Ukuba uzimisele ukuba ngumama okanye ungumama wengane entsha, mhlawumbi uye wakuva okuninzi malunga nomlingo, ubuqili obunobungqina bomama kunye neentsana.
"Akukho nto efana nothando lomama nomntwana!" Abantu bavakalisa, amehlo abo ayenayo yonke into ecinga ngayo loo mzuzu. Nangona uthando lomama luyinto entle, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba bonke oomama abanalo uthando olukhawulezileyo kunye neentsana zabo zesibini ezizalelwe-kwaye ziqhelekileyo.
UKatherine Stone, ogijimayo inhlangano engenzi nzuzo i-Postpartum Progress, eyinikezelwa ekuqapheni ukuxinezeleka kwangemva kokubeleka, ichaze amava akhe ngokungawa phantsi kweentloko ezithandana nomntwana wakhe. "Ingcinezelo yokuba 'unina ungitshintshe' kunye nokuba ndiyamthanda ukuba 'lube nzima' kuninzi," wabhala. "Akuzange kwenzeke ngobusuku." Oku kunzima kakhulu ukuba ndivume, kwaye ndikhala iinyembezi ebusweni bam njengoko ndibhalela oku. Akunjalo kuba ndivakalelwa ngokufanayo, kodwa ngenxa yokuba akukho mntu wandixelele oku kuya kwenzeka, ngoko ndacinga ukuba andingaqhelekanga. Ndazibetha, ndaziphulaphula intliziyo yam. Ndaye ndaqiniseka ukuba andimthandi ngokwaneleyo kwaye kukho into engalunganga kum. "
Wonke Amama Ahlukile
Inyaniso kukuba, ngamnye umfazi ufumana ukukhulelwa kunye nomama omtsha ngokwahlukileyo. Enye ibhinqa inene iyakuthandana neentsana zabo ekuzalweni kwaye abanye abakwenzi. Akukho nto ephosakeleyo okanye indlela efanelekileyo yokuthandana nosana lwakho kwaye into yokugqibela nayiphi na umama omtsha kufuneka azive enetyala malunga nendlela adibene ngayo nomntwana wakhe.
Kwaye kukho ukungafani kwemikhemikhali kubomi besetyhini elandelelanisa amanqanaba ahlukeneyo omama-baby bonding. Uphando olutsha luhlolisisa imiphumo ye- oxytocin , i-hormone "yothando" edlala indima ekusebenzeni, ekunikezeni, nasekunceliseni, nokufumanisa ukuba abafazi abanexinzelelo okanye ezinye iingxaki zempilo yengqondo ziye zanciphisa amanqanaba e-oxytocin anokuphazamisa zabo iimvakalelo zokuqhotyoshelana nosana lwabo.
Unokuba Usengumzali Olungileyo
Ingongoma, unokulindela ukuthandana nomntwana wakho emva kokuzalwa kwakhe, okanye emva kokuba wamkele ikhaya lakho elincinci ngokuthotyelwa okanye kwezinye iimeko zeentsapho, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, oko akunjalo. Kukho imingeni enzima kakhulu enokujamelana nayo ngokuzisa ikhaya elitsha kunye nokuwa kweentloko "ngothando" kunye nomntwana wakho ngokukhawuleza akusiyo imfuneko yokuba ngumzali omhle. Unako ukuthanda umntwana wakho kunye nokunyamekela wakho omncinci, nangona ungeva ukuba ngaphezu kwenyanga, ukunyanyiswa komnxeba wothando.
Ukuba ungeyonto yokuba uthanda umntwana wakho osana nje, okanye ukhulelwe kwaye uyazibuza ukuba ngaba ubophelelo bomama luya kukhaba, ungethuki. Zinike ixesha lokufumana umama ngokwemiqathango yakho kwaye ungazitshitshisi ukuba ufuna ixesha elincinane ukuba ulungele ukunyamekela umntwana wakho. Vula kwaye uthembeke ngeemvakalelo zakho kwaye ugxininise ekuzinakekeleni, nawe. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba unobunzima bokubambisana kunye nomntwana wakho okanye ufumana ezinye iimpawu ezifana nokufuna ukuzilimaza wena okanye umntwana wakho, qi niseka ukuba uthethe ugqirha wakho malunga neemvakalelo zakho, njengoko zibangelwa yinkxalabo yokudangala, oku unyango.