Unokufumana njani uninzi lweencwadi zombala abadala xa ungumzali
Iincwadi ezinemibala yabantu abadala ziye zaphakama ekuthandeni, kwaye xa ucinga ngezibonelelo zazo ezininzi, kulula ukubona ukuba kutheni bazenzela uluhlu olugqithiseleyo. Kubazali, lo mkhwa omtsha unikezela ezininzi izinto kunye neendlela zokulinda. (Ukuba ufuna ukuba abantwana bakho bazame izandla zabo kumaphepha ombala omdala, kubalulekile ukugcina engqondweni ukuba abantwana banokuziva becasulayo xa bengenako ukusebenza kwiinkqubo eziyinkimbinkimbi, umzekelo.) Konke kuzo zonke iincwadi ezininzi kuba yindlela enkulu yokuphumla xa ungumzali oxakekile.
Indlela Abadala Bemibala Yeencwadi Abafumana Ngenzuzo Ngabazali
- Kuhle ukunciphisa uxinzelelo. Njengoko uhamba, iincwadi zabantu abadala zibuyiselwa kunye nokucamngca, kwaye uvumele ukuba ujikeleze ihlabathi, uthi uMarygrace Berberian, uNjingalwazi oNcedisayo wezonyango kunye noMlawuli weCandelo loLwazi lweZiko kwiNyuvesi yaseNew York. (Kakade, ukuhamba kunokunika uninzi lwezinye iinjongo kuba ngumsebenzi wokwenyama, ngoko umbala akufanele ube yinto oyenzayo ukubuyisela indawo yokuzivocavoca - ingaba yenye yezinto ozenzayo ukunciphisa uxinzelelo, njengokuhamba okanye i-yoga. UProfesa Berberian uthi kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba nangona iincwadi ezinemibala yabantu abadala zingancedisa ukunciphisa uxhalaba, akufanele kucatshangwe njengonyango lobugcisa, yinkqubo ebandakanya uphando osebenza kunye nomxhasi.)
- Ikhuthaza ukukhumbula nokugxila. Unokubeka ingqwalasela emsebenzini owenzayo-ukudala umfanekiso wakho-kwaye uguqulwe okanye ubuncinane uphenduke umthamo kubo bonke abo bakwenzayo uludwe kunye nezinye izinto zokucinezeleka ebomini bakho.
- Kuvuyisa. Esinye isizathu sokuba kutheni iincwadi ezenziwe ngabantu abadala zithandwa kakhulu kukuba yindlela elula yokuphumeza umqondo wokufezekiswa. (Kwaye njengabazali, sonke siyazi ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukugqiba nayiphi na imisebenzi ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka!) Amaphepha ombala omdala angafakwa phantsi xa ufuna ukuphatha "Andikwazi ukufumana iisokisi zam ozithandayo" uhlobo lwenkathazo okanye Umntakwabo alwa kwaye aphinde athathe kwakhona, kwaye xa usuphelile, unokuziva uvakalelwa ngempumelelo.
- Kulula kwaye angabizi. Njengoko uxinzelelo lweengxaki zihamba, iincwadi zombala zabantu abadala zilula ukuzenza kwaye azidingi naziphi izakhono ezikhethekileyo okanye izixhobo (ngaphandle kweencwadi kunye neepensele zombala okanye nantoni na oyisebenzisayo ukulubala amaphepha). Akufani nokudweba okanye ukugcwalisa umgca ongenanto - akukho ngcinezelo okanye ukwesaba ukuhluleka. Akunakuphulukana, indlela engenangqiqo yokuziva uvakalelwa ngokukhawuleza, utsho uBerberian.
- Lithuba elihle lokuthatha ikhefu kwi-tech. Ukusuka kwi- phubbing (okanye "i-phone snubbing") abantwana bethu kunye nabatshatileyo ukuba bajonge ukujonga iichungechunge zakutshanje okanye i-documentary sisilumkile kwi-Netflix, sinokuxhomekeke kuninzi kwi-tech kunye nantoni na esithintela ingqalelo kwiikrini into. (Enyanisweni, esinye sezizathu zokuba kutheni iBerberian icinga ukuba iincwadi ezindala zokubala imibala zithandwa kakhulu kukuba, ekudlulileyo kwangoko, sigxininise kakhulu kumsebenzi nakwi-tech; ngoku, kukho inkqubela ngokubhekiselele kuyo yonke into, kunye nezinto ezinjengamaqela adibanayo okanye ezobugcisa okanye ukupenda ubusuku buhamba kwakhona.)
