Bonke abantwana baya kuhlakulela izizathu zokuziphatha kwabo ngexesha elinye. "Akusiyo iphoso lam!" Yindlela evame ukuphendula ngayo abantwana xa bephula imithetho. Kodwa kwabanye abantwana, izizathu ezingapheliyo ziba yingxaki yangempela.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uthe izinto ezinje, "ndimele ndimbethe ngenxa yokuba wangikhayisa kuqala," okanye "Akusiyo iphoso lam ndilibale umsebenzi wam ekhaya.
Utitshala wam akasiniki ixesha elaneleyo lokufumana iincwadi zam emva kwesikolo, "kubalulekile ukuyilungisa ngokukhawuleza. Ngaphandle koko, umntwana wakho uya kuba ngumntu omdala ongavumiyo ukufumana uxanduva lwakhe malunga nezenzo zakhe.
Hlala uphole
Gwema ukuphikisana nomntwana wakho xa efuna into engekho iphoso lakho. Ngaphandle koko unomngcipheko wokufumana umzabalazo wamandla . Kunoko, phendula ngokulile . Yenza kucacise ukuba isizathu sakhe sokuziphatha asiyi kuthetha ukuba akayilo xanduva.
Bhala isizathu sakhe kwaye umkhumbuze uxanduva lwakhe. Yithi, "Uphethe indlela oziphatha ngayo," okanye, "Kukho ukufumana iindlela zokusombulula loo ngxaki."
Khuthaza uxanduva lomntu
Fundisa umntwana wakho umehluko phakathi kwengcaciso kunye nesizathu. Umzekelo, ukuxelela uthisha wakhe ukuba akakho ngenxa yokuba wayegula ngokusemthethweni ingcaciso. Okwangoku, ukuxelela utitshala wakhe inja wayidla umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo.
Ingcaciso iyamkela uxanduva lomntu xa isizathu sithatha ukugxeka abanye abantu.
Inkcazo ithetha ukunceda abanye baqonde imeko, ngelixa isizathu sokuthi uxolo luvame ukubhekiselele kwimpazamo.
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana (kunye nabantu abadala) banenkinga yokuqonda umahluko. Kodwa kuxabisa ixesha kunye nomzamo wokunceda umntwana wakho abone ukuba kukho umda omkhulu phakathi kokugxeka abanye kunye nokwamkela uxanduva lomntu.
Indima idlala imiba eyahlukeneyo kwaye ubuze umntwana wakho ukuba abone xa usenza isikhalazo xa usinika inkcazelo. Ngokuziqhelanisa, umntwana wakho unokukhula ukuqonda ukuba umehluko.
Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba achaze iinkcazo kunye nezizathu xa ukhangele ibhayisikobho okanye ufunda incwadi. Njengoko ukuqonda kwakhe kukhula, uya kuba ngcono xa eqonda xa abantu bezama ukuphepha uxanduva lwabo.
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Xa umntwana wakho ezama ukugxeka abanye abantu ngenxa yeempazamo kunye neengxaki zakhe, jongela phambili ekukhethweni kwakhe kwindlela aphendula ngayo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uthe, "Ndinebanga elibi kwiprojekthi yam kuba utitshala akazange achaze indlela yokwenza ngayo," buza, "Yintoni onokuyenza malunga naloo nto?" Thetha malunga nokuba unokucela njani ukucaciswa okanye afune uncedo, kunokuba asolwe ngutitshala ngenxa yebanga lakhe elibi.
Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana wakho akwazi ukubona ukuba ukhethe indlela aphendula ngayo. Ukuba udade wakhe uyamkhahlela, akafanele ukuba ambethe. Kunoko, unokucela uncedo, mxelele ukuba ayeke, okanye ashiye imeko. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwenzekani malunga naye, ekugqibeleni unembopheleleko yokhetho lwakhe.
Ukugxininisa ukufunda kwiimpazamo
Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba iimpazamo zithuba lokufunda.
Xa abantwana bejonga iimpazamo njengendlela yokubanceda bafunde, abanako ukuzama ukufihla iimpazamo zabo okanye ukugxeka abanye abantu. Ubonise ukuba ukwenza iimpazamo akubi, kodwa kubalulekile ukufundela kwezo mpazamo ukuze bangaziphindaphindi.
Dumise umntwana wakho ngokuthetha inyaniso okanye ukuthatha uxanduva lokuziphatha kwakhe. Xa uthetha izinto ezinje, "Andizange ndimbethe xa engangenzanga," mkhumbuze ngenyameko ukuba akukho mntu wamenza wenza nantoni na ukuba ukhetha indlela aziphatha ngayo. Emva koko, xa ezolile ukuthetha malunga noko angakwenza ngokungafaniyo ngexesha elizayo.