Masiqale siphume ngendlela ngendlela amaphupha okukopela aqhelekileyo ngokukhulelwa. Xa kuziwa kumaphupha okukhulelwa , ayaziwa ngokuba yinto engavumelekanga. Abanye abantu baphupha ngezinto ezibonakala zingenangqondo, ngelixa abanye baphupha iingxaki zabo, njengokushiya umntwana kwindawo engaziwayo okanye eyingozi. Abanye abafazi baphupha ngokukopela. Bobabini malunga nokukopela kumlingane wabo kunye nokukhohliswa.
Oku akusiyo iphupha eliqhelekileyo lokuba nelokhulelwe , nangona kunokunyanzelisa ngokwenene ukuvuka kuphazamiseke. Kukhona inzuliso enganakuzilungelelanisa ekuqinisweni njengoko uvuka kwaye uzibuze ukuba kwenzeka ntoni ngempela.
Ukuba uphupha ngokukopela, ungadani ukucinga ngephupha. Ingaba malunga ne-ex-boyfriend? Oku kunokuba kukubukeka kwixesha lakho elidlulileyo, njengokuthi "Ngaba ubomi bam buya kuba njani ukuba ndibe nezingane ..." Musa ukwethuka, akuthethi ukuba unomnqweno ofihlakeleyo wokukopela wakho iqabane.
Ngaba ngaba udumo? (Musa ukuhleka.) Abantu abaninzi banamaphupha malunga nabadumileyo, ngenxa yokuba bayaziwa, bahlala bekhangele abantu. Unokucinga ukuba "ukhuselekileyo" ukuba awuyikubeka ingozi yokulala noBrad Pitt.
Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukuba ucinge ngako ukuba uphupha ukuba ukhohlisiwe. Kwakhona, khangela iphupha?
Ngubani na? Kutheni ucinga ngale nto? Ngamanye amaxesha ukwesaba okungaziwa. Ngamanye amaxesha unenkxalabo malunga nomzimba wakho utshintsha okanye ulwalamano lwakho lushintsha. Akusona uphawu lokuba ukhohlisiwe.
Unokufuna ukucinga ngokwakho - Le iphupha kwaye ayisekelwe kwinyani.
Emva koko ungasayi kuphinda ucinge ngako konke. Leyo yindlela efanelekileyo yokumelana nale mibono ephazamisayo.
Ngaba Ngaba La maphupha Ethetha Ngokwenene Into?
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubani ophuphayo, unokukushiya uzibuza ukuba yiyiphi into ephakamileyo. Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuba abafazi abakhulelweyo banamaphupha aphazamisayo. Oku kubangelwa ingqondo yethu esebenzayo ngokuxhalabisa ngeemeko xa silala. Inani lamaphupha aloo mvelo ludla phambili ukuya phambili ekukhulelweni.
Thetha nomlingane / iqabane lakho malunga namaphupha. Batshele ntoni malunga nawe. Akukho nto inokuhlaziswa ngayo. Enyanisweni, ukwabelana ngeengxakini kunokukunceda uzive ungcono malunga nomcimbi.
Ukuba uvuselela ukuziva uxinekile ngala maphupha, ungazama ukutshintsha iingcamango zakho ngaphambi kokulala. Abanye abantu bafumana ukuba ukusebenzisa ukuphucula kunye neendlela zobugcisa ezingakwazi ukulawula okanye ubuncinane kubonakala zilawula umxholo kumaphupha abo.
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