Bonke abantwana banokwesaba, ngakumbi ebusuku, kodwa ukwesaba abantwana abanesiphiwo esinokubakho kunokuba nzima. Okokuba ukwesaba kwabo kunzulu akufanele ukuza kumangaliswa kuba abantwana abaneempesheni banamandla malunga phantse yonke into . Abanye abantwana abanesiphiwo esinokubangela ukwesaba kangangokuthi kuya kufutshane.
Ezinye izizathu zoyika
Uloyiko lunokubangelwa zimbalwa zezinto.
Ezinye ukwesaba zibangelwa ngamava amanxeba. Ezi nkxalabo zingaphaya kweli nqaku, kwaye nangona ezinye izicwangciso ezixoxwa apha zinganceda kakhulu, ukwesaba okubangelwa ngamava obuhlungu kunokufuna unyango lobugcisa . Abantwana ababone ubungangonyango ekhaya, esikolweni okanye kwibandla, umzekelo, kufuneka baxoxe kunye neengqondo zeengqondo.
Okuqhelekileyo, ukwesaba abantwana kungabangela umcango osebenzayo. Abantwana abanikiweyo abanokukhathazeka ngokwemvakalelo kunye nokugqithiseleka kwengqondo kunokuba banokuzithemba ngakumbi kule nkxalabo kwaye banokuvakalelwa kakhulu.
Abantwana abancinci baya kucingela izilwanyana kwi-closet kunye ne-boogeymen phantsi kweibhedi zabo. Ukuhambisa izithunzi ezenziwe ngamakhethini afakazela emoyeni wefestile evulekile kunokukwenza umntwana acinge ngesidalwa esingabonakaliyo esibhakazelayo egumbini. Kwaye abantwana abaneminyaka eyaneleyo yokwazi umahluko phakathi kwefantasy kunye neyinyaniso bangenwa ngamaxesha amaninzi.
Abantwana abakhulileyo bahlakulela ukwesaba abantu njengokwesaba ukuthetha phambi kwamaqela. Olu hlobo lwenkoyiko, nalo, lunokuba ngumphumo weengcamango ezisebenzayo. Umntwana unokucingela into eyona nto engenzekayo-eyenza iphutha kunye nokuhleka, umzekelo.
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Ukuxelela umntwana ukwesaba kwakhe akunangqiqo okanye nje uthi, "Musa ukukhathazeka" akuyi kunceda umntwana ashiye ezo nkwantyizo.
Ukuba kwakungelula, bambalwa abantwana abaya kuyika! Kunoko, unike umntwana wakho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokusebenzisa ukujamelana noyiko.
- Ukusebenzisa ingcamango
Ukuba ukwesaba umntwana kuvela ngcamango ecacileyo, unokunceda umntwana wakho afunde ukugxila kwengqondo yakhe ngeendlela ezilungileyo. Umzekelo, umntwana ocinga iilitye kwi-closet okanye i-boogeymen phantsi kombhede angasebenzisa ingcamango efanayo yokukhupha amaqhawe okanye iingelosi ukuba zize zixoshe izilo kunye nama-boogeymen.
Sebenzisana nomntwana wakho ukumnceda ukuba aqonde indlela yokusebenzisa ingcamango ecacileyo ngeendlela ezilungileyo.Sebenzayo ngexesha lexa umntwana wakho engesabi, ngemini, umzekelo. Buza umntwana wakho ukuba athethe ngezinto acinga ngazo okwenzekayo ngexesha loloyiko. Emva koko cela umntwana wakho ukuba acinge ngezinto ezinokuthi zenzeke ukwenza loo mqathango ibe ngcono. Umntwana ozicingela izilwanyana kwikhempi, umzekelo, unokuzama ukucinga ingqungquthela oza kulwa kwaye axoshe izilo.
Umntwana wakho unokuba neqhawe eliyintandokazi okanye i heroine kwaye ukuba kunjalo, umntwana wakho unokubiza ukuba iqhawe lize lize lincede ukutshabalalisa iindwendwe ezicatshulwayo. Abantwana abakwaziyo ukucinga ukuba abahlali bayakwazi ukucinga amaqhawe. Abantwana abakwaziyo ukucinga imicimbi eyoyikisayo bayakwazi ukucinga iziphumo ezilungileyo kwezo ziganeko.
