Ukupasa kungenza enye yezinto ezikhohlakeleyo kunye neziphazamisayo zokubonisa abantwana. Ingaba umntwana wakho uthetha kuwe xa uthetha into ayifuni ukuyiva, okanye uthetha kumhlobo onqabe ukwabelana naye, kubalulekile ukubamba umkhwa ngokukhawuleza.
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Ngamanye amaxesha, abantwana bafuna ukuzonwabisa. Basenokuthi baphosa emhlabathini ngenxa yokuba bacinga ukuba kuyabonwa.
Ukuba bafumana ukusabela kumntu nawuphi na, kunokukwenza ukutshiza kube mnandi ngakumbi.
Amanye amaxesha atshabalala ngenxa yokuba kuyindlela efanelekileyo yokuqwalasela. Ukutshiza umntu ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kufumana uhlobo oluthile lokuphendula.
Abafundi basesikolweni bavame ukuphalaza umsindo. Xa bengenakukwazi ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zabo zokukhungatheka, baphawula ukubonisa indlela abavakalelwa ngayo. Umntwana owaziyo ukuba angaphumeleli unokucinga ukuba ukuphalala kukunye okuhle.
Ukupasa kungabakho neqhinga lokuzikhusela. Umntwana ongafuni ukuba umhlobo wakhe athe ikheyibhile yakhe angamkhafulela emzameni wokumgcina esicaleni.
Izingane ezikhulile zivame ukukhupha isenzo sokungahloneli. Yindlela enhle yokuthi, "Awukwazi ukundilawula," okanye "Kulapho, thabatha oko!"
Abanye abantwana abane-autism okanye ezinye iimfuno ezizodwa bachithwa. Bangayifumana indlela efanelekileyo yokubonisa iimvakalelo zabo okanye indlela abanokufumana ngayo ulawulo oluncinane.
Indlela yokuphendula xa umntwana wakho echitha
Phantse bonke abantwana bayaphalaza ngexesha elinye.
Indlela oyiphendula ngayo ukuphalaza iya kuba negalelo elikhulu kwimeko enokwenzeka ukuba umntwana wakho akwenze kwakhona. Nazi iindlela eziphambili zokuphendula xa umntwana wakho echitha:
1. Hlalani nizolile.
Ukungabi nantlonelo-kunye ne-disgust factor-ehamba kunye nokutshiza kungenza ukuba ulahlekelwe ngumsindo. Kodwa xa umntwana wakho elahlekelwa ukupholile, into engcono kakhulu ongayenza yindlela oyimfuneko yokujongana neemvakalelo zakho ngendlela efanelekileyo yoluntu.
Ukumemeza okanye ukuhlawula kuyathumela umyalezo ongafanelekanga. Ukuba ukhathazeke ngokwenene, hamba kude embalwa imizuzu. Musa ukulungisa imeko uze uhlale ukhululekile ngokwaneleyo ukuthetha ngezwi eliqhelekileyo lelizwi.
2. Tshela ingane yakho yokupaka ingavumeleki.
Gwema ukukhupha isifundo eside okanye ugxeke umntwana wakho ngokungapheliyo. Isikhumbuzo esilulayo, esilula, esithi, "Ukutshatyalaliswa kukugqithiseleyo," okanye "Ukupaka kakubi," konke okufunekayo.
Thumela umyalezo ocacileyo othi, "Ukukhawula ngetye." Ukuba umntwana wakho uphelela kwisithuba esingaphaya kwesinye, abadala kufuneka banikeze isigidimi esifanayo, esichaphazelayo sokuba kutheni ukucinga.
3. Yenza umntwana wakho ahlambulule.
Umphumo wendalo osebenzayo wokutshiza uquka ukucoca umbane. Ukuba umntwana wakho uphosa phantsi, mnike ezinye izinto zokucoca ukuze akwazi ukusula. Ukuba uthetha kuwe okanye omnye umntu, mcedise ekuhlambuleni-ukuba kufanelekile ukwenza njalo.
4. Beka umntwana wakho ngexesha lokuphuma.
Ukuphuma kwexesha kuyiphumo elincedo , ingakumbi xa umntwana wakho ekhupha umsindo. Mbeke endaweni ecaceleyo ngomzuzu omnye ngamnye kunyaka wakhe. Oku kunokumnceda afunde indlela yokuzinqabisa xa ecasulwa.
5. Sebenzisa ukubuyisela.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uthelela kumnye umntu, okanye kwipropati yawo, ukubuyisela kuhlawulwe.
Ngokomzekelo, gxininisa ukuba ubolekise ixhoba lakhe eliyintandokazi ngalolo suku okanye umnike umsebenzi ongaphezulu wokuwenza. Ukwenza into enokwenzela ixhoba kunokumnceda enze izilungiso.
6. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba enze ntoni endaweni yoko.
Sebenzisa ixesha lokufundisa abantwana bakho iindlela zokutshiza. Mbonise indlela yokusebenzisa amagama akhe kwaye umkhuthaze ukuba asebenzise izakhono zokulawula umsindo . Ekugqibeleni, umntwana wakho uya kufunda indlela yokujongana neemvakalelo ezingakhawulekanga ngendlela efanelekileyo yoluntu.
7. Qinisekisa ukuziphatha kakuhle.
Ukuba ukutshiza kuyinkathazo enkulu kumntwana wakho, inkqubo yomvuzo ingaba luncedo. Yakha isatidi yokuziphatha evumela umntwana wakho ukuba athole ama-stickers okanye amaphulo okulawula ukuziphatha kwakhe ngokufanelekileyo.
Emva koko, vumela ukuba atshintshe izitifiketi okanye amaphuzu emivuzo ebonakalayo, njengexesha leTV okanye ithuba lokudlala umdlalo wakhe ozithandayo kunye nosapho.
Ukubonelela ngeendumiso ezininzi. Yithi izinto ezinjengalezi, "Umsebenzi omhle usebenzisa amagama akho xa usuhlutha," okanye "Umsebenzi omnandi uxelela umntakwenu xa ezama ukuthatha umdlalo wakho." Udumo luya kumkhuthaza ukuba aqhubeke nomsebenzi omhle ngaphandle kokutshiza.
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> I-American Academy ye-Child & Adolescent Psychiatry: Ukuqonda ukuziphatha koBundlobongela kubantwana nakwi-Adolescents.
> I-American Academy ye-Pediatrics: Umntwana okhutheleyo.
> I-HealthyChildren.org: Ukuziphatha okubuhlungu.