Ikhwele kunye neKhuphiswano Ziyingozi
Enye yezinto ezilungileyo malunga nokuba nguyise okhulu-ntsapho ubona ubudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye obusondeleyo obukhula phakathi kwamantombazana amaninzi. Uhlangothi lwe-flip lwesithandane, kodwa, ngumzala. Ukhuphiswano phakathi kwabazala makabe yinto enzima kwaye inomsindo njengowomntakwabo. Kwaye amathuba, ootatomkhulu, ukuba kuya kwenzeka ngexesha lakho lokubukela.
Kutheni Umzala Uphikisana Naye?
Zonke iziganeko ezivame ukubonwa kumntakwenkqonkqo wezalamane nazo zinokusebenza ukuba zenze iimeko zobukhosi zomzala.
Ukuba nomona kukuba, yinyani, into ebangela ukuba Abazala basenokuba nomona omnye nomnye xa besondelene kunye kunye nobulili obufanayo. Ngamanye amaxesha abazala bayakhuphisana ngogqirha. Ngamanye amaxesha bafuna ukuncintisana nomnye umzala.
Iintsapho zogonyamelo zidlala indima. Ngamanye amaxesha ukutshatyalaliswa kweso sibini kunye nomzala umntakwabo kubonwa njengemfuno yokubaluleka kubantwana abathi, ngenxa yesiphi na isizathu, abafumani ngqalelo xa befuna. Ngamanye amaxesha, nangona kunjalo, le meko ayinjalo. Umntwana kuphela okanye usana lentsapho alinakusetyenziswa ukukhuphisana ekhaya, kodwa ukuphonswa kunye neqela loonyana baka-grandfather's house ngumbali ohlukileyo. Ootatomkhulu ophethe i-Grandma Camp baqinisekiswa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba bajongane nokuqhambuka komzabalazo womzala.
Abantwana bangabonakalisa umntakwabo umlingani kuzo zonke izigaba kunye namanqanaba.
Ukubambisana kwabantwana baseSibongeni kufinyelela kwizinga eliphezulu kakhulu phakathi kwabantwana abaneminyaka engama-8 ukuya kwe-12 ubudala, kwaye ngokufanayo kuyafana nenzala yomzala. Ngeli festile ye-8-12, abantwana banokubandakanya ukudibanisa ngokomzimba, kwaye banamandla ngokwaneleyo ukulimaza omnye nomnye. Oko kuthetha ukuba ukuphikisana kunokuguqula umzimba, kunye noogogo nomkhulu kufuneka bancede bangenelele ngezinye iixesha.
Ukungquzulisani nokuxhatshazwa
Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa phakathi komzala kunye noxhatshazo. Ulwalamano lokwenene lomzala luquka ininzi ye-back-and-out. Omnye umzala unokuhlala ehlala ekhala, kodwa oko kungenxa yokuba ulungele ukukhala.
Xa ubugwenxa bubuninzi, lungavela kwimvakalelo yesikhwele, kodwa kulunge ngakumbi ukunyeliswa nokuphathwa kakubi.
Iindlela zokuPhepha
Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuxabana phakathi kozala kuya kuba yingqungquthela enokuthi umntwana akakwazi ukubuyela kude, kuba oko kuthetha ukuba "ulahlekile." Ngaloo ndlela ukuphepha iziganeko ezibangela ukuphikisana kungabangela isisombululo.
Unokwazi ukuphepha umlingani womzala ngokuphepha iziganeko ezikhuthaza ukhuphiswano, kodwa oko kuthetha ukunikezelwa kwemidlalo nemidlalo yemidlalo. Kwiintsapho ezininzi, eziphezulu kakhulu intlawulo ukuhlawula ukuvumelanisa intsapho. Nazi ezinye iimbono malunga noko unokukwazi ukukwenza endaweni yoko:
- Ukulinganisa ukhuphiswano xa kunokwenzeka. Akukho nto ephosakeleyo ngokunika umntwana omncinci ukunyuka okunye kwibhola, umzekelo. Yaye ukuba umntwana omncinci uyakunqoba umntwana omdala, umntwana omdala uya kuba nolwazi ukuba umntwana omncinci wanikwa inzuzo.
- Gxininisa umdlalo womsebenzi ngaphezu kokuphumeleleyo. Le ngcamango enkulu edla ngokusebenza nezingane ezincinci. Njengoko abantwana bekhulile, kunjalo, baqhubeka befuna ukugcina amanqaku kwaye bazi ukuba ngubani abaphumeleleyo.
- Gwema imisebenzi apho umntwana omnye enenzuzo enkulu.
