwemini."
Khetha Iimfazwe Zakho.
Kuyigama eliyaziwayo ngesizathu. Kule meko, cinga malunga nento oyithethayo. Ngaba yinto enokuyivumela ukuba ihambe? Ngaba ingaba yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kwihlabathi ukuba umntwana wakho wayegqoka iingubo zakhe zokusinda kwindlovu kwivenkile? Ingaba imbi kakhulu ukuba unyana wakho udlala neebhotile kunye neepane xa upheka isidlo sakusihlwa? Ukuba ufuna ukunciphisa inani lamaxesha ngosuku utsho u-no kumntwana wakho, cinga malunga nento oyalayo kwaye uyabona ukuba kukho indlela yokutshintsha indlela oziphatha ngayo .
Qinisekisa ukuba uyavumelana.
Ukuba uyasongela ukuthatha into ethile kumntwana wakho okanye uthi awuyi kwenza into xa beqhubeka nokuziphatha okuthile, qiniseka ukuba ulandela. Ngaphandle koko, wenza nje isongelo esingenanto esingayi kuthatha nto nantoni yakho. Ukuba umntwana wakho uphendukela ngokuqhubekayo kwifowuni kwisitya sokuhlambela kwaye uxelele ukuba ukuba wenza njalo akayi kubukela ithelevishini, enze isigwebo. Ukuba awunayo, uya kufunda ukuba izisongelo zakho zinjalo kwaye uza kuqhubeka aziphathe ngendlela afuna ngayo.
Ucelomngeni Umntwana Wakho Ukuba Athi Ewe.
U-Justine Miller, umama wamawele ahlala eNew York, uthi wayesebenzisa ishati yemihla ephindaphindiweyo ukuba wayethi yee, kwaye kaninzi kangakanani ayenokuthi ayikho.
"Ndiyifumene xa abantwana bam bebaxanduva lokuziphatha kwabo kwaye babone ukuba bangaphi na ukungena enkingeni into ethile, baqonda ngakumbi indlela ababeya kwenza ngayo emini. Kungekudala andingeke ndithi, 'Akukho ukhuko! kuba baya kukhumbula. " UMiller uthe ngokukhawuleza kwakukho iintsuku ezininzi apho wayethi yebo ngaphezu kwayo kwaye wonke umntu wayevuyiswa kakhulu. UMiller uthe uqalise inkqubo yokuvuza - ngeentsuku apho "ewe" evelelwe rhoqo, uya kuzisa abafana bakhe kwivenkile yeli dola ukuphathwa.
Yazi ukuba "Hayi" Akuyona into ebi kunazo zonke.
Ukuthi "hayi" ngamanye amaxesha akuvulekanga enye inketho.
Ngamanye amaxesha lizwi elifanelekileyo ngexesha elifanelekileyo kwaye kufuneka utsho nje. Xa wenza njalo, qinisa kwaye ungahlali. Inyani kukuba, abantwana abakwenzi konke ngokufanelekileyo ngexesha lonke kwaye xa benza iphutha okanye ukhetho olubi, kufuneka balungiswe.