Uninzi lwabanamama bahlala namhlanje ekhaya bafumanisa ukuba banokusebenzisa isandla sokunceda malunga nendlu kwaye umntanakho unokuba yindlela yokuzalisa loo mfuno. Kodwa umama uthetha nje ukhetho lwakhe lokuqesha umntanama kwiintlalontle zentlalo, nokuba phakathi kwamanye ama-mama ekhaya, ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuxubusha ingxoxo yowamaMama. Izimvo zokugweba ukuba umama kufuneka abe novila okanye ukuba akanandaba nentsapho yakhe ukwenza yonke into ukuba bahlule abazali kwisigqibo esithile somntu siqu.
Abanye abahlala ekhaya bebanomama bangazuza ngokuba nomntwana, nangona kunjalo. Khangela ngaphaya kwezi ngcikivo ezibuhlungu ukubona izizathu eziphezulu ezi-12 zokuba kutheni abanye abahlala ekhaya befuna umntwana.
Unokugxila KuBantwana Bakho
Kungavakala ngokungaqhelekanga ukuba umntu onokunceda abantwana bakho unokukunceda ukuba ugxininise ngakumbi kubo, kodwa kunjalo. Ukutshiswa komama kunengxaki abaninzi abahlala ekhaya xa bahlala ekhaya xa benakekela abantwana 24/7. Awukwazi ukuya kwindlu yokuhlambela ngaphandle kokuba umntu ekhwaza emnyango okanye afake izitya ngaphandle kwezandla ezincinane uzama ukubamba amaqhekeza.
Umntwana unokunyathela ukuba unakekele abantwana bakho xa ufuna into elula njengokuhlamba okanye umntu ekubukeni abantwana xa uhamba kwisitolo sokutya ngaphandle kwezingane ezine ezixhomekile kwicala lakho. IiNannies zinokukunceda nakwezo zinto ezisemqoka zendlu ezifana nokuhlamba, izitya kunye nokupheka. Ewe, uhlala ekhaya nentsapho yakho yonke imini kwaye unokwenza zonke ezo zinto ngalunye suku kodwa awuyi kuthanda ixesha lokubaluleka kunye nezingane ezingaphezu kwexabiso?
Ukuqasha umntanakho kunokukunika ixesha lokugxininisa kubantwana bakho ngaphandle kokuziva ngathi nguyena onomntwana. Ixesha onayo kunye nezingane zakho lixabiseke kwaye likwazi ukubeka ingqwalasela kubo ngaphandle kokuba uluhlu olude lubekwe phezu kwentloko yakho kukuvumela ukuba ube ngumama ngaphandle kwezinto eziphazamisayo.
Unokuzigxininisa
Ukukhulisa intsapho kunye nokulawula indlu yakho akushiyi ixesha elide lokuzinyamekela. Sisoloko sithi intsapho yethu iya kuqala kodwa kufuneka size kuqala.
Zithathele kakuhle ngokuqesha uncedo xa ucinga ukuba uyayidinga. Umntwana unokuthatha enye ingcinezelo ozibekayo ukuze uchithe ixesha lakho esikhundleni sakho. Ikufanele. Ukuhlaziya nokuthatha ikhefu ngamaxesha onke kuya kunika umama onokukwazi ukujongana nayo yonke loo mingeni yomzali yansuku zonke ehamba ngendlela yakho, njenge-diaper ukukhwabanisa i-cream ekwasabalalisa yonke indawo yakho entsha yomthi onzima okanye inwele ekhwankqisayo abantwana bakho inja ngebhotile ye-glitter kunye ne-glue.
Akufanele Uyenze Yodwa
Kwiinkcubeko ezininzi zasendulo, izizukulwana ezininzi zazihlala phantsi kophahla olulodwa ukuze zancedise abantwana. Ngokomzekelo waseGrisi yasendulo, oogogo, oodade abangatshatanga kunye noodadewabo abafelokazi bahlala kuhlala kwikhaya lentsapho nje ukuba bancede uMama anakekele abantwana kwaye enze imisebenzi yasekhaya.
Nangona i-Pew yophando ibonisa ukuba ezinye iimakhaya zaseMerika ziba ziintlanga-zintlobo, oogogo nomkhulu kungenzeka ukuba bashukunywe kuphela ekuncediseni abantwana, ngokungafani namaxesha aseGrike namaMeyi.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba khona kwabo ekhaya kukunciphisa ukuziphatha kwimihla ngemihla yokuhlala ekhaya xa bethetha ukuba bangasebenzisa izandla ezongezelelweyo ukuze bancede nabantwana kunye nendlu.