- Iphathekayo. Ngaba nexesha lokubulala ngenkathi ulinda umntwana wakho ukuba aqedele iklasi yokudanisa okanye ibhola lebhola? Iincwadi ezinemibala yabantu abadala zilungelekile, kwaye unganxibelelana nabanye abazali xa usebenza kwiphepha. (Mhlawumbi baya kuphelisa ukufuna ukwenza okunye, ngokunjalo, ukuze ufune ukupakisha amaphepha athile angaphezulu.)
- Unokwenza kunye nezingane. Abantwana abaninzi abakhulileyo banokusingatha iincwadi eziyinkimbinkimbi zeencwadi zokudala imibala, kwaye nabantwana abasebancinci banokubanika i-coloring section-of, bathi, i-mandala - eneepensele ezinemibala. Kwinqanaba elincinci okanye elincinci, abantwana abasebancinci esikolweni banokwenza iziphakamiso zombala kwaye baziqhenyce ngokwabo xa banceda abazali babo bakha umfanekiso omhle. Uphando lubonisa ukuba ukonwaba kunye nokudlala nomntwana wakho kubalulekile kwintlalo yakhe kunye nophuhliso lwengqondo oluphilileyo ; into elula nje ngokuba umbala nomntwana wakho inokuba yindlela yeendlela ezininzi ongayenza ngayo uvuyo ekusebenzisaneni kwakho kwaye uphumule kwaye ujabule kunye. Kodwa-kwaye oku kubalulekile kodwa, nge-capital "B," "U," kunye ne "T" - kukho izinto ezimbalwa omele uzigcine engqondweni xa ubala kunye nezingane.
Musa ukunika umntwana wakho uyilo elunzima kakhulu ukuba libalale. Umntwana unokuvakalelwa kukuba amandla akhe akakwazi ukufanisana neyakho kwaye unokuziva ekhungathekile ukuba akakwazi ukubala imizobo enzulu njengomama okanye utata. (Kwaye abantwana, ingakumbi abantwana abasebancinci, baya kulahleka izakhono ezifanelekileyo ezifanelekileyo ezifunekayo ukuze zibalale ezo zithuba ezincinci.) Qiniseka ukuba ukhetha izinto ezilula ukuzenza kunye nokugcina imifanekiso enzima kakhulu emva kokuba abantwana bakho belala, okanye ukuba umntwana wakho ukhetha, makhe asebenze nawe kwezinye iindawo aze akuxelele imibala engayifaka ngayo kwabanye kwiimpawu ezilukhuni.
Xa umbala nomntwana wakho, ungamniki imithetho okanye umxelele ukuba njani okanye njani ukubala. Kwaye xa edala ucezu lobugcisa, cela imibuzo eninzi uze ungene ngaphakathi kwengqondo yakhe, utsho uBerberian. Buza malunga noko kwenzeke kumfanekiso, okanye kutheni wakhetha imibala ethile yezinto ezithile. Yaye qi niseka ukuba unika indumiso kunye nokukhuthaza.
Isebe ngaphaya kweencwadi zemifanekiso yabantu abadala kunye namaphepha. Yenza imizobo yakho kunye kunye nokubala imizobo xa uyenziwe. Omnye umdlalo ongawudlala ngawo: Qala ngokwenza i-squiggle, uze ungeze umntwana wakho kuloo nto, kwaye uqhubeke utshintshana de uze udale umsebenzi wakho wokubala, ubonisa iBerberian.
Phuma ngaphandle kwaye usebenzise umhoxo ongasecaleni ukuze udwebe emhlabathini. Ebusika, ungapenda kwikhephu. Kwaye xa uthe wagqiba umbala wehlabathi lakho, bamba ibhola yebhola, iFrisbee, okanye ezinye izicathulo zokuhamba kwaye ugijime ngaphandle. Hlela imidlalo ethile yokuzonwabisa yangaphandle , okanye ugijime uze ufune ukufihla nokufuna. Ukuhleka kunye nezingane akuzona nje kuphela ezilungileyo kubo kodwa enye yezona zinto zingcono zokuxininisa abazali.