Ukuba umntwana wakho unguHarry Potter umtsalane, unokuxoxa ngesipelingi "Ukuhlambalaza." Ngenye indlela, ngokwenene, yokugxila ingcamango yokunqanda ukwesaba. Esikhundleni sokubamba iqhawe elinye okanye elinye ukuza kuncedisa, umntwana wakho unokucinga ngeso siqhelo uze ucinge into eyenza i-monster ehlekisayo.
Abantwana abakhulileyo abanesiseko sokwesaba ngaphezulu kwiindawo zoluntu zoluntu kunokuba izilo ekhaya zingasebenzisa le qhinga. Umntwana onokucinga ukuba abantu bayabahleka njengoko bethetha intetho, umzekelo, unokufunda ukucinga abantu bavuya. Kule meko, yinto yokucinga okulungileyo. Ukucinga kakubi kukukhokelela ekucingeni iziphumo ezimbi, ngelixa ukucinga okulungileyo kukukhokelela ekucingeni iziphumo ezilungileyo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntwana uneminyaka engakanani okanye uloyiko loloyiko, isicwangciso sithatha ixesha lokuphuhlisa. Ukucinga okungafanelekanga kunye nokugxininisa ukwesaba akukwazi ukutshintshwa ngobusuku.
- Benzisa i Props
Iintlobo ezithile zeeprothi zingancedisa abantwana abanoyikayo ukuba babhekane neengxaki. Olunye uhlobo lwepropati yinto ethile engasetyenziselwa ukuphawula amandla entle ekuncedeni ukulwa nezilo okanye ezinye izidalwa eziyingozi. Esi sikhulu sinokuba yintsimbi encinci okanye isilwanyana esinyeneyo esenza isandi xa sinyanyisiwe. Ukubetha intsimbi okanye ukucima isilwanyana kunceda njengenxeba loncedo, kodwa yinto engumqondiso kumntwana ukuba asebenze ngokucacileyo ngcamango yakhe. Olu hlobo lwesiprogram lusebenza kakuhle ngokunxulumene nesicwangciso sokuqala.
Isibini sesibini ibhotile epheleleyo egcwele amanzi. Umntwana ugcina le bhotile isebenze ebusuku xa besoloko besoyika. Unokuxelela umntwana wakho ukuba ibhotile igcwele umlingo womlingo ophuphuma okanye othumisayo kwizilwanyana nezinye izidalwa ezimbi. Esi sicwangciso sisetyenziswe ikakhulu kubantwana abancinci, nangona abantwana abadala bangasebenzisa iingcamango zabo ukwenzela ukuba esi sicwangciso siqhubeke sisinceda.
Umzekelo, umntwana osekhulile angazi kakuhle kakuhle ukuba ibhotile igcwele amanzi, ukuba akukho nto enjengomlingo wamagic, kodwa unokuyichazela umntwana wakho ukuba umlingo wokucinga umlenze usebenza ngokunjalo nezidalwa eziyingozi ezicinga. Kwakhona, nceda umntwana wakho afunde ukugxila kwengqondo yakhe ukudala izinto ezintle kuneemeko ezimbi.
Iprops ingaba yintoni na eyenzela uncedo kumntwana. Nokuba ifoni yokudlala ingasetyenziselwa ukubiza umkhosi wezinto ezintle unokusebenza. Konke kuxhomekeka kumntwana kunye noko umntwana akufumanisayo kuya kunceda ukuvuselela ingcamango yakhe. Abantwana abakhulileyo bangakwazi ukuthwala iipenki zenkcenkcesha okanye iinkcenkcesho ezikhethekileyo ozilungiselele. Iprop ngokwayo ayibalulekanga. Ingqwalasela eyona nto ibonelela ukuba ibalulekile.
Abanye abantwana banokuziva bephuculwe ngokukhanya ebusuku, kodwa abanye abantwana banokufumana izithunzi eziphonswe ngobusuku bokukhanya ukuze ziphephe. Umntwana wakho unokufuna ukukhanya okungakumbi. Izibane eziphuma ngaphandle akuyona imeko efanelekileyo kunazo zonke abantwana abaneengcinga ezingaphezulu. Ukuba ukhathazeka ukuba umntwana wakho uya kufundeka ukulala nezibane, zikhumbuze ukuba bambalwa ukuba ikhona, abantwana baya kwikholeji balala kunye nezibane!
Yintoni ebalulekileyo kukuba abazali banceda abantwana babo baphathe ukwesaba kwabo ngaphandle kokugxotha ingcamango yabo.