Ngenye imini ndabuya ekhaya ngokusebenza ekhaya lethu labantwana bendawo ndaza ndabuza umyeni wam ukuba wayecinga ntoni ngokuba ngumzali okhulayo. Wayenokwesaba okukhulu kunye nokuxhalabisa. Amadoda amaninzi alungile malunga nokugqibela, ukuxhalabisa. Sagqiba isigqibo sokuqala sinyathelo sokuthatha iiklasi zoqeqesho kwaye uhambe ukusuka apho. Kwiinyanga ezimbalwa kamva, sasivalo xa sisaqhuba ikhaya lethu lokuqala, kodwa sazi ukuba sithathile izakhono zethu kunye nokunciphisa kwaye sagqiba ekubeni sele sikulungele ukuba ngabazali abangabantwana.
Imibuzo Yokubuza Ngaphambi Kokukhuthaza
Emva kokuqokelela ulwazi oluvela kwiziko lakho lononophelo loluntu, zibuze le mibuzo elandelayo:
Ingaba unenkxaso enamandla yabahlobo kunye / okanye intsapho? Oku kubalulekile, njengokukhuthaza umntwana ukuba abe noxinzelelo kakhulu ngamanye amaxesha. Kukulungele ukuba nomntu oza kuphulaphula xa ufuna ukuphuma. Ukuba awunayo inkqubo yenkxaso esele ikhona kwaye unqume ukuba uqhubeke nezicwangciso zakho, qi niseka ukuba uthathe inxaxheba kumaqela okuxhasa. Ii-arhente ezininzi zithatha iintlanganiso zeqela zenkxaso. Ukuba ungacingi ukuqala ngokwakho kunye nabazali abangabantwana.
Ngaba unomonde? Ngaba uzimisele ukuhlala unika kwaye unqabile ukufumana nantoni na ngokubuyisela, ngaphandle kokwazi ukuba unceda intsapho?
Abantu abaninzi bangena ekunyamekeleni abantwana ukuba bacinge ukuba bayasindisa umntwana osweleyo kumzali ohlukumezayo. Abazali abanomdla bakholelwa ukuba umntwana uya kuba nombulelo kwaye akhululeke ukuba aphume kwiimeko zabo zasekhaya. Oku kunqabile. Ukusetyenziswa kakubi yiyo yonke into enokukwazi ngayo umntwana. Imeko embi yengane "yakhe evamile." Yilungiselele ukuba umntwana abe nolonwabo xa ehlala ekhaya lakho. Ngamanye amagama, hlola iimfuno zakho . Yintoni oyilindeleyo? Hhayi kuphela kumntwana kodwa kubazali bakhe, urhulumente kunye namava okukhuthaza? Ukulindela okuphezulu kunokukhokelela ekuwa kwakho!
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana abakhathalelekileyo baye bahoywa, ngokwenyama, ngokwesini, ngokwengqondo nangokwemvakalelo . Abantwana banokukrakra, ukucaphuka kunye nokubuhlungu. Basenokuyithatha abazali babo, ngokuqhelekileyo umama okhulayo. Ngaba uzimisele kwaye unokukwazi ukujongana noko abantwana abangakubeka khona, kwaye ungayithathi? Oku kunzima kunokuba kubonakala, ingakumbi xa ukhankanywa okanye ukhankanywa.
Ngaba uzimisele ukuba nabasebenzi bezentlalo ekhaya, ngezinye iinyanga nganye? Ngaba unokusebenza ngokubambisana neqela labaqeqeshi ukuncedisa umntwana ukuba abuyele ekhaya okanye kwelinye ukufakwa ngokusisigxina, njengokwamkelwa? Le njongo idinga izakhono zonxibelelwano ezintle kwiindawo zakho, kunye nokuzimisela ukulandela isicwangciso esichazwe ngabasebenzi bezentlalo.
