Ukubonakalisa nje Ukungazibandakanyi ngesondo Akusebenzi
Xa kuza kuza ukuthetha ngesondo, ukukhulelwa kwezesondo kunye nokuthandana kwentsha, kubonakala sengathi abazali bavame ukuvalelwa ukwenza iimpazamo ezithile . Esinye seziphene sithetha ngokuxoxa ngokuziyeka. Xa bebuzwa ngale ngxaki, intsha iphendule ngokungakumbi ukuba ifuna ukuva ngakumbi kubazali babo kunokuthi "musa ukulala ngesondo." Enyanisweni, le ngenye indawo apho intsha ivakalelwa kukuba abazali babo kufuneka banikeze inzuzo yokungathandabuzeki.
Abazali akufanele bavumele ukuba bangene emngciphekweni wokukholelwa ukuba umntwana wabo uya kufumana imilayezo edibeneyo okanye adideke ukuba kukho kokubili ukukhulelwa nokuzilahla kuxoxwa ngazo ngexesha elifanayo. Bonisa umntwana wakho ukuba uyayihlonela ingqondo yakhe ngokwaneleyo ukubandakanya kule ngxoxo. Njengoko zicelo ezichazwe ngabaninzi abaselula:
Abazali - Kufuneka Uyenze ngaphezu kweeNcwadi nje ngokuZithintela
Ndiyaqonda ukuba oku kunokuba ngumthambeka othobayo. Kubalulekile ukuba wena (njengomzali) uchaze ngokucacileyo ukuba umntwana wakho othembekileyo kunye nexabiso lakhe malunga nokuziphatha kwabo. Kukulungele ukuba uhlanganyele uluvo lwakho, ukuziphatha kunye nokulindela ngesondo kunye nentombazana yakho. Kungenokuba luncedo, nangona kunjalo, ukuba uqale ucacise malunga nesimo sakho sengqondo nesondo ngaphambi kokuba ube nencoko. Xa ufumana le ngxoxo, qiniseka ukuba uchaza isizathu sokuba uzive ngendlela oyenzayo (akusiyo ixesha lokuba "ngenxa yokuba ndithe njalo"), nifuna ngamandla igalelo lakho lentsha kunye nokuphulaphula oko bathethayo.
Ndiyathanda, nangona kunjalo, kunokuba kulula. Ngelishwa, kweli hlabathi lanamhlanje, abazali bafuna ukwenza okungakumbi kunokuba bathethe umntwana wakho ukuba angalalwanga ngesondo. Eli lixesha elifanele uxoxe ngalo ngesondo nokukhulelwa komzimba:
- Kukhethiweyo
- Ngokuzithemba
- Yaye uthembeke ukuba awuqinisekanga ngento ethile
Yenza Ingxoxo
Kusenokuba luncedo ukuxoxa ngendlela ozive ngayo xa uselula ...
ukugcina engqondweni ukutshintsha kwamaxesha. Yenza okusemandleni akho ukwenza le ngxoxo kunokuthetha.
- Buza wakho umntwana ukuba abe nengcamango yakhe
- Mamela
- Hlonipha
- Ukongeza kokuthetha ngokukhusela nokukhulelwa, khuluma ngeemvakalelo ezinokuza kunye nolwabelana ngesondo
- Cinga ngombono wakho wengane
- Khuthaza imibuzo kwaye uphendule koko bathethayo
Kungokuba luncedo ukwazi ukuba i-53% yabashumi bathi abazali babo okanye iinkolelo zabo zonqulo, ukuziphatha kunye nexabiso lichaphazela izigqibo zabo zesondo. Abaselula abanabantwana ababonelela ngemilayezo ecacileyo malunga nokubaluleka kokuzilahla banokubambezeleka ngamava abo okuqala ngokwesondo, kwaye abazali abaxoxa ngokukhulelwa kwezilwanyana banakho amathuba okuba bafana abasebenzisa ulawulo lokubeletha xa ekugqibeleni bakhetha ukwenza umsebenzi wesondo.
Uphando
Abaphandi uMichelle M. Isley et al. yafumanisa ukuba ukuyeka ukuzimela-imfundo kuphela ayaneleyo. Uphononongo lwabo lubonisa ukuba intsha eyayikholelwa ukuba ifumana imfundo yesondo eyayiqulethe kuphela ulwazi malunga neendlela zokulawula ukubeleka yayinokwenzeka ukuba isebenzise indlela yokwenza umthamo onokwethenjelwa okokuqala ngqa balala ngesondo. Kubonakala ngathi abatsha abafumana iingxoxo zezemfundo zesondo ezazibandakanya iintetho ezinamandla zokuziyeka babengenakunokwenzeka ukuba basebenzise imithwalo yokukhusela ethembekileyo kwisenzo sabo sokuqala sesondo.
Le datha ibonisa ukuba ukulahla-ukuphela komyalezo kubakho ukucima, okanye kuhlengahlengisa, iziphumo ezinokubangela iingeniso ezihanjiswe ngolwazi malunga neendlela zokulawula ukuzalwa. Kubonakala ngathi, ukugxininisa ngakumbi kwintsapho yakho ukuba ingalali, ngakumbi xa kungekho lwazi malunga nokukhulelwa komzimba, lunokukhokelela ekusebenziseni ukulawulwa kolawulo lokuzalwa.
