Lungiselela ukuvalelwa kweNtlawulo yabantwana

Iingcebiso ezibalulekileyo malunga nokuvalelwa kwengane yakho

Ukuya kwintetho yakho yokugcina umntwana ekunakekeleni kunokusongela, ngakumbi kubazali abangaqhelekanga kwinkqubo yokugcina umntwana. Nangona kunjalo, ngokucwangcisa okufutshane nje, ungabonisa ityala elikholisayo kwaye uphumelele ukugcinwa kwabantwana. Ukongeza kokusebenza ngokusondeleyo nommeli wakho wokugcina umntwana, sebenzisa ezi zixhobo ezilandelayo ukulungiselela ukuvalelwa kwakho kokugcina.

Iingcebiso ezibalulekileyo zoMntwana wakho wokuLawula

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Qondisisa iMithetho yokuThengisa abantwana kwiNdawo yakho

Imithetho yokugcina abantwana iyahluka ukusuka kummandla ukuya kwilizwe. Ngoko ke, enye yezinto zokuqala omele uyenze ukuziqhelanisa nemithetho yokugcinwa kwabantwana kwimeko ejongene nokuvalelwa kwakho. Ukufunda ukushicilelwa okulungileyo kunokunzima, kodwa kuya kukunceda ukuba uzibonele into ochasene nayo ngaphambi kokuya kwintetho yokugcinwa kwengane yakho. Ukufunda kwimithetho yakutshanje kunokukunceda ukulungiselela uluhlu lwemibuzo ukubuza ummeli wakho njengokuba usuku lwakho lwenkundla lusondela.

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Qondisisa Umgangatho oMgangatho woMzali ongcono

Umgangatho womzali ongcono usebenza xa umzali ecela ukugcinwa kuphela. Okubalulekileyo, ijaji kufuneka iqiniseke ukuba omnye umzali ubhetele kunomnye, onokuba nzima ukubonisa. Ukuze uzilungiselele kakuhle ukuvalelwa kwengane yakho, qiniseka ukuba ufumanisa ukuba zithini na iinkundla zaseburhulumenteni kwaye zidibanise negqwetha lakho malunga nendlela yokubonisa ukuba ungumnakekeli ongcono kubantwana bakho.

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Nika iincwadi ezifanelekileyo kwiNkundla

Sebenzisana nommeli wakho ukufumanisa ukuba yimaphi amaxwebhu okuzisa ukuvalelwa kwengane yakho kunye nokuba iirekhodi zakho ziza kuba zivumelekile. Unokuphakamisa ukuba uzisa umnxeba weenkcukacha zeefowuni, ishedyuli yokuvakasha echaziweyo, ubungqina bentlawulo yokuxhasa abantwana kunye namanye amanqaku.

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Funda i-Etiquette eyiNkundla efanelekileyo

Abazali abanethemba lokuphumelela ukugcinwa kwengane kufuneka baziphatha ngokufanelekileyo enkundleni okanye kumngcipheko wokulahlekelwa ukuvalelwa kwabantwana. Xoxa ngeendlela ezifanelekileyo zokubamba inkundla kunye nommeli wakho ukuze ufumane ukuqonda okungcono okulindelweyo, kunye nayo nayiphi na imingcingo ofuna ukuyijonga. Ukongezelela, yenza indima yokudlala kunye negqwetha lakho kwangaphambili, ukuba kunokwenzeka, kwaye uqinisekise ukuba uqonda izilindeleke ezichazwe ngaphambi kokubonakala kwakho enkundleni.

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Yazi Oko Ukulindele Ngethuba lokuLawula abantwana bakho

Ukugcinwa kweentlanganiso zokugcina abantwana kubangelona nto inxamnye okanye inxamnye nezinye iintlobo zamatyala enkundla. Abazali abafuna ukufumana ukugcinwa kwengane kufuneka baqonde oko bangalindela kwangaphambili ukwenzela ukuba bakwazi ukulungelelanisa kwaye balindele isinyathelo ngasinye senkqubo. Enye inkcazelo abantu abaninzi abangaziyo kukuba iimeko zokugcinwa kwabantwana azivakala phambi kwejaji; egcinwe kwiimeko zobugebengu. Icala lakho liya kufakwa phambi kwejaji, kwaye uya kwenza izigqibo kwaye akhuphe umyalelo wokugcina umntwana. Uya kuba nelungelo lokubhenela umyalelo, kodwa ayiyi kugqitywa yi-jury.

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Indlela Yokugqoka Ngomntwana Wakho Ukumamela

Ekugqibeleni, abazali aba nethemba lokufumana umntwana ngokugcina umntwana kufuneka balungiselele ukubonisa okokuqala. Izambatho ezifanelekileyo zentendelezo akufanele zinyanzeliswe. Ufumana ithuba elilodwa lokwenza umboniso wokuqala kwijaji. Ngaphambi kokuva ityala lakho okanye nokuba uyazi igama lomntanakho, uya kwenza uluvo lwakho olusisiseko. Ngoko uthetha kummeli wakho malunga noko u kuzinxiba kwaye uqinisekise ukuba uzenzele ekukhanyeni okulungileyo kakhulu ekuveni kokugcinwa kwengane yakho.

Ulungiswe nguJennifer Wolf.