Okuhle nokubi
Ukwamukelwa okuvulekileyo yintsapho yokuthobela kunye nokugcinwa kwintsapho yokuzalwa ekudibaniswaneni ukuze inzuzo yomntwana. Uqha ga mshelwano oluvulelekileyo lithetha izinto ezahlukeneyo kwiintsapho ezahlukeneyo njengoko unxibelelwano lunokuvela kwiileta kunye ne-imeyile kumakholi wefoni okanye ukuvakashelwa rhoqo. Zonke zihlala kubantu abadala ukudala isicwangciso esifana neemfuno neemfuno zabantu bonke.
Ukwamkelwa okuvulelekileyo kungalungiswa kwiimpahla zangaphandle ezibandakanya ukunakekelwa kwabantwana. Ukuqhagamshelana nosapho lokuzalwa kungaquka abazali bokuzalwa, oogogo nomkhulu, kunye / okanye abantakwabo. Kukho na matyala awamkelekileyo avumelwaneni kumazwe ngamazwe.
Xa ukuVunywa ngokuVulekileyo akusiyo imbono efanelekileyo
Kukho amaxesha apho ukutholwa komntu ovulekile kungengomdla ongcono kumntwana ngenxa yemicimbi yokhuseleko. Oku kudla njalo kwimeko yokunyamekela abantwana. Ukuba unesigxina esinzima ukwenza isigqibo malunga nokuba ukhetha ukuthotyelwa okuvulekileyo, qhagamshelana neengcali, njengonontlalontle okanye onguchwepheshe owazi kakuhle intsapho yakho.
Njengoko kunjalo kunye nezigqibo ezininzi ebomini, kukho ubuqili kunye nokuqhafaza ekukhetheni ukuthotyelwa kokuvulwa.
Iinkonzo
- Iimpendulo Zemibuzo Emibi - Ekubeni ummamkeli uya kudibanisa nentsapho yokuzalwa, akayi kuba nomvakalelo "wento elahlekileyo" ebomini bakhe njengabanye abamukeli bachaza. Uya kuba nethuba lokubuza umbuzo omkhulu, "kutheni ndibekwa ukuba ndibe ngumntwana?" Iimfuneko zokucinga okanye ukunciphisa iimeko zeentsapho zokuzalwa zisuswa kwi-equation kwaye umntwana owamkelweyo unokukhula kunye nenyaniso.
- Isiqhagamshelo kwiLifa leMveli kunye noHlabathi - Owamkelekileyo ekumamkelelweni oluvulelekileyo uya kuba nokufikelela kwimvelaphi yelifa lakhe kunye nokhokho. Uya kuba nako ukubiza loo nkcazelo njengengcambu yobuni bakhe.
- Umjikelezo oMkhulu woNtsapho kunye nenkxaso - Ummkeli ngaphakathi kwamkelwa ngokusemthethweni unokufumana intsapho eninzi ukunika uthando nenkxaso. Intsapho eyamkelayo inokubulela ngenkxaso eyongeziweyo yabanye abathanda umntwana wabo.
- Iinkcukacha zezoNyango zifumaneka ngokukhawuleza - Abamkelekileyo abaninzi abanakho ukufikelela kwingcaciso engundoqo yezokwelapha. Le ngcaciso ingabalulekile ekuncedeni abasebenzi bezonyango benze izigqibo ezinolwazi egameni lezigulane zabo. Olu lwazi oluxabisekileyo lubhekiselele kwimpilo yengqondo nengqondo.
- Akukho Mfuneko Yokufuna - Abamkelekileyo abaninzi abazazi iinkcukacha zendaba yabo yokuthobela, ibali lokuqala kwabo ebomini. Ummamkeli ekuthotyelweni oluvulekileyo uya kuba nale nkcazelo kwaye akayi kubandezeleka ngenxa yokukhangela kwamanye abantwana. Ukutshitshiswa kwe-Adoption kunokunyusa umntu ngeendlela ezininzi kubandakanyeka ngokomzwelo nangokwezimali.
Umxhasi
Iingxaki zemiGaqo enokwenzeka - Ezinye iintsapho zokuzalwa zinokuzabalazela ngokungazi ukuba zilungele njani kumfanekiso omkhulu. Iintsapho ezithintekayo zingalwela ukukwazi ukufaka iiseti ezimbini zabazali. Nangona omnye umzali ebeka ngokusesikweni, esinye isethi sizisa ubomi kwaye sivelise ingqiqo yokuzinza neengcambu.
- Ukuxubusha phambi kokuba imida imayelana nokuhambela, iifowuni, kunye negalelo lomzali wokuzalwa ekukhulusweni komntwana.
- Khumbula ukuba yonke into inokuphinda ixoxisiswe njengoko ixesha liqhubeka.
Ukulindela okungenangqiqo - Ukulindela okungafaniyo kunokuba ngumbandela kumacandelo omabini owamkela ngokusemthethweni. Umzali ozalwayo unokulindela ukuphelela kumzali owamkelekileyo, ngoxa umzali othabathayo angalindela umzali wokuzalwa ukuba athathe indima ebomini ebomini babo.
- Yingakho kubalulekile ukumisela ulindele ekuqaleni kobudlelwane. Oku kubomi. Nangona iindima kunye nokulindela kungatshintsha, imfuno yomntwana wakho nonke ebomini bakhe, ayiyi kuba.
Ukubambisana Nalo Mhlawumbi Kungeyiyo Inxulumano - Kungathi yinto embi, kodwa yinto ebalulekileyo. Sonke sinemilinganiselo yethu kunye nemilinganiselo, kwaye akusiyo yonke into evuma ngayo. Ngaba asikhethi bakhe abahlobo ngokusekelwe kwiimeko ezininzi ezahlukeneyo? Kuthekani ukuba abazali ababelethi nabazali abathandayo abavumelani kakuhle?
- Khawucinge ngento efanelekileyo kumntwana kuqala kwiimfuno zakho.
- Ukuba kuyimfuneko yokhuseleko, njengokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi, ke unciphise umnxibelelwano kwiileta okanye nge-imeyile, kodwa uchaza ukuba utshintsho kwenye inxaxheba kunye nommkeli.
Cinga oku
Phawula indlela umonakalo obonakala ngayo malunga noqhagamshelwano kunye nemicimbi yoluntu phakathi kwabazali nabazali bokuzalwa.
Nangona i-pros iyonke inokufumana inzuzo kumntu osamkelayo kwaye ibhekiselele kwimpumelelo yomntwana. Ngaba asikho into eninzi kuthi apha-ukulungiselela umntwana? Nceda ugcine ezi zinto engqondweni xa ucinga ukutholwa.