Abaninzi abanabantwana abanesipho banomdla kakhulu. Kubonakala ngathi bathatha yonke into entliziyweni baze bathukutheke kakhulu ngamazwi nangezenzo abanye abantwana abangayihoywa okanye bahambe ngokukhawuleza. Abazali banceda njani abantwana babo abanobubele ukuba babhekane nale mvakalelo? Nazi ezinye iziphakamiso ezinokukunceda.
Qonda ukuba Yintoni ebangela ukuqonda
Abantu bavame ukukholelwa ukuba abantwana abanobubele banomculo kwaye banokwenza ingxabano phezu kwezinto.
Nangona abanye abantwana abanesiphiwo esinokuthi babe nefuthe elimangalisayo, loo nto ayinciphisi ubunzima beemvakalelo zabo. Aba bantwana mhlawumbi banalo isiphi isazi sengqondo seKazimierz Dabrowsk esibizwa ngokuba ngumntu ophakamileyo okanye okhululekileyo . Oko kuthetha ukuba ngokwenene bavakalelwa kakhulu iimvakalelo kunabanye.
Yenza Umntwana Wakho Adale Ukuphendula Kwengqondo
Abantwana abanobubele bentliziyo babonakala bephendula kwiimeko ezimbi ezinjengekuphela kwehlabathi. Akunakunceda oko bavakalelwa, kodwa banokufunda ukubeka eli liva ngoluvo olufanelekileyo, olunokubanceda bakwazi ukujamelana neemvakalelo zabo ezinamandla. Gcina umlinganiselo wokuphendula umzwelo ulungele ukuba wena nomntwana wakho ningabhekisela kuyo xa kuyimfuneko. Kusenokuba usenokuba nomntwana wakho enze iposta yoluhlu ukuze aqhubeke nodonga lwakhe lokulala. Nanini na ukuba umntwana wakho athukuthele kakhulu, unokucela umntwana wakho ukuba alinganise ngokwezinga.
Kakade, banokuthi benze njengokungathi sisiganeko seshumi, kodwa ke babuze ukuba bayakholelwa ukuba isiganeko sifana nesiganeko seshumi kwinqanaba. Baya kubona ukuba akunjalo. Ekugqibeleni, baya kuba nako ukukwazi ukulawula iimpendulo zabo ngeemeko ezahlukeneyo ebomini babo.
Indlela yokudala isilinganiselo sokuphendula ngokomzwelo
- Thatha iphepha kunye nokubhala amanani aphakathi kweshumi kwiluhlu lwamanani
- Buza umntwana wakho oko akucinga ukuba yinto eyona nto eyona nto ingenzeka kakhulu. Kufuneka usebenze kule nto njengoko impendulo yokuqala uyenayo ingaba yinto encinci njengokulahlekelwa ithoyiyithandi oyintandokazi. Impendulo efanelekileyo ngakumbi iya kuba indlu iyavutha okanye into ehambisana nale miqolo. Bhala le mpendulo phantsi kombolo yeshumi.
- Buza umntwana wakho oko acinga ukuba yinto encinci kunokwenzeka. Oku kunokuba lula ngakumbi kunomxholo weshumi. Kungaba into efana nokulala kwisiqingatha seyure ngaphambi kwexesha eliqhelekileyo. Naliphi na isiganeko, kufuneka sibe yinto engalunganga. Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana baya kufuna ukukhetha into engathathi hlangothi, oko kukuthi, into engayikhathalele. Bhala le mcimbi ecaleni kwinombolo eyodwa.
- Fumana isiganeko ukuba ubhale kwinombolo emihlanu kwindawo. Emva kokuba isigqibo sesigqibo seshumi nesibalo sinye sigqityiweyo, kulula ukuza nomcimbi wesihlanu. Ncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba afike kunye neyona nto ingalunganga kwaye kungeyonto encinci, kodwa ephakathi kwembini.
- Gcwalisa amanye amanani kwiluhlu. Oku kungathatha ixesha elithile lokuphindaphinda. Wena nomntwana wakho kufuneka nibone ukuqhubela phambili ukusuka kumncinci ukuya kwiyona nto enokwenzeka kakhulu.
Yazisa Imvakalelo Yomntwana Wakho
Khumbula ukuba iimvakalelo zomntwana wakho zinamandla kwaye ezi mva zingekho ngaphaya kokulawula kwakhe. Gwema ukuthetha izinto ezinjenge "Utshutshe kakhulu" okanye "Yeka ukuphendula ngokugqithiseleyo." Amazwi anjalo ayinakunceda kuphela, angenza umntwana azive ngakumbi kwaye aze enze umntwana azive ngathi kufuneka kubekho into engalunganga kuye. Oku kunzima kubafana abancinci kakhulu, abafanele ukuba babe nefuthe emoyeni, ngokwemigangatho yoluntu.
Ekuhambeni kwexesha, umntwana wakho uya kukwazi ukujamelana nemvakalelo yakhe eninzi, kodwa akayi kuphuma.
Ezi zintlungu zengqondo ziyinxalenye yomntu wokwenza izinto kwaye zikhona ubomi! Nangona kunjalo, ezi ngcebiso zingabancedisa abantwana abanentsingiselo yokufunda ukulawula loo mvakalelo enzulu.