I-Webster's II i-New Riverside Dictionary ichaza "intombi" njenge:
"Ukukhuphula nokukhuthaza. Ukunika okanye ukufumana ukunakekelwa kwabazali nakuba kungabandakanywa ngegazi okanye kumanyathelo omthetho."
Uninzi lokukhulisa, ukukhulisana nokukhuthazwa kuyahambisana nokukhulisa umntwana okhulayo. Kukho ezininzi iimpapasho kunye neentlanganiso, kodwa ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuba ngumzali okhulayo kuthetha ukubonelela ngamathuba amatsha ayenako.
Ukukhuthaza umntwana kuthetha:
- Ukubhekisa intsapho yokuzalwa kunye nokuncedisa inkqubo yokuhlanganiswa kwentsapho.
- Ukuthabatha umntwana okhohlakeleyo okokuqala ngqa.
- Ukubonisa umntwana onomntwana wakhe wokuqala ngomlilo ngomhla we-4 kaJulayi.
- Ukuncedisa umntwana ophumelelayo esikolweni esiphakamileyo kwaye abeke injongo yokuya kwiikholeji okanye kwisikolo sobugcisa.
- Ukubhaka ikhekhe lokuzalwa lomntwana wokuqala, nangona ekhupha ezisibhozo.
- Ukwabelana ngolunye uhlobo olumnandi lomntwana ongeke aqhube nge-sprinkler ngaphambili.
- Ukugcina uxhulumaniso kunye nomntwana osisigxina esedlulileyo, ngoku umzali wakhe ngumzali kwaye akayikukhumbula ukuba ungumzali okhulu.
- Ukukhuthaza umntwana okhulayo ukuba aphakamise ngaphezu kwemiba yexesha lakhe elidlulileyo kwaye aqhubele phambili kunye nobomi.
Indlela Yokuba Umzali Ongumzali
- Imithetho yokukhuthaza umntwana isetyenziswe ngumthetho welizwe ukuze ikwazi ukuhluka, kodwa kuba ngumzali okhulayo phantse njalo uqala ngokutyelela ulwahlulo olusemthethweni kwilizwe lakho. Uya kufuneka uzalise isicelo, kodwa amaninzi amaninzi enza oku kufumaneke kwi-intanethi. Isicelo siya kunika iinkcukacha ngokubanzi malunga nosapho kunye nekhaya lakho, kwaye inokubuza ukuba kutheni ufuna ukukhusela umntwana. Unokuba unikwe ithuba lokuthetha ukuba unokukhetha umntwana, umntwana okanye umntwana osekhulile-nokuba ngumntwana osemtsha.
- Ukuhambisa isicelo ngokuqhelekileyo kulandelwa yiklasi yokuqhelanisa okanye uluhlu lweeklasi. Uya kubakho nabanye abafuna ukuba ngabazali abangabantwana. Yinto yeqela, kungekhona inye-yodwa inkulumo, kwaye ayikho nje imfundiso. Unokubuza imibuzo ukuze uzive ngohlobo lolwalamano olusondeleyo ukuba uqalise kwaye uvakalise nayiphi na ingxaki onokuyenza.
- Umzali okhuselekileyo ngokubanzi unokubandakanya isifundo sekhaya. Intlalontle uza kufika kwindawo yokuhlala ukuze adibane nawe namanye amalungu entsapho kwaye uqinisekise ukuba ikhaya lakho likhuselekile kwaye liyakhula. Unqulo lwakho, ubuhlanga, ubulili, kunye nesimo somtshato asinakugwetywa kwaye ayinakucinga, nangona ubudala bakho bubunjani-ngokuqhelekileyo kufuneka ube ngaphezu kweminyaka engama-21 ubudala. Izifundo zasekhaya zingabandakanya ezininzi ukuya ezintlanu.
Ipropect of Letting Go
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ufanele ufunde ngokuyeka ukuhamba. Injongo ephambili yokunyamekela umntwana ohlala kumntwana uhlala ehlangene nomntwana ngokuzalwa komzali okanye abazali bakhe. Okunye ukuziphatha okanye isiganeko kukhokelela ekubeni umntwana ususwe ekhaya, kwaye urhulumente uya kusebenza ekulungiseni le ngxaki ukuze intsapho ihlangane. Ngamanye amaxesha oko akunakwenzeka, nangona kunjalo, kwaye umntwana ubeke umntwana. Abazali abanamava bafumana ithuba lokuqala lokufumana ithuba, kodwa ukuba unqwenela ngokuchasene nalo ngesizathu esithile, umntwana uya kuthunyelwa kwikhaya elitsha.