Njengoko abantwana bekhula beba selutsha, ukuphuhliswa kwabo ngokomzimba kuya kubonakala njengokukhula kwabo ngokwenyama. Ukubukela ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo komntwana wakho kwande kwaye kukhule kunomdla kwaye kuyinselele ngexesha elifanayo. Ngezantsi kukho utshintsho oluthile onokulindela ukulubona luvela phakathi kwakho njengoko efika kwiminyaka yeshumi elivisayo kunye no-meanders ngokusebenzisa ubusuku.
Uphuhliso lweMvakalelo kunye neNgcaciso
Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba njengabantwana basondela kwiminyaka yeshumi elivisayo, bahlakulela ukuqonda kangcono iimvakalelo zabo, kwaye banokuzivakalisa kakuhle iimvakalelo zabo kuwe. Xa umntwana wakho esemncinci, usenokuba nomsindo, kodwa akazange akwazi ukubonisa isizathu. Njengoko uphakathi, kufuneka akwazi ukubonisa ukuba kutheni uvakalelwa ngendlela ekhethekileyo (enhle okanye engafanelekanga) kwaye kukugcina ungacingi ukuba uvakalelwa yintoni na okanye kutheni uyaxhamla okanye uyavuya kakhulu.
Iphulo lokuzali: Xa ubhekana ne-tweens evuthayo , qiniseka ukuba ubeka imida malunga nendlela avunyelwe ngayo ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zabo. Ukugqithisa kakubi, ukugwenxa ngokomzimba kunye nokuziphatha okungahloneliyo akufanele kubekezeleke. Kubalulekile ukufundisa phakathi kwakho ngoku ukulawula kakuhle iimvakalelo zakhe. Ukwenza njalo kuya kwenza ukuba le nto ibelula ibe lula kubo bobabini.
Tweens kunye neeMoods
Ukuba kukho inkcaso kwixesha eliphakathi kweminyaka kufuneka ibe yindlela yokuziphatha.
Uphuhliso lomzwelo kunye neminyaka emibini akulula kubafundi okanye ngabazali. Njengoko umntwana wakho ebhekene noxinzelelo olukhulayo esikolweni, entlalweni, kwaye ebhekene nokudideka kunye nokuxhalaba ngokuphelelwa ngumntwana , unokulindela ukunyuka kwemizwa eninzi. Ngamantombazana, ukuguquka kwemizwelo kungathatyathwa inguqulelo ye-hormones ngaphambi okanye ngexesha lokuya esikhathini, ukuchaswa koontanga, kunye noxinzelelo olongezelelweyo esikolweni.
Abafana nabo banamava ngenxa yesikolo, ubuhlobo, amantombazana, kunye nosuku.
Ukuguquguquka kwemizi kunokuzimela ngokukhawuleza kwaye kungalindelekanga, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo zihlala zifutshane.
Iphulo lokuzali : I- Moody tweens idla ngokudinga ixesha elilodwa ukwenzela ukuzola nokubeka izinto ngendlela ebonakalayo. Ukuba i-kati yakho ibhekene nokuguquguquka kwemizwelo , mncede afune iindlela zokujamelana nokuvakalelwa kwakhe. Unokuphulaphula umculo, ufunde incwadi, okanye uchithe ixesha lokudlala imidlalo yevidiyo.
Amantombazana angamaTween angaba yiNgqondo
Inxalenye ebalulekileyo yokuphuhliswa kwengqondo kukuziqonda. Njengoko i-kati yakho iyazi ngakumbi kunye nehlabathi elikujikelezayo, unokuzijonga ngokubonakala kwakhe, iimpahla zakhe kunye nayo yonke into. Ngexesha leminyaka intombazana idla ngokuziqhathanisa kunye neontanga zabo, kunye nemifanekiso, bayibona kumaphephancwadi, kumabonwakude nakwii-movie. Ngelishwa, amaninzi amantombazana akholelwa ukuba ayenabo abanetalente, amahle, abahlakaniphile, okanye abathandwa njengamanye amantombazana.
Iphulo lokuzali: Ngethuba leminyaka yamantombazana idinga ukuqinisekiswa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo kubo kwaye ukuba bahlakulela indlela abaye bafuna ngayo. Nika uthando lwakho nenkxaso kwaye ubuze indlela onokubanceda ngayo ukujongana nemiba abanokuba nzima ngayo.
Kwakhona, uqaphele imiqondiso yokukhathazeka kokutya, kwakunye neempawu zokudakumba.
Ukuphuhlisa Ngokomoya kunye Nokuqiqa
Njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula yena okanye unokubonisa iimpawu zeengcamango ezinzulu, enye into ebaluleke kakhulu ekuphuculeni ngokomzwelo wakho. Njengoko umntwana wakho acinga ngakumbi nangaphezulu njengomntu omdala, yenza ukuba kuxoxwe naye kulula, kwaye kunzima kakhulu.
Xa umntwana wakho eqonda ngakumbi kulula ukuba wenze iphuzu lakho kwaye uthembele, yifinyelele kuye. Nangona kunjalo, ama-thirteen adumile ngokuzama ukuxoxisana nabazali babo, okanye ukufumana ukungalingani kubazali babo ekucingeni ukuba bangawasebenzisa.
Lindela ukuba phakathi kwakho kukucebise wena kunye nezigqibo zakho ngezikhathi ezithile.
Isiluleko sabazali: Kubalulekile ukuba ulawule iimvakalelo zakho xa i-tween yakho iphosa amaqhosha akho. Qinisekisa ukuba uthabathe ixesha lakho xa ucinga ukuba unokulahlekelwa.
Kwakhona, kulungile ukuthabatha ixesha lokucinga ngendlela ofuna ukuphendula ngayo phakathi kwakho xa ephikisana negunya lakho okanye wanika icala kwicala ongazange ucinge ngalo. Unokuthi, "Kucacile ukuba le nto iyinkimbinkimbi. Ndifuna ixesha lokucinga ngale nto kwaye xa ndiyenzayo, siya kuthetha kwakhona ngalo."
Uphuhliso Lokuvakalelwa kunye Nemvakalelo Yothando
I-Tweens ingaqala ukubonisa umdla ngomdla kwabanye kubantwana abaneminyaka yobudala engama-9. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ama- tween ayanelisekile ngokwaneleyo ukusingatha ukuthandana , kodwa banokuthetha ngokuthandana, abo bafuna ukutshatana nabo, kwaye bakhulume nabafundi abafundela nabo sele besesithandana nabo.
Iphulo lokuzali: Awufuni ukulahla uhlangothi lwakho ukuya kumhla, njengoko kuya kukhuthaza kuphela umntwana wakho ukuba avukele kuwe. Vumela ukuba phakathi kwakho udibanise namalungu esini esahlukileyo kumaqela (ngoxa nje besondele kuminyaka). Kuhle ukuvumela ukuba phakathi kwakho ucinge ngokuthandana, kodwa ungakhuthazi ukuthandana de kube umntwana wakho ekulungele ukufumana amava.