Indlela eYodwa yokuKhula noPhuhliso
Nangona i-kati yakho ingaba yinto ekujoliswe kuyo ekuphuculeni, abazali bafanele bazi ukuba ukungafani komntu kudlala njani ekufikeni nasekukhuleni. Ukwahlukana komntu ngokwahlukeneyo kwimiqondo yengqondo yintlukwano ukusuka komnye umntu ukuya kwelinye kwizinto eziguqukayo ezifana nesimo sengqondo, ukuxabiseka, ukuzithemba , izinga lezakhono zokukhula kwengqondo okanye isantya sokuvumelanisa - cinga nje ngazo zonke izinto ezincinane kunye neziqwenga ezisihlukanisa kwaye usenza sibe yedwa kwabanye.
Ngokomlando, isayensi yengqondo iye yayeka ukungaboni ngaso linye ngokubhekiselele ekuziphatheni okuqhelekileyo.
Ngokomzekelo, siyazi ukuba, ngokuqhelekileyo, amantombazana aqala ukuvavanya ukutshatyalaliswa ekupheleni kweminyaka eyi-10.5 ubudala. Ngoxa le nto ibalulekile, ikwabaluleke kakhulu ukujonga ukungafani kwenkqubo yophuhliso. Amanye amantombazana afumana ukutshatyalaliswa kakhulu kusasa okanye ngokukhawuleza. Iingcali zengqondo ziye zaqonda ukuba nayiphi imeko ingaba nemiphumo emihle kwixesha elizayo le ntombazana . Ukuba sasifunda kuphela umyinge - ngamanye amagama, ukuba sasijongela ukungqubuzana komntu ngamnye - siza kulahlekelwa ngcaciso engundoqo malunga nophuhliso lwabantwana.
Yiyiphi Impikiswano Yomntu I-Tween Yakho Ebonisa?
Ukwahlukana komntu ngamnye kuye kwafundwa rhoqo kwiindawo zokuphuhlisa ubuntu. Iingcali zengqondo ziye zaqokelela inani elikhulu leenkcukacha malunga nendlela abantu abahlukana ngayo ngokwemiqathango yabo. Ngokomzekelo, baqaphele ukuba ukungafani komntu "kwi-Five Big" impawu zobuntu kuqala kubonakala ngokubonakalayo phakathi neminyaka emibini.
Ezi zimpawu zobuntu ezifaka isandla kwiintlukwano ziquka:
Unembeza
Ingaba phakathi kwakho uxanduva okanye usebenza nzima? Ingaba uhamba phambili, ngexesha okanye ngokukhawuleza emva kokuqeshwa? Ngaba uyayenza umsebenzi wesikolo ngaphandle kokuba abuze?
Ukungqinelana
Ingaba i-kati yakho ineentsebenziswano ezintle zezentlalo?
Ingaba unomdla okanye uthanda ukuhlala, uthanda abanye, uncedo okanye usebenzisana naye?
Ukuvula ukuva
Ingaba yakho iphakathi kweengcinga okanye inqanaba eliphezulu lokudala? Ingaba uguquguqukayo, unomdla okanye unomdla? Ngaba uthanda ukuphula umculo omtsha, ukufunda izinto ezintsha, ukuzama ukutya okutsha okanye ukuya kwiindawo ezintsha? Ingaba ungumntu ovulekile othanda ukuba neentlobo ezahlukeneyo kwimpilo yakhe yemihla ngemihla okanye enqwenelekayo?
Neuroticism
Ingaba i-kati yakho inomdla wokuhlala uxhalabile, inomsindo, uzive unetyala okanye ucindezelekile? Amanqanaba aphakamileyo e-neuroticism angathetha ukuphendula kakubi ukuxinezeleka, amava okwesaba okanye ukungathembeki kwiimeko zemihla ngemihla, ngaba kunjalo na phakathi kwakho?
U kukhutshwa
Ingaba i-kati yakho ivuselelwe ngokubakho nabanye abantu? Lo mzekelo uhambelane ne-introvert, okhuthazwa ngokuba yedwa.
Indlela I-Adolescent Psychology Inokunceda Ngayo Inkxaso Yakho Yokukhula noPhuhliso
Konke kuzo zonke, ukufundwa kweengxaki ezahlukeneyo kusinceda ukuba siqonde nje kuphela oko kwenza abantu bafanane, kodwa nokuba yintoni eyenza bahluke. Ngokuqwalasela ukuhlukahluka okunokuvela kumntu omnye ukuya kwelinye, sinokuqonda kakuhle uluhlu olupheleleyo lokuziphatha kwabantu.
Singakwazi ukuqonda ukuba yintoni ukuhluka okuqhelekileyo, njengokuba yeyiphi imilinganiselo yentuthuko enokuba ngamaphulegi abomvu ukungenelela, njengokuba kukho imeko yokukhathazeka kwezifundo , ezinokuthi zithathwa ngokubambisana kweentlukwano ezahlukeneyo.
Uvavanyo lwe-2014 lweewele ezili-12 elineminyaka eli-12 lifumene iimbangela eziphambili zohlukwano ngokwahlukileyo ukuba luzuze okanye luyindalo (abaphandi baqwalasela ngokukhawuleza imvelaphi ye-classic kunye nengxabano yokukhulisa). Xa kuziwa kukukhula kwakho kunye nophuhliso lwakho, uphando lubonisa ukuvumela ukuba phakathi kwakho uzame amava amaninzi kangako ukuze akwazi ukufumana ukutya kwakhe kunye nokufaneleka kwezakhono ezahlukeneyo.
Vumela phakathi kwakho ukhethe, uguqule, kwaye udale amava akhe kunye neendawo zokuhlala kunokuba uthembele kwisilinganiselo esisodwa-esifanelekileyo sonke esinikezwa ngemilinganiselo yokuziphatha ephakathi. Oku kuthetha ukuba uya kuba nomzali ngamnye ngomntwana ngokuxhomekeke kwiimeko.
Khangela ukudala indlela eyahlukeneyo kwaye ukhuthaze phakathi kwakho ukuba ulandele izinto ezikhethiweyo ezithandayo kunye nokuzibophelela ngokwahlukileyo kwazo.
Umthombo:
Berger, Kathleen. Umntu ophuhlisayo ngokuPhila. 2008. I-7 Edition. ENew York: Ixabiso.
I-Plomin R, uShakeshaft NG, uMcMillan A, iTrzaskowski M. Uhlobo, ukunyusa kunye nobuchule. Ubulumko . 2014; 45: 46-59. i-doi: 10.1016 / j.intell.2013.06.008.