U-Kazimierz Dabrowski wayengumgqirha wezengqondo wasePoland owaye wenza iTheory of Positive Disintegration, Le ngqungquthela ibandakanya oko uDabrowski abiza ngokuthi "ukukhululeka" okanye "ukukhathazeka okukhulu," okubonakala kwimimandla ehlukileyo elandelayo: ukuqonda, iingcamango, iimvakalelo , iintlobo ezintlanu, inkqubo ye neuromuscular. Ezi zinto ezinhlanu zidala iziqhamo ezininzi eziqaphelekayo ezininzi zabantwana abanamakhono.
Yintoni Ingqiqo?
Ukugqithiseleka kwengqondo kubonakaliswe ngentshukumo ekhuselekileyo yengqondo. Kodwa oko akuthethi kuthi, ukuba ixhala malunga nokuphumelela kwemfundo. Kunoko, ixhalabele uthando lwenyaniso kunye nokufuna ukuqonda. Abantwana abanesipho esinokubangela ukugqithiseka okuninzi abanakho ukuphumelela esikolweni, kodwa basenomdla kakhulu kwaye banomdla wokufunda.
Izibonakaliso zolu xanduva oluphezulu luyinqanaba eliphezulu lokufuna ukwazi, ukuxininisa okujulile, amandla okunyamekela imizamo yolwazi kunye nemiba eyahlukahlukeneyo. Abantwana abanalo ukukhuphaza kakhulu bavame ukuba ngabafundi abanomdla ekufuneni kwabo ulwazi. Ziyizona zixazululo zeengxaki kunye nokuthanda ukuhlela.
La bantwana bacela imibuzo enzulu kunye neengxaki, imibuzo malunga noThixo, ukufa, kunye nenjongo yobomi, umzekelo. Ziyinkcazelo kwaye zichazwe kwaye ziyakhathazeka ngeengxaki ezithile, ngokuqhelekileyo ezo zibandakanya imiba yokuziphatha.
Abantu bavame ukukholelwa ukuba ukugqithiseleka kwengqondo kufana neengqondo eziphezulu, kodwa akunjalo. Abantwana abanengqondo ngokugqithiseleyo bavame ukuba nomdla kwiziganeko zenkcubeko, imiba yoluntu kunye nokufunda iindidi ezintsha. Abantwana ngaphandle kokuxhatshazwa kakhulu okanye ngezinga elincinci, bathambekele ekubeni neenjongo ezinjalo kwaye kunokuthi bavelele kwiinkcukacha zobulumko.
I-Upside ye-Intellectual Overexcability
Abantwana abanokuxhatshazwa kakhulu ngabafundi abaqinileyo kunye neengxaki zokusombulula iingxaki. Bayaziqaphela, bebona izinto abanye abangaziphosa ngokulula. Bangakwazi ukuxhasa imizamo yengqondo, ukugcina ingqalelo kunye nokugxininisa - xa babona umzamo wokufaneleka. Bavame ukuba ngabacebisi abakhulu. Baye bathambekele ekubeni ngabacingeli abazimeleyo kwaye banandipha imfundiso kunye nokuxubusha (ukucinga ngokucinga). Ezi mpawu zinokukwenza abo baphandi abagqwesileyo abanengqondo.
Umgca we-Intellectual Overexcability
Abo banokukhushulwa banokupheliswa lula ngomsebenzi esikolweni ukuba ngaba abayithinteli ngokwaneleyo. Emva koko, banomdla kakhulu kwaye banempumelelo xa befunda ulwazi olutsha. Iingcinga zabo zihlala zisebenza kwaye ke ziyakwazi ukunyamezela abo bajikelezayo abangakwazi ukuqhubeka nabo. Ngamanye amaxesha ukunyamezela kuyaphuma njengokugxeka. Basenokungxininisa kwiingcamango zabo abaziphosakeleyo abanye abakutshoyo - njengotitshala - ingakumbi xa kungabonakali umdla kubo. Basenokuphazamisa abanye ngokungafanelekanga ngenxa yokuba abanakuqulatha umdla wabo ngombono.
Aba bantwana bahlala benenkathazo yokulala ebusuku ngenxa yokuba abanako "ukucima" ubuchopho babo.
Into onokuyenza njengomzali
Qonda iinqwenela zomntwana wakho kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukumnceda ukuba afunde into enomdla kuyo. Khuphula intshukumo yakhe , kodwa qiniseka ukuba uyamzisa kwizihloko ezintsha zokufunda. Thatha umntwana wakho kwiimyuziyam kunye ne-aquariums, xa kunokwenzeka, kodwa qiniseka ukuba uhlolisise iinkqubo zoluntu zasekuhlaleni, ngakumbi ukuba umntwana wakho uselula.
Ngelixa abantwana abanesiphiwo esinokuba nolwazi kwaye bafuna ukufunda konke abakwaziyo, basenokungazi indlela yokufumana iimpendulo kwimibandela yabo. Bancede bafunde ukwenza oko.
Oku kuquka ukufumana iziza ezifanelekileyo kwi-intanethi nokufumana iincwadi kwilayibrari yendawo. Unokuphinda usebenze nomntwana wakho ukuba abhale phantsi ulwazi olufunekayo ukuze uphendule imibuzo engumntwana wakho. Ukumnceda ukuba afunde indlela yokufumana ulwazi olufunayo uya kumnika oko akufunayo ukuqonda iingcamango aze amvumele ukuba aqokelele ulwazi oluqokelelayo.
Khumbuza umntwana wakho ukuba abantu bahluke. Akuyena wonke umntu oza kuba nomdla kwizihloko ezifanayo kunye nabanye abantu bangathatha ixesha elide ukuba baqonde iingcamango. Xoxa nomntwanakho malunga nendlela yokubaluleka okungabangela ukulimaza kwaye akunjalo.
Qonda ukuba umntwana wakho unokuba nexesha elinzima lokulala ebusuku, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba kunzima, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ingqondo yakhe ayiyi kuyeka ukusebenza. Unokuba ufuna ukuguqula ixesha lakho lokuhlala ixesha lokuhlwa ukuze uncede uvale ingqondo yakhe aze alele.