Izibhengezo Zokukhulelwa: Yintoni enokuyenza xa kungekho mntu uthi, "Ndiyakuvuyela!"
Umhla omkhulu ekugqibeleni ulapha-umhla oza kubelana ngayo ngesibhengezo sakho sokukhulelwa ngehlabathi. Mhlawumbi uvakalelwa ukhathazekile, uxhalabile kwaye ujabule yonke into ehlanganiswe kwisigxina esikhulu semisipha. Ingqondo yakho mhlawumbi iyabaleka. Usenokuba ucwangcise ingxoxo yakho engqondweni yakho ekubeni uxelela njani abantu ukuba ukhulelwe ukuba baphendula njani.
Nangona kuyi nyaniso ukuba unokulawula oko utshoyo nendlela utsho ngayo xa wenza isimemezelo sakho sokukhulelwa , into enye ongenakuyilawula ngayo indlela omnye umntu ethatha ngayo ukukhulelwa kweendaba. Ngamanye amaxesha unokuba ukhathazeke kukuba baya kuthukuthela okanye bacaphuke kwaye uyamangalisa xa bevuya ngokwenene kuwe. Ndiyakhumbula xa udade wam wathi wayekhulelwe, sonke sazi ukuba umama wayeya kulibetha. Esikhundleni salowo waqhwala ukuba ngumntu ogqithiseleyo, ngaphezu kokubandakanyeka inzala enkulu ukusuka ekuhambeni. Nangona kukho amanye amaxesha xa usabelana ngeendaba kwaye impendulo oyifumayo iyalimaza, ngokuthe ngqo ngokuthetha izinto ezingenangqiqo okanye ezithetha ngumoya okanye ngokungazihoxisi isimemezelo sakho.
Iindlela Ezihlanu Zokujongana Neempendulo Ezibi
Nazi ezinye iindlela zokujongana nezimpendulo ezingapheliyo ezivela kubantu xa wenza isimemezelo sakho sokukhulelwa :
- Cinga ukuba ngubani ojongene naye ...
Ngamanye amaxesha ujongana nabantu abakuthandayo kwaye ufuna ngokwenene ukuba babe novuyo njengoko unjalo okanye kuncinci ukuxhasa. Ngoko le mpendulo i-double whammy, kungekhona nje kuphela abayonwabileyo kodwa bazama ukunyanzela uvuyo lwakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ziphi izizathu zokuba bacaphuke, kwaye zi nokuba zizinto ezixhalabileyo ukuba ulawulwa phantsi, ayikuxolisi ukuziphatha kwazo. Zama ukuba ngumntu omkhulu kwaye uqhubeke.
- Batshele ukuba ulindele ukuba impendulo yabo ibe yintoni.
Ukuba ulindele impendulo engafanelekanga, zama ukucwangcisa ingxoxo yakho ngokulindelayo. "Ndifuna ukuthetha nawe kwaye ndifuna ukuba uphulaphule. Xa ndigqibile ukuthetha ungabelana nabanye, kodwa ndifuna ukuba ukhumbule ukuba oko ndiyifunayo ngoku kanye kukuthanda kunye nenkxaso yakho ... "Emva koko uqalise kwisaziso sakho sokukhulelwa. Ngoxa le nto ingenakho ukunyanga yonke into yokuphawula, ingahamba indlela ende ukuphazamisa umlilo.
- Hamba kwaye uhlangane.
Ngokuxhomekeke kwimpendulo ungakhetha ukhethe ukuhamba kwaye uqonde ukuba wenze ntoni emva kwempendulo. Oku okuneneni kukunceda ukuba uthetha ukutshisa okanye uthathe izigqibo zokukhawuleza. Ngaphezu komfazi omnye okhulelwe uye walahla ukuthabatha inzala nootata ngonaphakade ngokusekelwe ekuphenduleni kootatomkhulu abatsha. Oku kuphazamiseka kwaye mhlawumbi akunjalo oko uthethayo. Yisho nje into ethi, "Ndandifuna ukuba ujabule kuthi ..." kwaye uhambe. - Ba bulale ngo bubele.
Xa kunokwenzeka, abanye bazama le ndlela. Uvele uphendule kwizinto zonke abazithethayo ngento enhle. Oku kunokuba ngumkhankaso onzima wokunyuka ukuba elinye iqela likhetha ukudlala umdlalo wokungahoyi - uzenza ngathi awukhulelwe. Oku kungadinga ingxoxo ehlukeneyo. - Beka ngokungazihoyi.
Xa zonke izinto zingaphumeleli unako ukuphuma kwaye uphumelele ukuzibamba ukuba impendulo yakho kwisibhengezo sakho sokukhulelwa ayiphumelelwanga. Oku akuthethiyo okanye ukuzonda, kukukhusela. Xa ilungiselelo liyakwenziwa lento eyanelisayo bobabini, ngoko unokuphinda uhlalutye ubuhlobo.