- Imfundo yoLwaphulo ngokubanzi kunye nokuThwala-Imfundo kuphela
Olu pho nonongo luye lwabonisa ukuba xa abazali bexoxa ngeengxoxo zesondo (kwaye kungekhona nje ukuyeka ukuzibandakanya), kukho amathuba okuba abatsha babo baya kusebenzisa indlela yokulawula yokubeleka ethembekileyo. Ezi ngxoxo zesondo ezibanzi phakathi kwabazali kunye nentsha (ehamba ngaphaya komzali exelela abatsha ukuba bangalalani ngesondo) banceda ukukhuthaza ukuziphatha kakubi ngokwesini.
Abazali bafanele baxoxe ngeendlela zokulawula ukuzalwa kwama-hormonal ngenxa yokuba abatsha abasebenzisa ezi ndlela bahlala benza njalo ngokuqhubekayo. Le ngxoxo akufanele igcinwe kuphela kubafana abasetyhini.
- Abaninzi abaselula bayabonakalisa ulwazi oluncinane malunga nokukhulelwa kwe-hormonal (bakholelwa inkolelo eninzi malunga nepilisi, umzekelo) okanye abanokwazi ukuba zeziphi iikhomoni ezikhoyo. Xa abazali bebonelela oonyana babo beselula ngolwazi, kuya kubanceda bazive bekhuselekile ngakumbi ngolwazi lwabo - oku kuya kunceda ekusebenzeni njengenyathelo elibalulekileyo ekuncedeni la madoda amancinci ukuba ancedise iingxoxo ezinoxanduva malunga nokukhulelwa kweentombi kunye neentombi zabo.
Thetha ngeeKondom
Ekugqibeleni, kubonakala ukuba abatsha abaye bathatha inxaxheba kwiingxoxo kunye namalungu entsapho malunga neikhondom banakho ukusebenzisa iikhondom ngokwabo. Ngoko, isicatshulwa sam sokugqibela ... xa abazali bethetha malunga nendlela yokusebenzisa iikhondom okanye ukuthenga iikhondom (kunokuba ugxile ekuzikhumbuleni), ukusetyenziswa kwekhondom kwintsholongwane.
Kwaye ukuba undibuyisele kuzo zonke izinto, i-American Academy of Pediatrics, iKomiti ye-Adolescents, ixhasa ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye ikhuthaza oogqirha ukuba bacebise intsha malunga nokusetyenziswa okuchanekileyo nokuchanekileyo kokukhulelwa kwezinto ezinokwethenjelwa kunye neikhondom phakathi kwalabo abenza ngokwesondo okanye becinga ukuziphatha ngokwesondo . Njengoko uphando lubonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba abazali banokuchaphazela ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba abafana babo abasetyhini benza inxaxheba kwimeko yesondo ekhuselekileyo xa balala ngesondo, abazali kunye nentombazana kufuneka bakhuthazwe ukuba bakhulume ngeengxoxo ezithathwa ngumfana wakhe ngexesha loqeshwe.
Umgca apha apha, bazali: Ixesha lokuhamba ngaphezu kwezifundo zokuzilahla:
- Umntwana wakho akafuni ukuva ukuba angalalani ngesondo.
- Ingane yakho ifuna ulwazi olubanzi lokulawula ukuzalwa kwaye kufuneka ikhuthazwe ukusebenzisa ukukhulelwa kwangaphambili.
- Intsha kufuneka iqonde indlela ukukhulelwa kwenzeka ngayo .
- Uncedo luyakomeleza izakhono zengxoxo zentsha, ngoko ke unokukwazi ukuthetha ngokuzithemba ngokusebenzelana nokukhulelwa kunye kunye kunye okanye / okanye "unokuthi" cha ".
- Abaselula bafundisa ulwazi malunga nezenzo zesondo ezikhuselekileyo ngabazali babo banokukwazi ukubandakanya kwezi ziphatho ngokwabo.
- Yenza okungaphezu kweengxoxo malunga nokuziyeka - khusela umntwana wakho kwaye uncede ukuba aqale ukwenza ukhetho olufanelekileyo lwezempilo ngokwesondo.
Imithombo
Abbey B. Berenson, uZ. Helen Wu, uCarmen Radecki Breitkopf, uJennifer Newman. "Ulwalamano oluphakathi komthombo wolwazi ngesondo kunye nokuziphatha ngokwesini phakathi kwabasetyhini abaselula." Ukukhulelwa . 2006. 73 (3): 274-278. Kufumaneka ngokubhalisa kwangasese.
UMichelle M. Isley, uAlison Edelman, uBliss Kaneshiro, uBawn Peters, uMark D. Nichols, uJeffrey T. Jensen. "Imfundo yocalulo kunye nokusetyenziswa kokukhulelwa kwinqanaba lokuqala lomtshato e-United States: Iziphumo ezivela kwi-Cycle 6 yoPhando lweSizwe loKhula kweNtsapho." Ukukhulelwa . 2010. 82 (3): 236-242. Kufumaneka ngokubhalisa kwangasese.
URebcca D. Merkh, uPaul G. Whittaker, uKaysee Baker, uLinda Hock-Long, uKay Armstrong. "Ukuqonda kwindoda engatshatileyo yokuqonda ukukhulelwa kwe-hormone ye-female." Ukukhulelwa . 2009. 79 (3): 2284-235. Kufumaneka ngokubhalisa kwangasese.