Xa ndijonga emva kwintetho kunye nabanye abazali abavayo kunye namava am nabantwana kunye nabantwana abangabantwana, ndivakalelwa ukuba kukho izizathu ezinesizathu ezicacileyo zokufuna umntwana.
Nangona wonk 'ubani angaba neenjongo zakhe ekuhloliseni ukwamkelwa komntwana, umnqweno womnqweno wentsapho ukuba amkele kwaye yintoni ekhuthaza ukuba intsapho iphumelele ukugqiba umntwana, kufuneka isekelwe kwizinto ezinzulu.
Izizathu zokukhetha ukwamkelwa komntwana
Umnqweno wokunika umntwana intsapho. Umntu osapho owamkelayo ufuna ukubonelela ngekhaya elinothando kunye nosapho. Oku kubandakanya konke okwenza ikhaya indawo enothando ukuba ibe kunye nentsapho eyilungu elithandayo. Lo mnqweno uquka ukutshintshwa kwezithethe zentsapho, ukwabelana ngokholo, kunye nexesha lokwenza imemori. Kwakhona kuthetha ukuwamkela umntwana kuba ngubani - nokuba ziphoso zabo. Ukuqonda ukuba umntwana unembali nelifa elifunekayo ukuba lihlonishwe kwaye liyakwamkelwa.
Umnqweno wokunceda umntwana uqhubeke ebomini. Abazali abamkeleyo banomdla ekuncediseni umntwana ukuba aphilise kwiintlungu ezidlulileyo kunye nentlungu, ingaba oku kuvela ekuhlaselweni , ukunganakwa , ukushiywa, okanye intandane. Intsapho eyamkela ifuna ukukunceda umntwana aqalise ubomi obutsha kwaye uyazi ukuba kuya kubakho ukuphazamiseka nokuhlaselwa ngumzali onokuthobela kwaye ulungiselelwe le mingeni.
Ukukwazi ukubonelela omnye umntwana ngazo zonke iindlela. Umzali othabathayo owamkelayo ufuna ukwabelana ngekhaya kunye nomntwana kwaye abe nomnye umzi womzimba. Bakhona ixesha kunye nesimo sengqondo entliziyweni yabo ilungu elitsha lentsapho. Intsapho yokwamkela nayo ikhuselekile ngokwaneleyo ngokwaneleyo ukuze iphumelele ngokufanelekileyo.
Yonke intsapho yokwamkela iyamkela ukuvunyelwa. Wonke umntu kwintsapho uyavuma ukuba ukongeza kwindlu ngokuthotyelwa yinto efanelekileyo yokwenza. Bonke abantwana ekhaya bayavuya kakhulu ngokuthatha. Ukujongana nokuthotyelwa xa abantwana bekhaya bengekho ebhodini kunye nesicwangciso akusiyo imbono enhle.
Intsapho yokwamkela isazi umntwana oswele intsapho. Umntu oza kumkela umntwana uyazi kakuhle umntwana ofuna ikhaya elimkelayo. Umntwana usenokuba ngumhlobo wentsapho, isihlobo, okanye umntwana abadibana naye esontweni okanye ngaphakathi.