Umntu unokuba ngumntu lowo. Akumele uyenze yedwa kwaye akufanele ufune. Umntwana ongeke abe yintsapho kodwa unelungelo ngokuqinisekileyo unokuziva ngathi uyilungu lakho.
Awusaphila kufuphi neentsapho
Amaninzi amaninzi ahlala ekhaya ayancitshiswa ukuba ngaba bacinga ukuba baqeshwe umqeshwa. Le nyala ivela kumama omabini kunye namanye ahlala ekhaya.
Gcina unzulu kwaye uza kufumana abaninzi balabo bantu banjalo banentsapho edolophini ukunceda.
Utatomkhulu uphawula amaxesha amaninzi ngeveki ukuba abukele abantwana xa uMama eya kwiklasi yokuzivocavoca okanye u-Uncle Susan ubukele abantwana bakhe ngoLwesihlanu ebusuku ukuze uMama noTata bafumane ubusuku obusuku. Ucwaningo luka-2015 lufumene ukuba i-American ehlala kuphela ihlala kwii-18 ukusuka kuMama. Oku kungenjalo kwaye kungabi naluphi na usapho oluneenxa zonke kunokufaka ubunzima obuninzi kuwe ukuba ube ngu-SuperMom xa ungafaneleki.
Ufuna Ukuxinwa Kwengcinezelo
Kwabanye, ukuba nomntwana ongeyena mzini, ubuncinane ekuqaleni, kubonakala ngathi uxinzelelo olukhulu ekukhuliseni abantwana kunye nokulawula zonke iinkalo zendlu yakho. Kwabanye, ukuba ne-nanny kunokunceda ukunciphisa amanqanaba okunyamezela loo mihla.
Umntwana unako ukuzalisa izikhelo ukunceda ikhaya lakho liqhube kakuhle. Esikhundleni sokwenza uludwe olubandakanya ukuhlamba, izitya, ukupheka, ukuthabatha abantwana esikolweni kunye nabantwana ababini kwiindlela ezichaseneyo ngexesha elifanayo kunye nokuqhubela ibhola kunye nezifundo zokudanisa, une-nanny ukungena kwaye uthathe umthwalo imisebenzi ongenakuyenza njengomntu ongeke abe kwiindawo ezimbini kanye.
I-Nanny yakho inika umdla
Zingaphi ixesha eliye liye ixesha lokuhamba nabanye abantwana bakho esikolweni kwaye umntwana wakho sele elele ebhedeni lakhe? Okanye, ngokubaninzi nje ngokuba uyabathanda, njani ngaloo mihla xa ugula kakhulu ukuba unakekele abantwana bakho?
Ukuba nomntwana kulungile. Vumela umntwana ukuba ajabulele u-nap wakhe ngelixa wena okanye umfana uhamba uthabathe abantwana esikolweni. Xa ugula kakhulu ukuma, unokuqiniseka ukuba umntanakho uya kukunyamekela abantwana ukuze ube ngcono. Ngamanye amaxesha umntanamhlanje ulungelelaniso olufunekayo kakhulu kwintsapho yanamhlanje kunye nendlela ephila ngayo.
Uyakwazi Ukunyusa
IiNannies zinokunyusa, kungekhona ukufaka endaweni yakho. I-nanny efanelekileyo ilandela incwadi yokudlala yomzali xa kufikelele ekuqeqweni, kwiintembeko nakwiindlela zokufundisa. Isibalulekileyo kukuvumelanisa kuzo zonke izinto ozilindeleyo, ukusuka kwimisebenzi yasendlini ukuya kwizintando zokunakekelwa kwabantwana, ngaphambi kokuqeshisa umntanakho.
Umntwana onolwazi uhambelana nemigaqo oye wayibeka kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uba yinto enye. Akaphikisana nesitayela sakho somzali aze abe ngumfazi wesandla sokunene, utsho-ncokola, unike uncedo lwakhe ngendlela onokuyenza ngayo ukuba unokuzibandakanya. Akunjalo wena kwaye akayi kuba, kunjalo, kodwa ubukho bakhe buyenza lula ubomi bakho.
