Ngelishwa, uxinzelelo lwentlalo lunokuhlala ixesha elide, kuxhomekeke kumntu oye wafumana imeko ebuhlungu. Oku kubonakala kukunyanisekileyo kwiimeko zentlalo ezixinzelelekileyo ezibangela iziphumo ezinamandla, njengento yokugxekwa, ukuxhatshazwa kunye nezinye iintlobo zobudlova .
Iziphumo zexesha elide
Uxinzelelo lwezenhlalakahle luhlala iminyaka ngenxa yokuba isiganeko sithuba esisodwa sinokuthenjwa ngokucinga ngako.
Ngenxa yokuqhutyelwa kwe-intanethi, abantu abanokufikelela kwizikhumbuzo zeziganeko ezidlulileyo njengezizukulwana zangaphambili. Ukongezelela kobubungqina beemeko ezedlulileyo, abahlobo kunye neentsapho zokuphendulela kuyo nokuba kulula ukuzifumana. Abaphengululi bafumanisa ukuba ukunyamekela kwengqondo kunokuvakalelwa nje ngokuba kubuhlungu njengento yokuqala. Yongeza kwiividiyo, iifoto kunye namazwana angakhutshwa ngabanye kunye nethuba lokukhupha iziganeko ezibuhlungu. Ngenxa yoko, izixinzelelo zentlalo zinokuba zilimaza ngakumbi kunokuba zibuhlungu ngenxa yokuba ubuhlungu benyama bubuhlungu njengoko ukulimala ukuphilisa xa ubuhlungu beengqondo buyaqhubeka ngonaphakade. Nangona kunjalo, kubonakala ngathi kukho ukungafani kobulili apho uhlobo lobugwenxa luvakalelwa ngakumbi.
Uxinzelelo lwezeNtlalo kunye noTyiens kwiTweens
Akunjalo bonke abantu ababa namaxinzelelo entlalontle baya kuba nobuhlungu besikhathi eside, nangona kunjalo. Kwimeko ye-ostracism, okanye ukungabikho kwentlalo, zonke iintsapho ziya kuziva zibuhlungu , kodwa ezininzi ziza kuthintela ngengqondo kwaye zingahambi emagxininini angaphantsi, ahlala ehlala ehlala ehlala emininzi.
Abantwana abavuthayo kwimeko, nangona kunjalo, banokudandatheka kangangokuba iimithombo zabo zengqondo ziphelile. Oku kubeka isiseko semiphumo eyingozi kakhulu yentlalo yoluntu equka iingcinga zokuzibulala.
Ulwahlulo lweendlela zokuCombulula
Ngenxa yokunyuka kwexesha, ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabahlobo, uxinzelelo lwezenhlalakahle lunokuba nzima ngakumbi kwiimeko eziphathekayo zengqondo.
Ngokombutho we-American Psychological Association (APA), abangaphezu kwama-42% abatsha abakhankanywe bengenzi nantoni na ekuphenduleni uxinzelelo loluntu. Uyakwazi ukufundisa phakathi kwakho ukuba ube kwicala elincinci lala manani. Nazi izicwangciso ezi-5 ezicebisayo ziza kunceda i-pakati yakho ibhekane neengxaki zentlalo:
- Fumana ubuthongo obaneleyo
- Ukugxininisa okulungileyo
- Hambisa
- Yenza uvuyo
- Thetha uviwe
Njengoko ufundisa phakathi kwakho ukubaluleka kokuphendula kwiingcinezelo ngendlela enenjongo, baya kufunda indlela yokujongana noxinzelelo olunjengepro. Ngokuzifundela ngolu hlobo oluncinane, baya kuthatha ezi zakhono zibe ngabantu abadala kwaye babe namandla xa bephila.
Umthombo:
UWilliam, uPikling D., kunye noNida, uStep A. Ukwaziswa: Iziphumo kunye nokuxhathisa. Izikhokelo zangoku kwiSayensi zeNzululwazi. 2011. 20 (2): 71-75.