Ukunyaniseka kweemvakalelo mhlawumbi kubaluleke kakhulu ku-Kazimier Dabrowski ezintlanu. Eminye emine ingqondo , i-imagination, i-sensual, ne -psychomotor . UDabrowski wayengumqondo wezengqondo wasePoland owabona indlela abantu abaziphatha ngayo ePoland ngexesha leMfazwe Yehlabathi II. Abanye bangenza izinto ezinobungqina obungathandekiyo xa abanye bebeka ubomi babo engozini ukuze basindise abanye.
Ukususela ekugqibeleni kwakhe, ekugqibeleni wahlakulela iNkcazo yokuPhukisa okuNtle . Ezi zinto zigqithiseleyo, ngamanye amaxesha zibizwa ngokuba yizinto ezinzulu zincinci ziyingxenye yolu mbono.
Kuyintoni Ukunyaniseka Kwengqondo?
Iimvakalelo ezithandabuzayo ziyabonwa lula ngabazali abanezingane ezinezipho kunye nabanye ngenxa yokuba abantwana abanayo babonisa iimvakalelo eziphakamileyo kunye neempendulo zengqondo kwiimeko kunye namava.
Abantwana abane-OE banomsebenzi wokwenza ubunzulu obukhulu. Bahlakulela izikhonkwane ezinamandla kubantu, kwiindawo nakwizinto. Ngenxa yokunyamekela kwabo, basoloko betyholwa ukuba bangaphaya kwamandla okanye baphuculo. Nangona kunjalo, iimvakalelo abazivakalayo ziyinyani. Iingqungquthela kubo ngokwenene iintaba.
I-OE yomzwelo ibonakaliswa ngokuxhalabisa abanye. Nangona abancinci abancinci abakwi-OE bangabonakalisa inkxalabo ngenxa yokukhala komntwana okanye ngenxa yokubandezeleka komntwana osemncinci oye wakhathazeka okanye wakhathazeka.
Akunabantwana kuphela abavakalelwa ngabanye, kodwa bazive banxulumene nezilwanyana. Aba bantwana bangaba ngumhlaza kwintsana ngenxa yokuba abanakuze batye ukutya oko kwakunjalo isidalwa esiphilayo.
Abantwana abakhuli kulo mva. Umntwana onemvakalelo evakalelwa kakhulu uya kufumana ubunzulu obufanayo obufana nomntu omdala.
I-Upside of Overmocabilityability
Abo bane-OE yeemvakalelo banokuqonda kwaye baqonde izinto abanye abangaziphosa okanye abanakuzicingela. Kubonakala ngathi baxhomekeke kwihlabathi nakwabanye ngeendlela ezinika ubunzulu obunzulu bokuqonda ukuxabisa. Bavame ukufunwa ngabahlobo kunye nabaqhelana nabo ngoncedo kunye neengcebiso ngenxa yokudibanisa okunzulu.
Ngenxa yeemvakalelo zabo ezinzulu kunye novelwano kwabanye, abo abane-OE ngokomzwelo bathambekele ekubeni nobuhlobo obuqinileyo. Iimvakalelo zabo kubahlobo babo zinzulu kwaye ziya kuba phakathi kwezona zihlobo ezinyanisekileyo.
Abo bane-OE yeemvakalelo baninzi kunokuba abanye baqaphele iimvakalelo zabo, kwaye ulwazi olunjalo lubavumela ukuba benze imisebenzi ehambelayo yobugcisa, nokuba ngaba kubhaliweyo, umculo, ukusebenza okanye ubugcisa.
Ukuhlaselwa koMoya oKhuselekileyo
Nangona abo banesiseko sokuvakalelwa kabuhlungu kunabanye abantu, abanesihawu kubo. Bazigxeka kakhulu kwaye banengqiqo ejulile yemfanelo - nangenxa yezinto ezingabangela uxanduva. Oku ukugxeka kunye nomoya wokuxanduva kungabangela ukuxhalaba, ityala, kunye nesimo sokungaphumeleli.
Amanqanaba okuxhalaba abawafumanayo anokuphazamisa imisebenzi elula njengemisebenzi yasekhaya okanye ukugqiba umsebenzi wesikolo . Bangakwazi nokuhlakulela iimpawu zeengqondo ezifana ne-aches esiswini okanye ukuxinezeleka.
Ukudandatheka kwabo baxhamla kwi-OE engqondweni bahlala bexinezeleka , oku kuthetha ukuba bacinezelekile malunga nemiba ephambili ebomini: ukufa, intlupheko, imfazwe kunye nezifo, umzekelo. Izibhengezo zokudakumba zikhona zibangelwa ngamava athile, kodwa ziyakwazi ukuphakama ngokukhawuleza.
