Into yokugqibela yabazali abaninzi abanezingane ezinezipho zicinga ukuba abantwana babo baya kuba neengxaki ngomsebenzi wesikolo. Emva koko, abantwana abanesiphiwo siphumelele kwaye bafunde ngokukhawuleza. Ngelishwa, kubazali abathile, imibono yeakhadi-ingxelo echanekileyo yatshintshwa enye okanye ngaphezulu (okanye zonke) ezi ngxaki:
- Umntwana wenza umsebenzi wesikolo, kodwa akawuphenduleli
- Umntwana uthi wenza esikolweni, kodwa akazange ayenze
- Umntwana uyashenxisa
- Umntwana uphuthuma aze enze iimpazamo ezingakhathaliyo
Akuqhelekanga ukuba umntwana onobuchule abe nazo zonke ezi ngxaki. Kunzima ukukhuthaza umntwana ukuba enze umsebenzi wasekhaya, ingakumbi ukuba umntwana uyashukunyiswa kwangaphakathi. Isinyathelo sokuqala ekuxazululeni le ngxaki yesikolo kukuqonda oko kubangele.
Izizathu Zemiphumo Yomsebenzi Wasekhaya: Iingxaki zabantwana abanezipho
- U ku Khu bazeka
Umntwana onobuchule kunye ne-dyslexia, ingxaki yokucwangcisa ukuphicotha, okanye ukukhubazeka kokufunda kunokufumana kunzima ukwenza kunye nokuba kufanelekile esikolweni nasemsebenzini wesikolo. Abantwana abanikiweyo abanakukhuseleka kwezi zikhubazo kunye nemiphumo yabakhubazeko ekufundeni kwabo kuboniswa kwimisebenzi yabo yasekhaya, kuquka nokuphepha ukuyenza. Abantwana abanikiweyo abanokukhubazeka abangakhange bazibonele banokudideka baze badibaniswe neengxaki abanengqiqo yokuqonda okanye benze umsebenzi wabo wesikolo. Kungaphantsi kweengqondo kunye nokusongela emoyeni ukuphepha ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo ngaphandle kokukwenza kwaye uyaphumele. Ukuba umntwana akazami, unokukwazi ukuziqinisekisa ngokucacileyo ukuba wayenze umsebenzi wesikolo, wayenokwenza kakuhle.
- Ulungelelaniso
Abantwana abanikiweyo abangahlambulukanga - kunye nenani elikhulu labo - banzima ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo ngenxa yokuba baye benza kakubi eso sabelo, belibale ukuzisa incwadi okanye iphepha lokusebenzela ekhaya okanye bawulibale umhla ofunekayo. Abacwangcisi bemihla ngemihla abonakala bengabancedisi aba bantwana kuba bavame ukulahlekelwa, ukungabikho ndawo okanye ukulibala nabo. Ukuba baye bakwazi ukuzisa zonke izinto eziyimfuneko ekhaya kwikhaya elungileyo, banokulibala ukuzithumela esikolweni okanye bangayifumana esikolweni, kodwa bangakwazi ukuyifumana kwi-backpack yabo okanye bayifake kwideskiti okanye kwi-locker esikolweni, apho iyalala khona kude kube sekupheleni kwe-semester okanye unyaka wesikolo.
- Perfectionism
Abantwana abagqibeleleyo bahlala bexhala ukugqiba umsebenzi wabo wesikolo ngenxa yokuba abaziveki kakuhle. Ukuba ayingqinelani nemigangatho yabo, edla ukuphakama kakhulu, banokukhungatheka. Ngexesha elide, banokuthi bahlaziywe ukuze baphephe ukukhungatheka. Abantwana be-Perfectionist banokugqiba umsebenzi wabo wesikolo, kodwa ke bayakuhoxisa ukuyivula ngenxa yokuba abanelisekanga okanye abavakalelwa kukuba kubonakalisa amandla abo okwenene kwaye abafuni ukuba utitshala wabo awubone kwaye awuhlole. I-Perfectionists inokukhetha kwakhona ukubeka umgudu omncinci emsebenzini wabo kuba iyakwazi ukulinganisa ukungabikho kokufezekiswa ngokungabikho komzamo. - Ukungabi noMngeni
Umsebenzi ongeyomngeni okanye okhuthazayo unokuba nzima gqitha ukugqiba loo bantwana abanobuchule baya kuphepha ukukwenza kuzo zonke iindleko. Imisebenzi, nayiphi na umntwana, kufuneka ibe ngumngeni onzima. Oko kuthetha ukuba akufanele kube lula okanye kunzima kakhulu. ImiSebenzi enzima kakhulu ingakhokelela ekubeni uxhalabe kanti imisebenzi elula kakhulu ingakhokelela ekukhunjeni . Kwimeko zombini, abantwana bakuthola kunzima ukugxila kulo msebenzi. Baya kuphepha imisebenzi ukwenzela ukuba bagweme ukuvakalelwa - kungakhathaliseki ukuxhalaba okanye ukuxhalaba - okuza kunye nayo. Xa abantwana banikwe imisebenzi enzima kakhulu, banokufumana uncedo lokufunda iikhontrakthi okanye ukugqiba umsebenzi. Nangona kunjalo, xa imisebenzi ilula, akukho ncedo luyimfuneko; Abantwana kulindeleke ukuba bazalise imisebenzi, nangona i-boredom yenza kube nzima ukugxila kumsebenzi njengokuba uxhalaba. Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana baya kukwazi ukugqitywa ngokukhawuleza ngokwaneleyo ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo, kodwa baya kukhwela ngelokuba benze oko kwaye ngenxa yoko, benza iimpazamo ezininzi ezingakhathaliyo.