I-Nanny ingaba ngumhlobo omkhulu
Ngaphezu kwakho konke, umfana ungumqeshwa wakho. Nangona kunjalo, naye unokuba ngumhlobo omhle.
Ukuhlala ekhaya kumama bahlala behlala bodwa. Basenokungafani kakhulu nabazali basekhaya okanye ababanalo ixesha lokuhamba kunye nabanye. Umntanakho unokuba ngumhlobo othembekileyo. Unomdla onomdla ekunakekeleni abantwana bakho kwaye ubazi njengokuba wenzayo. Awuzami ukuthenga umhlobo apha, kodwa umntanakho usekhaya lakho, unakekela abantwana bakho kwaye unokuba yinxalenye yendlu yakho.
I-nanny efanelekileyo inokuba yinkwenkwe yabantwana bakho. Akayena unina nhlobo. Kodwa unako ukumshiya ephethe indlu yakho kwaye wazi ukuba abantwana bakho baneqabane elithandayo xa bebanakekela.
I-Nanny inikeza ukuhambelana nokuthembeka
Ukuqeshisa i-nanny ngeshedyuli esiqhelekileyo, nangona kwithuba lesigxina, kunokunikela ngokuvumelana nokuthembeka. Awukufumani oku kunye nezinye iinketho zokunakekela abantwana njengoMama woSuku kunye nokufumana abantwana be-co-ops . Inkqubo yomhla woMama yoNyaka ingaba nexabiso elingaphezulu kune-nanny kodwa iqhutywa kuphela kwiintsuku ezithile zeveki nakwieyure zokusa. Ukuhlawula i-co-ops ikhululekile kodwa kufuneke ukuba unikeze iinkonzo zokuncedisa mahhala kwabanye abazali ngokubuyisela.
Umntwana ungumqeqeshi kunye nokuhlala rhoqo ekhaya lakho eliqeshwe. Unako ukuba ubekho kwishedyuli esetyenzisiweyo ngexesha leeyure ozivumelanako kwinkqubo yokuqesha. Ubukho bakhe bubanika intsapho umntu onokwethenjelwa kwaye ngubani onokumthemba ngaphandle kokuba uthembele kwishedyuli yomnye umntu okanye ukunyamekela kweeyure.
Uyakusiza ukuba ube nokusebenza ngakumbi
Uyakukhathalela wonke umntu kwaye oko kusenokuthi ukutsalwa kwiindlela ezininzi ngexesha elifanayo. Awunakubonakala ufumana into enye eyenziwe ngenxa yokuba uzama ukufumana izinto ezili-100 ezifezekileyo ngokukhawuleza.
Ngomntwana, unokwenza uluhlu lwezinto eziphambili azimele alandele ukuze ukwazi ukumisela uluhlu lwakho oluphambili. Uza kuba ngempumelelo kwizinto zonke ozenzayo kwaye ufumane ezininzi zeenjongo zakho ezifezekileyo, nazo.
I-Nanny Ayinayo Ukuba Ixesha Elipheleleyo okanye Elihlala Unaphakade
Ukuba nomntwana akuthethi ukuba ucebile. Iimali-mali ezininzi zasekhaya azikwazi ukufumana i-nanny yexesha elipheleleyo. Nangona ama-nannies ngokuqhelekileyo yinkqubo yokunakekela abantwana yokuqala, amaninzi amanqanaba enkxaso-mali anamaxabiso angakwazi ukungena kwisabelomali seentsapho kunye nokucwangcisa kakuhle.
Enye inketho kukuqesha i-nanny kwisilingo. Unokufuna kuphela umntanina okwethutyana, njengokuba emva kokuba usana okanye ukuba intsapho yakho ibhekane nemeko eya kuguqula ishedyuli yakho eqhelekileyo. Ukuba ne-nanny akufuneki kube nokuzinikela kwexesha elide.
Imfuno Yentsapho Yakho Yona Ininzi
Ngaba ufuna i-nanny? Ngaphantsi, sisigqibo sakho.
Ukuba u-nanny wenxalenye okanye ixesha elizeleyo lenza ubomi bakho bube lula, akunandaba nokuba ngubani omnye ocinga. Awudingi ukulungiswa kwabanye. Ngethuba nje ukuqeshisa i-nanny kulungele intsapho yakho, yinto ebalulekileyo.