- Qalisa izinto ezinenhlanhla xa kunokwenzeka, nakwizemidlalo.
- Gwema ukudumisa umntu oyinqobile kunye nokunciphisa ilahleki. Kuya kuba nexesha elininzi lokwenza izinto ezintle xa bekhulile xa ababelethi bekhulile.
Abanye ootata-nkulu bavumela ukuba abagadi balala badlale kwaye bavumele ukuba i-chips iwele apho ingaba khona, bethetha ukuba abantwana kufuneka bafunde ukulahleka.
Oku kuyinyani, kodwa ootatomkhulu nabo bahlupheka, xa kunjalo, xa yonke imisebenzi iphela ekudakeni.
Yenza umdlalo weMidlalo
Xa iindlela zokuphepha zingasebenzi, oogogo nomkhulu kufuneka babe nesicwangciso sokusebenzisana nomzala. Kungcono ukuba baye baphuhlisa izicwangciso zabo ngokubambisana nabazali, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha akwenzeki. Isicwangciso siqala ngokuvumela abazukulwana bazi ukuba iziphi izinto aziyi kuzinyamezela. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukubetha kunye nokubiza igama kukuloluhlu olungenaye. Ukuba ngabazala baxhamla kwingxabano kodwa bengabetha okanye babize amagama, unokufuna ukuvumela ukuba bahambe baye bazilungiselela ngokwabo.
Ukuba ubona iimpawu zokuthi ingquzulwano iyanda kunokuba iphephe phantsi, ingaba lixesha lokungena. Phulaphula emacaleni omabini, kodwa ungazami ukugqiba ukuba ngubani owawuqalayo kwaye ungababi. Zama nje ukuzenza zigqitywe. Ukuba akukho nzisombululo phambi kwayo, unokufuna ukuphazamisa umsebenzi othile.
Kwiimeko ezininzi ezingathintekiyo, ukwahlula abazala kuyakuba sisicwangciso esisebenzayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo bafuna ukudlala omnye nomnye, naphezu kweengxabano zabo, ngamanye amaxesha baya kukhawuleza bavelele xa bejongene nethuba lokudlala yedwa.
Elinye isicwangciso esisebenza kangcono nakwihlazo. Ukuba unako ukufumana abazala babo behleka, baya kubuya nomoya omhle omnye nomnye kwi-jiffy. Ukukhwabanisa nakho kunokwenzeka. Nangona abanye ootatomkhulu bangahle bahlekise ngcamango yokuba bazuze abazukulu ngokuziphatha nje, abanye bahle ngokubonelela ngokuqinisekileyo ukugcina ukungavumelani. Kakade, ootatomkhulu noomkhulu owanikezela umvuzo wokuziphatha kakuhle kufuneka banamathele kwiingxoxo. Akukho mvuzo omele uhanjiswe ukuba ukuziphatha kuye kwinqanaba eliphantsi.
Ezinye iindlela eziNcedo
Ukusebenza kunye nentsebenziswano yabazukulwana onokubakho ngaphezu kwexesha kunokunika iziphumo. Ukuba uye waqaphela ukuba ukuphikisana kukunyuka kakhulu phakathi kwe-A kunye ne-B xa i-C ijikelezile, thintela ukudibanisa umzala, okanye uza naye umzala D. Unokuba usenokungena kwi-A no-B ngokwahlukileyo. Khumbula ukuba awuyi kuyenza oko ngonaphakade. Uninzi lweziganeko zomntakwabo kunye nomntakwabo zithandane.
Akuya kuthi abantwana baya kuhamba kakuhle xa bephumle kakuhle kwaye banondliwa kakuhle. Kwakhona ngaphandle kokuthi abahlala belele baze badle kakuhle kwizindlu zoogogo babo kuba bahlala kwiindawo zabo eziqhelekileyo.
Ukuqhambuka komntakwenkqonkqo kubangelwa kukunye uxinzelelo ebomini bomntwana. Ootatomkhulu nabo banokudlala indima ebalulekileyo ekuncedeni abazukulu ukuba baphathe uxinzelelo. Ukubonelela ngendawo yokuthoba kunye neendlela eziduduzayo kunokunceda. Umdlalo osebenzayo uphinde uxhaswe ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye ungaba yindlela yokuphula umjikelo wokuziphatha ngomona.
Ixesha elide
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba oku, nako, kuya kudlula. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba xa abazala babo bekhulile, abayi kukhumbula nokungavumelani kwabo kodwa kunoko bayakukhumbula konke ukuzonwabisa abababelana ngako.