Indlela yokuSombulula iingxaki zeKhaya
- Fumana Uncedo lokukhubazeka kokuFunda
Abantwana abanikiweyo abanesiphene sokufunda banokuba neengxaki zomsebenzi wesikolo. Njengabo bonke abantwana abanokukhubazeka kokufunda, abantwana abanesakhono kufuneka bafunde indlela yokulawula ukukhubazeka kunye neemfuno zokufunda ezizodwa kunye nokuhlala kwamagumbi okufundela ukwenzela ukuba basebenze kumgangatho wabo wokukwazi. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba abantwana abanesakhono bahlala bexilongwa ngeengxaki ezifana ne-ADHD, i-bipolar, kunye ne- ODD (ukuchasana nokuphazamiseka kwengxaki.) Ezinye izikhubazo zokufunda zifumaneka kwi-IQ kunye nokuphumelela kwamanqaku. Kufuneka kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuba iingxaki zomsebenzi wesikolo zinokubangela ezininzi; ukukhangela ukukhubazeka akufanele kube yinto yokuqala eqwalaselwa ngayo.
- Nceda Abantwana bahlelwe
Abanye abantwana banenkinga yokufumana umsebenzi wesikolo ngenxa yokuba bayalibala ukuyiyisa ekhaya, bayalibala iincwadi abayifunayo ukuba bayenze, bayalibale ukuba babuyiselwe esikolweni, okanye bayalibale xa kulungile. Ukuba bayayikhumbula konke oko, banokulahlekelwa umsebenzi wesikolo, ekugqibeleni ekugqibeleni ukunyuka - ekupheleni konyaka wesikolo, obanjwe ngamaphepha amaninzi angaphantsi kwideski yomntwana okanye i-locker.
U-Eileen Bailey, owayengumchwepheli we-ADD / ADHD, wayeneengcebiso ezintle zokuncedisa abantwana ukuba bahleleke. Nangona abantwana abaninzi abanesakhono abanalo i-ADD / ADHD, abanye badinga uncedo lokugcina umsebenzi wabo. Isiphakamiso esisodwa yiSiqalo sokulungiselela. Abantwana beyeka umsebenzi wesikolo kunye neencwadi ngebhayisiki xa bebuya ekhaya bevela esikolweni, bathathe kwibhaksi xa ixesha lokwenza umsebenzi wesikolo, belibuyisele kwikhasikiti xa lenziwe. Ngentsasa yonke into abayidingayo kwindawo enye, ukulungele ukuya esikolweni.
Nangona ufumana umntwana wakho ukuba enze umsebenzi wesikolo kwaye abuyele esikolweni, akukho siqinisekiso sokuba umntwana wakho uya kuwujika. Ungayenza ntoni ukuze uqinisekise ukuba umsebenzi wesikolo uphendulelwa? Iplastiki, iifolda ezandisiweyo kunye namacandelo ahlukeneyo yindlela efanelekileyo yokunceda abantwana baqhubeke nomkhondo womsebenzi omele uguqulwe. Igumbi ngalinye liyakubhalwe phantsi ukuze umntwana azi apho umsebenzi wesikolo owenziwe kwiklasi nganye. Ifolda yokwandisa ingasetyenziselwa kunye ne-Basketball yokulungiselela. Xa umsebenzi wesikolo usuphelile, kunokuba ubeke nje kwibhaksi, unokufakwa kwindawo efanelekileyo yefowuni ekhulayo, egcinwe kwibhaksi.
