Iingxoxo ezikhuselekileyo zokukhusela abantwana abancinci

Kukho izihloko abazali abancinci abasemncinci abangcono ukuba baphephe ngaphandle kokuba abantu abadala bavelise kuqala. Ukuhlonela ubumfihlo kunye nokugcinwa kwesigwebo kukho ezimbini izakhono ezifunekayo njengoko abantwana bekhula beba ngabantu abadala.

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Ukungabikho kobudlelwane beentsapho

Le ngxaki nzima kuba yonke intsapho ihlukile. Ezinye iintsapho zichitha inkoliso kunye nexesha elininzi kunye, ngelixa abanye babuthana ndawonye kwieholide kunye neziganeko ezizodwa . Ukulindela ixesha kunye nabantu bakho abaselula banokuthi bahluke kakhulu kwabo, kwaye kunzima kunokwenzeka, kubalulekile ukuhlonipha ukhetho lwabo. Oko akuthethi ukuba akufanele ufikelele kubantu bakho abaselula kunye nesimemo sokutya okanye nesicelo sokutyelela ukuba bahlala kude. Iimfuno zakho zibalulekile, nazo. Zama nje ukugwema ukubathukuthela ngokuphila ubomi babo ngendlela abafuna ngayo.

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"Xa ndibe ngumdala wakho ..."

Ihlabathi liyatshintsha, kwaye njengoko sikhula, kunokuba nzima nakakhulu ukuqhubeka kunye nalezo zinguqu, ezinye zazo ezinokubonakala zingenakwenzeka ukuziqonda. Ukuthelekisa amava akho njengento engama-20 kumntu wakho omdala osemdala uza kwenza ukuba i-gap ibanzi. Esikhundleni sokungathembeki kwindlela ezintsha ezenziwa ngayo izinto, phulaphula oko abantu bakho abaselula abakuthethayo kwaye uzame ukuqonda endaweni yokugubha intloko yakho ngokungakholelwa okanye ukugculela kwiindlela zabo zokuphila ubomi babo.

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Ukutyeba kwakho

Ku nokuba nosuku xa ulutsha lwakho olutsha luvakatye kwaye uqaphela ukuba ubeke ezimbalwa - okanye ezininzi. Kukho izizathu ezininzi zezi zinto, kubandakanyeka ixesha lokuzivocavoca kunye nokutya okunempilo , uxinzelelo lwengqondo, okanye umsebenzi ofuna ixesha elide ehleli phambi kwekhompyutha. Umntu omtsha oshumi elinesihlanu uyinto eyaziwayo, kodwa mhlawumbi kufuneka kube "inzuzo yehlabathi yokusebenza," nayo. Unokuziva uxhalabele kwaye uxinezeleke ngamapounds angaphezulu, kodwa ukuzola kuya kuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokujongana neemvakalelo zakho. Umntu wakho omdala uya kucela icebiso xa efuna, kwaye ngoko unokwabelana ngemibono yakho yokutya okunempilo nokuzilolonga.

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Ukuchitha imali

Abantu abadala abasenokuba nemali ngendlela abazali babo abayiyiqonda - okanye bayayivuma. Abaninzi bamawaka-minyaka banomdla ngakumbi kumava kunezinto - ngeveki yekonsathi yinto ephambili, i-mattress entsha ayikho. Imikhuba yabo yokuchitha imali ayilona nto abazali kufuneka baxubushe ngayo, ngokungakhathaliseki ukuba baxhasayo kwaye bangafuni imali eyongezelelweyo evela kuwe.

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Ukwahlula okunye okubalulekileyo

Umdala wakho omdala uza kuzisa ekhaya inomdla ngandlela-thile. Uya kuthi, ngokuqhelekileyo, unempendulo enamandla kumntu wengalo yomntwana wakho, kodwa unqabe ukwabelana naluphi na ukungathandabuzeki okanye ukugxekwa. Nangona enye into ebalulekileyo ingabikho ingcinga yakho yeqabane elincinci, umdala wakho omdala unokuziva ehlukileyo - enyanisweni, ukuba ukwazisa isoka lakhe, amathuba okuba sele evelele. Nika ixesha lentshisekelo yothando lomntwana wakho - unokuziva ehle okanye engakhululeki xa uqala ukudibana nawe, abazali. Oku kungakuqala kwento enzulu, kwaye awufuni ukubanjelwa uthe izinto ezimbi malunga nelungu lentsapho.

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Ukukhulisa Abantwana Babo

Ukuba umdala wakho omdala ungumzali, ufanele ujabule ngokuba nguyise nomkhulu kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukuba ubambe ulwimi lwakho xa ungathandabuzeki ngeendlela okanye isimo sengqondo ayenayo malunga nokukhulisa umntwana wakhe. Ubuzali, njengokuba uyazi kakuhle, kunokudideka, kuyatshitshisa kwaye kuyatshitshise. Ngokukodwa kwiminyaka ye-intanethi, abazali abatsha bahlaselwa ngolwazi malunga nayo yonke into evela kwi-organic baby food ukuya kulala kangakanani umntwana. Umdala wakho omdala uza kucela icebiso lakho - unokuyithemba. Musa nje ukunikela ngaphambi kokuba.

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"Ndakuxelela Ngoko"

Kungakhathaliseki ukuba intuitively wazi into ethile - umsebenzi, indlu, umntu ohlala naye, umtshato - kwakuyinto engalunganga, akakaze athi, "Ndakuxelela oko" kumntwana wakho omdala osemdala. Ukuba uza kuwe ukuxhasa, ukucebisa, ukuncedisa okanye ukuhlangula, yenza ngaphandle kwintetho okanye ukugxeka, ngakumbi xa isiseko sokuqala siphumela kuyo nayiphi na imeko ebangela ukuba abe nengxaki ebomini bakhe. Awudingi ukumkhumbuza impazamo yakhe, nokuba yinto encinane kunazo zonke. Konke okufunayo kuwe kukunika inkxaso, uncedo kunye namanye amazwi alumkileyo - xa ekulungele.