Ngaba unokutshilo? Ukunyamekelwa kwabazali akulona ilungiselelo elingunaphakade. Abantwana baya kuhamba ngolunye usuku. Ukunyamezela yinto ofuna yona. Nangona kunjalo, wena kunye nentsapho yakho niyakunamathela kulo mntwana, ngoko musa ukuzikhohlisa xa ucinga ngenye indlela. Isinamathiselo yinto entle, kokubili wena nomntwana. Ukuba umntwana unokunamathela aze akuthembele kuwe, baya kukwazi ukwenza okufanayo nabanye ebomini babo kwaye oku kukhokelela kwikamva eliphilileyo. I-Goodbye ayifuni ukuthetha ngonaphakade. Kwezinye iimeko, ngemvume evela kumzali wokuzalwa okanye umzali owamkelweyo, ulwalamano kunye nabantwana bakho abancinci lunokuhlala luhleli emva kokuhamba. Sinobudlelwane kunye neembalwa zeentombi zethu ezidlulileyo kwaye sizivuyela ukuzibona nokufumana amakhadi kunye neefowuni. Bade basasicela ukuba sincede.
Ukuba unabantwana, bavakalelwa njani malunga nokunyamekela abantwana? Kubalulekile ukuqwalasela yonke ilungu lentsapho xa ucinga ngokukhuthaza umntwana. Wonke umntu ohlala endlwini uya kuhlala kunye nokusebenzisana nomntwana okhulayo kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe. Abantwana bakho baya kufuneka baxelele ikhaya labo, igumbi, amathoyizi kunye nabazali. Banikela ngobuninzi xa beba yinxalenye yentsapho ekhulayo. Buza abantwana bakho indlela abazive ngayo kwaye bavelele! Kwakhona, qaphela ukuba umntwana wakho angafunda okanye athathe into enokuthi umntwana owaziyo uyayazi, kokulungileyo nokubi. Ngaba ulungele ukuhlala ulindile ngamaxesha onke, ukwenza ikhaya lakho likhuselekile kubo bonke abahlala khona?
Uneminyaka engakanani abantwana onokuyenza ngayo umzali ngeli xesha? Khawucinge ngeminyaka yabantwana bakho kwaye apho omnye umntwana angenelela kwintsapho yakho. Ngaba umntwana unelungelo lakho? Ngelixa ungeke uqalane nokujongana nolwimi olungcolileyo, kuya kufuneka ulahle ukulala kwaye ngokuyisiseko "qalisa" xa abantwana bakho bekhulile. Okanye ngaba umntwana oneminyaka esikolweni uya kusebenza kangcono? Kule meko, akufanele ube nexhala malunga nokunyamekelwa kweso. Kwakhona, cinga ngesondo somntwana. Ezi zikhetho zonke ziphezulu kuwe njengomzali okhulayo. Uya kunikwa kwakhona ukhetho kwiziphi iimpawu oziziva unako kwaye akunako umzali ngeli xesha. Qaphela ukuba izinto ezininzi zokuziphatha azikwazi ukufikelela kude umntwana ade azikhusele ngokwaneleyo ukuba ngokwakhe. Abasebenzi bezentlalontle nabo bahlale beqaphela ukuziphatha komntwana ngexesha lokubekwa.
Ekugqibeleni, unalo uthando oluninzi lokunika? Ngaba ulungele ukuphosa umntwana wakhe umcimbi wokuqala wokuzalwa? Ngaba unokumnceda ahlobise umthi weKrisimesi wokuqala okanye aphethe ithanga lokuqala? Ncedisa umntwana ukuba abone ukuba iintsapho ziindawo ezikhulayo zokukhula kwaye zimbonise umzekelo obalaseleyo wobudlelwane beentsapho eziphilileyo? Mnike ithuba lokuphilisa nokukhula?
Ukuba unokuthi "ewe" kule mininzi yale mibuzo, biza ummeli wakho wolondolozo lwentlalo. Unethuba elihle kakhulu lokuba ngumzali onomdla omhle!