Iinjongo zokuzama ukuzenza kunye nokuzinceda Abazali banokulindela ukusuka kwi-Old-Olds
Intsha eneminyaka elishumi elinesibhozo ubudala iqala ixesha elonwabisayo ebomini babo-ixesha lokukhulula kunye nenkululeko eninzi. Nangona abatsha, njengabantwana bonke, bekhula ngamaxabiso ahlukeneyo, kukho iziphathamandla ezithile eziqhelekileyo kwiminyaka ethile. Nazi iinjongo zokuzama ukuzama kunye noko bazali abanokulindela kumntwana oneminyaka engama-18 ubudala.
I-Youth Wellness Issue: Ukutya nokutya
Umntwana oneminyaka engama-18 usendleleni eya ekubeni yedwa kwaye benza izigqibo zabo malunga nokutya kunye nesondlo.
Baye bahlakulela umgangatho wokutya okunomdla okuya kulandela emva kokudala.
Ukuba inkululeko yabo entsha inokukwenza umntwana wakho angathandi ukufumana isiluleko esilungileyo kuwe. Bavame ukuvakalelwa ukuba 'sele bekwazi' kwaye abanako ukuqonda isizathu sokuba uya kubakhokelela ngezinto ezincinane ezinjengevithamini okanye ukutya imifuno yazo. Oku kuqhelekileyo kwaye akukho sizathu sokumisa 'ukubetha' kwakho - nje uzame ukusizisela ithoni kunye nokungaqeqeshi.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uhlala kude nekhaya, imali ingabangela ingxaki xa kuthengwa ukutya okulungileyo, njengoko ukutya okunesondlo kudla ngokubiza ngaphezu kokutya kwabo abangenayo i-junk. Isaladi inokubakhokhela imali engaphezulu kweyodola imenyu yokutya okukhawulezayo yokutya.
I-Youth Wellness Inkinga: Ukulala
Ukulala kudla ngokuba yinto ephambili ebantwini abaneminyaka engama-18 ubudala. Bavame ukuzama ukufumana ixesha elininzi kwimihla ngaphandle kokuba kungenangomso xa kungekho ntombazana inqwenela ukuvuka.
Kodwa aba bantu abadala banemithwalo yemfanelo abayidingayo ukuze baphumle ukuze benze okusemandleni abo. Ngoko, umsebenzi wakho ukubanceda babone indlela yokufumana ezilungileyo zezo zombini ihlabathi ukuba unako.
Nangona kubalulekile ukuphepha ukugxotha umntwana wakho, kufuneka ubeke imida embalwa. Ukuba ubomi bakho bentlalo buhlala kwindlela yokulala, umkhuthaze ukuba ahlale ekhaya ubusuku obubodwa ngeveki ukuze angabikho nokuxinezeleka.
Nangona ukulala kungabalulekanga kubantwana bakho abaneminyaka engama-18 ubudala, ii- curfews kufuneka zisenokunyanzeliswa kuba zibonisa intlonelo kubo bonke abahlala ekhaya. Intsha ebuyela ekhaya nanini na ngaphandle kokubizela imbangela yabaxinzelelo kubazali nakumntakwabo.
Ingxaki yokuLungisa iNtsapho: Ukuzivocavoca
Ukuba wakho umntwana usempilweni enempilo, bancede bawugcine. Umntu othabatha indlela yokusebenza ngokufanelekileyo kwimpilo yakhe esemdala kunye neminyaka emininzi iya kuthwala loo migaqo emihle ibe ngumntu omdala.
Yiba nombono wolwazi lomnxeba wommandla kwaye uyidlulisele kumntwana wakho oneminyaka engama-18 ubudala. Xa intsha iyayazi into eyenziwa kwingingqi yabo, iya kuyisebenzisa.
Inkxalabo yeNtle-ntle: Ukuxinezeleka
Abantwana abaneminyaka elishumi elinesibhozo ubudala banomdla omnye ngomzuzu kwaye bagxininisa okulandelayo. Ihlabathi labo litshintsha ngokukhawuleza, bathetha ukuba baya kubahlobo besikolo esiphakamileyo kunye nokwenza indlela yabo kwilizwe lekholeji okanye ubomi bomsebenzi. Ngenye yezona nkxalabo ezibuhlungu kakhulu zobomi bomntu nabani na izigqibo kunye nezinguqu ziya kuba phezulu emoyeni kubo.
Nceda umntwana wakho abambe ubunzima beenguqu zokuphila ngokuzakhela ukuzithemba kwabo kunye nezikhumbuzo zobomi babo nobuchule babo, ukuphulaphula iingcamango zabo nokuzivumela ukuba benze izigqibo zabo ngexesha lonke beyazi ukuba banothando lwakho nenkxaso.
Ukuziphatha, uxanduva, kunye nokuLawula
Misela imithetho yendlu yengane yakho eneminyaka engama-18 ubudala ehlala ekhaya, njengoko ingaqala ukucinga ukuba ngoku ikhulile, imigaqo oyenayo endaweni ayisasetyenziswa. Chaza umntwana wakho ukuba akunjalo kwaye uzama ukwenza njalo ngaphambi kokuba ibangele ingxaki okanye ingxabano. Xa uneminyaka eyi-18, kufuneka bakwazi ukulandela imithetho yezindlu ngaphandle kokuba uwakhumbuze.
Ukuncintisana kuyisisiseko sokuhlala nomntu omdala oneminyaka eyi-18 ophumelele esikolweni esiphakeme kwaye ulindele ukuya ekolishi okanye ufuna umsebenzi wexesha elizeleyo. Hlala uqhagamshelana nentombazana yakho ngokuthetha ngokuvulekileyo malunga naziphi na iingxaki onokuzenza kunye nokuziphatha kwazo.
Buza ukuba bancede ukuba ufike isisombululo.
Umntwana oneminyaka eyi-18 uya kuhamba ngokuxakeka kakhulu ukuba angabi nantoni ekwenzeni ngokuthe ngqo emva kokugqweswa kwesikolo esiphakeme xa bengenayo ihlobo okanye ixesha elizeleyo lomsebenzi. Oku kusenokuba yingxaki ukuba umntwana wakho usemva kwikholeji okanye kwisikolo sobugcisa ngaphakathi kweenyanga ezimbalwa. Bangasebenzisa ikhefu ukuze balungiselele. Kodwa ukuba umntwana wakho okhulileyo akazange enze izicwangciso ngekamva labo, banokungena kwimikhwa emibi engayi kuba luncedo kubo. Ukuba kunjalo, yenza umntwana wakho aqale ukufumana umsebenzi ngokukhawuleza.
Ukuhlaziywa ngu-Amy Morin, uLCSW.