Ngamanye amaxesha njengoko ndivakashele nabanye abahlobo bam abangabazali, ndifumana ingqungquthela yocelomngeni abajongene nawo ukukhulisa abantwana bodwa. Kodwa mna andinakukwazi ukuluqonda umceli mngeni oyedwa onentombi.
Musa ukungahambi kakuhle - ndiyamkela ngokupheleleyo iintombi zam ezimbini. Baye, ngenxa yefuthe likamama, banokuba ngabafazi abadala abadala abanamandla.
Kodwa ndiyaxhalabisa ukuba bacinga ukuba ngaba ngaba ndingumzali oyedwa.
Ngoko, oodade abangatshatanga, ndiyathemba ukuba unokuzixabisa ngokuthatha inselele yokukhulisa intombi yedwa. Xa uzama ukuqonda izitshixo zokuphumelela ekukhuliseni intombi njengoyise ongatshatanga, ndaphendukela kwabanye abahlobo bam kunye nabantu abaye bawenza kakuhle.
Ingaba udidekile okanye uhlukaniswe nomzali wokulondoloza, okanye nokuba ungumzali ongumhlolokazi, imingeni iyafana kakhulu. Ngoko, unikezelwa ngcebiso evela kwalabo abahamba ngeembadada zakho, nakhu iziphakamiso zokujongana nalo msebenzi obalulekileyo ngempumelelo.
Musa ukuhamba yedwa. Uninzi lwabawo ndathetha nokuthetha ngokubaluleka komcebisi wesetyhini kubomi beentombi zabo. Abanye ootata, ugogo, unina okanye elinye ilungu lentsapho linokuthatha inxaxheba. Kwabanye, ngumama womhlobo intombi yakhe. Kwabanye, umcebisi angaba yinkokheli yolutsha yolutsha, umkhokeli weentombazana okanye umqeqeshi wezemidlalo.
Kodwa ukufumana imodeli eqinile kunye nekhono lomfazi kubalulekile ekuphumeleleni kwentombi yakho ekukhuleni. Ukunceda intombi yakho idibanise nalo mcebisi kuyisinyathelo omele uyithathe.
Ukuthetha. Amadoda amaninzi athambekele ekuthatheni ukuba "Ndimele Ndiyibeke" ingqondo ebomini babo kunye nolwalamano lwabo. Sivame ukuphulaphula ixesha elide ukwenzela ukuba sibone ingxaki, kwaye ke sisisisombululo.
Iintombi zethu kaninzi azifuni ukuba silungise imiba yazo; Bafuna ukuba siphulaphule ukuqonda kwaye bavumele ukuba bafunde ukusebenzisa izicombululo zethu. Ukugcina imigca yonxibelelwano evulekile kufuna ixesha, umonde kunye nokuzimisela ukwenza okokuqala.
Mfundise ukuba yingxaki yokusombulula ingxaki. Ngamanye amaxesha iintombi zethu zidinga ukuqeqeshwa okufutshane ngokucombulula iingxaki. Ukuhlala naye kunye nokumcedisa ukuba acinge ngombandela, ukuphuhlisa ezinye iindlela aze eze kwisiphetho kuthatha inzitifiketi kwabanye ooyise. Kodwa kubalulekile ukumfundisa ukuba njani, kwaye singaxhomeki kuthi. Ukumnceda ukuhlakulela izakhono ezintle zokulungisa iingxaki kuya kumnceda ubomi bakhe bonke.
Musa ukukhusela okanye ukukhusela ngaphezulu. Ndiyazi kumava am neentombi zam ukuba andinayo ingxaki kuwo wonke umkhonto omhlophe ukukhwela kwishaja yam ukuyihlangula. Kwakunzima kum ukuba ndifunde ukuvumela iintombi zam zijamelane neengxaki zempilo kunye nemingeni. Ukuba unqanda, intombi yakho iya kuvukela okanye ixhomekeke kuye, kwaye akukho nakwezo ziphumo ezilungileyo. Vumela umngcipheko othile kwaye uzakufunda ukuzithemba njengoko ephumelela.
Ukubandakanyeka ebomini bakhe. Ndicinga ukuba kulula ukuba ootata babandakanyeke ngobomi babo bobantwana kunokuba bahambe kwilizwe lentombi.
Kodwa njengokuba utata ongatshatanga, intombi yakho ifuna ukuva inkxaso yakho. Yiya emincintiswaneni yakhe yezemidlalo, njengoko uthanda kunye noonyana bakho. Mthabathe ukuyithenga ngezinye iinkhathi. Yiba phakathi kwendlu xa ephethe abahlobo bayo. Yenza amathuba okuba kunye, kwaye ubuhlobo bakho buya kukhula.
Ncedise ukuba afunde abafana kunye nokuthandana. Ngamanye amaxesha ukunceda intombi yakho ngokuguqulwa kobuntwaba ukuya ebusheni kunokuba ngumnye ucelomngeni onomdla kunzima. Abantwana abaphumelelayo bathetha ukuba baphambili kwaye bathembeke ngale miba. Mncedise ukuqonda ukuba kutheni ungakhathazeki ngaye ngokuhlakulela ubudlelwane kunye nabafana okanye ngokumnceda ukuba aqonde into eyenzekayo emzimbeni wakhe, iimvakalelo kunye namahomoni.
Yaye qaphela ukuba ezinye izinto ziya kuba nzima. Ukuxhomekeka kumcebisi wakho wesifazane othembekileyo kwezinye zezi zinto kuya kunceda. Abaninzi abaselula kunye nabasetyhini abancinci bezobudlelwane obuhle kunye neentombi zivame ukulungelelanisa ixesha apho abafana kunye nentombazana baqala ukuhamba ngokubambisana, ngoko kudala amanye ala maqela eqela endleleni.
Abazali abangatshatanga, ndiyazi ukuba kunokuba kunzima ukuphakamisa intombi. Kodwa kunokwenziwa. Yaye ukuba uthe wenyamekela kwiintombi zakho kwaye utyalwe ixesha lobudlelwane bakho, uya kufumana ukwaneliseka okukhulu ekukhuliseni intombi enkulu.