Abantwana abane-OE yeemvakalelo nabo banzima ukulungelelanisa ukutshintsha kwaye banokufumana amanqanaba aphezulu okuxhalaba xa befakwa kwiimeko ezintsha okanye kwindawo engaqhelekanga.
Basenokuba neentloni kunye nokukhawuleza ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi yoluntu.
Into onokuyenza njengomzali
Mhlawumbi into ebaluleke kakhulu ongayenza ngomntwana wakho onobubele uyamkela yonke imizwa yakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintliziyo. Impendulo yakho yokuqala ingaba ukufuna ukuxelela umntwana wakho ukuba ayeke ukuphendula okanye ayeke ukwenza iintaba kwiimilaphu. Kodwa khumbula, ezo ntlupheko zibonakala zifana neentaba kumntwana onobubele.
Gwema ukunciphisa okanye ukugxotha imizwa yengane yakho. Ngokomzekelo, musa ukumxelela ukuba "unomdla kakhulu ngenxa yakhe" okanye ukuba "yonke into iya kulungile." Umntwana wakho akakhethi ukuba abe novalo kunokuba unakho ukhululekile kunye naye, kwaye akayi kukholelwa ukuba yonke into iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo, nokuba ngaba uqinisekile ukuba uya kuba-kwaye unokuba uyinyaniso?
Mamela oko umntwana wakho athethe ngaphandle kokugweba. Maxa wambi umntwana wakho ufuna nje ukuqonda. Akafuni inkulumo okanye iingcebiso, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akafuni-okanye kufuneka-ukuziva ugwetywa. Oku kuyinyaniso kubafana abancinci kuba bahlala bekulindeleke ukuba bangaphantsi kwengqondo kunamantombazana amancinci. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana abane-OE babonakala banobuthathaka, ngakumbi abafana abancinci. Gwema ukugxeka umntwana wakho ngenxa yokukhathazeka okanye ukukhusela emhlabeni. Akuncede.
Ncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba aqonde ukuba ukuphakama kwakhe kwemvakalelo kuqhelekileyo kubantwana abanesipho. Esi sizathu esinye sikulungele ukuxoxa ngesipho kunye nomntwana wakho. Unokukunceda umntwana wakho asebenzise ingqiqo yakhe ukuze asebenze kwaye aqonde loo mvakalelo enzulu. Enye indlela yokwenza oku kukudala umlinganiselo wokuphendula umzwelo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kufuneka usebenze nomntwana wakho ukuba enze eso sikrini xa engacasuli. Uyakwazi ukucinga ukuba yeyiphi na isiganeko esingabalulekanga (a-1) ukuya kwisiganeko esiya kuba yingozi (10). Emva koko xa umntwana wakho ecasulayo, ungasebenzisa eso sixa ukumnceda ukuba enze umcimbi ube ngumbono.
Gcinani nikhumbule ukuba abantwana abanomdla abanokwenzakala banokhathazeka kwaye bacasuke xa bengenako ukukwazi ukwenza ngokwabo oko bafuna ukukwenza. Ngokomzekelo, uneminyaka emithathu ubudala unokucinga ngomsebenzi omhle wobugcisa, kodwa izakhono zakhe ezifanelekileyo zezithuthi azenziwanga ngokwaneleyo ukuba amvumele ukuba akwenze. Musa ukumxelela ukuba kulungile. Kuye, akunjalo. Kodwa udumise imizamo yakhe kwaye ugxininise amandla akhe.
Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba asebenze ngeemvakalelo ngokugcina iincwadi, ukubhala amabali okanye imibongo, ukubhala okanye ukudlala umculo, ukudala umsebenzi wobugcisa, okanye ukwenza umsebenzi othile, njengokusebenza okanye ukudansa. Le mi sebenzi iindawo ezinkulu zokuvakalelwa.
Ungalindele ukuba umntwana wakho abe ngumdala omdala. Ungalindelanga ukuba abe nohlobo lokulawulwa kwemvakalelo umntu omdala uya kuba nje ngenxa yokuba ngamanye amaxesha ucinga nokuthetha njengomnye. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, thintela ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba ahambe ngokuziphatha kakubi ngenxa yokuba uphazamisekile. Ukuphula imithetho kufuneka ibe nemiphumo. Nangona kunjalo, akufanele bahlwaywe nje ngokuba neengqondo ezinzulu. Akusiyo impendulo yemvakalelo eyona ngxaki; ukuziphatha okubi. Umzekelo, umntwana akafanele ahlupheke nayiphi na imiphumo yokukhathazeka ngokomzwelo, kodwa ufanele ukuphosa umdlalo kumntu othile ngenxa yokuba uphelelwe ngumsindo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, umntwana akanako ukucebisa ngeengcali. Ukuba ukholelwa ukuba umntwana wakho unokufumana inzuzo evela kwinqanaba elithile, qiniseka ukuba ufumene umcebisi oqhelene nezipho kunye nabantwana abanesiphiwo.