Ezi zakhono zingasebenza kubantwana kunye nabantwana abancinci, kodwa abatsha banokufumana umququzeleli wekhompyutha, njengomqhubi wesundu, o luncedo. Abaselula bathanda izixhobo zobuchwepheshe, ngoko banokukhuthazwa ngakumbi ukugcina umkhondo wabo msebenzi wabo ngekhompyutha. Iphelisa imisebenzi eyabhalwa kwiindawo ezininzi ezahlukeneyo, kubandakanywa iincwadana ezincinane zephepha. Nangona kunjalo, oku kusenokuba lukhethi olufanelekileyo kulabo bantwana abalahlekelwa ngaphezu kweyomsebenzi wabo wesikolo. - Beka ixesha leNkcazo yokwenza umsebenzi wasekhaya
Abantwana abanikiweyo bahlala bekhawuleza ngomsebenzi wesikolo olula kakhulu kubo. Bazimisele ukukwenza ukwenzela ukuba bakwazi ukuqhubela phambili kwimisebenzi enomdla kunye nokukhuthaza. Esinye isisombululo kule ngxaki kukufumana ixesha elimisiweyo imihla ngemihla ukugqiba umsebenzi wesikolo. Eli thuba kufuneka lisetyenziswe ekufundeni ukuba umntwana unomsebenzi wesikolo okanye awukho. Xa abantwana benomsebenzi wesikolo, bayazi ukuba kufuneka bakwenze ngeli xesha. Ukuba umsebenzi wesikolo uthatha imizuzu elishumi elinesihlanu kuphela kunye nexesha lokufunda labo elinikezelweyo liyure enye, kufuneka bazalise ixesha elisele kunye novavanyo olongezelelweyo.
Uphando olongezelelweyo olwenziwa abantwana luyakwazi ukwenza imisebenzi yokucebisa. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntwana unomsebenzi wokudweba imephu yokwandiswa koBukumkani baseRoma, bangabhala isicatshulwa maRoma okanye bangabhala ibali elifutshane malunga nejoni laseRoma. Xa abantwana beyazi ukuba kufuneka bazalise ixesha lokufunda, abanako ukunyuka ngomsebenzi wabo wesikolo ukuze bawenze kwaye baqhubekele kwezinye izinto.
Ixesha lokufunda lemihla ngemihla kufuneka libe lixesha elifanayo yonke imihla. Abazali bafanele baxoxe ngeendlela zabo kunye nabantwana babo ukuze abantwana bakwazi ukulawula. Ngokomzekelo, abantwana bangakhetha ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo emva kokufunda esikolweni okanye banokukhetha ukwenza oko kanye emva kokutya. Kubalulekile, nangona kunjalo, ukuba ixesha lilinganayo yonke imihla. Abantwana abanako ukukhetha ukwenza emva kwesikolo ngolunye usuku emva koko emva kokutya ngesinye imini, kuxhomekeke kwimoya yabo.
Nangona ixesha lokufundela ekhaya kufuneka libe lifanayo imihla ngemihla, abantwana ababandakanyeka kwimisebenzi yecandelo elithile bangadinga ixesha elilucothayo. Kungadinga ukwenza umsebenzi wesikolo emva kwesikolweni ngoMsombuluko kuba baneklasi yokudanisa emva kokutya kodwa baya kwenza umsebenzi wesikolo emva kokudliwayo kwenye imihla. Ngamanye amazwi, ishedyuli kufuneka ihlale ihambelana kwaye ingekelwe kwiimvakalelo zemihla ngemihla. Abantwana abayikufunda ukuba ukucwangcisa ixesha lomsebenzi wesikolo kubalulekile, baya kufunda noqeqesho lwexesha elifanelekileyo. - Thetha noTitshala
Ngokufanelekileyo, ootitshala baya kuqonda isidingo somsebenzi wesikolo omninzi kwaye baya kukulungele ukubonelela. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana uye waba neengxaki zokufumana umsebenzi wesikolo owenziweyo kwaye uguqulelwe ixesha elide kangangokuba uye waba ngumkhwa, ezinye izicwangciso zingadingeka esikolweni, nokuba ngaba ootitshala banika umsebenzi onzima okanye awunayo. Ezinye izikolo zinomsebenzi wokusebenzela ekhaya owenziwa ngabazali abangakwazi ukubiza ukuba bafumane umsebenzi weekhaya. Ukongeza, abanye ootitshala baneeWebhsayithi, apho bahambisa khona izabelo. Abazali banokuzihlolisisa ootitshala babantwana babo ukuba babone ukuba kukho i-hotline enjalo kwaye ukuba kunjalo, yintoni inani leenombolo zokongezwa kootitshala. Abazali banokukhangela kwiiWebhsayithi baze bafumane idilesi yeWebhu.
Abazali banokuhlela kunye notitshala ukuba asayine amaphepha emihla ngemihla ngomsebenzi wesikolo. Nsuku zonke umntwana ubhala umsebenzi wasekhaya kwaye utitshala utyikitye iphepha, nangona kungekho msebenzi wesikolo. Abantwana abakwaziyo ukuba abanakho umsebenzi wesikolo xa bekwenza. Ngaloo mihla abantwana abanakho umsebenzi wesikolo, kufuneka bachithe ixesha lokusebenzela ekhaya. Nangona kunjalo, ukwenzela ukuba le nkqubo isebenze, abantwana kunye nabazali mabavumelane ngesizathu sokungaphumeleli ukubuyisela kwikhaya isayiti yomsebenzi osayinwe.
Imilinganiselo emihle yokufunda ibalulekile ekuphumeleleni esikolweni kwaye ezi zicwangciso zinokukunceda ukuphucula loo migaqo.