Yintoni Oyenzayo Xa Umntwana Wakho Efungela Kuwe

Ukuva umntwazana wakho ufungela kuwe okanye usebenzise ulwimi oluhlambulukileyo kuwe lube luloyiko. Unokuba uzaliswe ngumsindo okanye usenokumangalisa ukuba awukwazi nokuba uphendule njani.

Kodwa, kubalulekile ukuba uphendule ngendlela eya kumnqanda wakho umntwana ukuba aphinde akwenze kwakhona. Ngokucacileyo, awufuni ukuba umntwana wakho akhulume nomqeshi ozayo, umlingane othandana naye, okanye umhlobo ongalinganiseki.

Indlela Yokuphendula Ngendlela Ephuculayo

Ingaba umfana wakho uyasuka kuwe ngenxa yokuba uthe akakwazi ukuphuma kunye nabahlobo bakhe okanye uyacaphuka ngenxa yokuba wamxelela ukuba ahlambulule igumbi lakhe, ngokucacileyo ukuziphatha kwakhe akuvumelekanga. Nantsi indlela ongaphendula ngayo xa ufunga amagama kunye nolwimi olungcolileyo olubhekiswe kuwe ngendlela evelisayo:

1. Hlala uphole. Kunokuba nzima ukuva loo nqanaba lokungahloneli. Kodwa ukuphakamisa ilizwi lakho okanye ukuthetha izinto ezingamhloneliyo kuya kwenza izinto zibe zibi nakakhulu. Ngoko uthathe umoya okhulu kwaye ungathethi nantoni na de uze uzinzile ngokwaneleyo ukwenzela ukuba amagama akho avelise.
2. Thatha ikhefu xa ufuna. Ukuba ulahlekelwe yinto oyenzayo, thatha ikhefu ukucinga ngalo. Usenokuthi, "Ndiya kuhlalisa kwaye xa ndibuya, ndiya kukuxelela ukuba iziphumo zakho ziya kuba njani."
3. Ukunyanzelisa imigaqo. Unganikeli kwintsapho yakho kuba uziva unetyala okanye ngenxa yokuba uyazi ukuba uphazamisekile. Ukuba uthe u-no okanye umxelele ukuba enze into awafuni ukuyenza, kubalulekile ukunyanzelisa ngoku ngoku. Ngaphandle koko, uya kumfundisa ukuba usebenzisa ulwimi olungcolileyo nokufungela abantu yindlela evelisayo yokufumana nantoni na ayifunayo.

1. Ukubonelela ngemiphumo. Kubalulekile ukunika umntwana wakho umphumo wokuziphatha okungafanelekanga. Thatha amalungelo , njengokutyelela nabahlobo okanye ukubukela iTV, iintsuku ezimbalwa. Okanye, unokwakheka imisebenzi eyongezelelweyo, njengokucoca igaraji okanye ukutshisa umtshini.
2. Khuthaza impumelelo yesikhathi esizayo. Yenza icace xa amalungelo akho asetsheni aya kubuyiselwa. Ngokomzekelo, tshela, "Unokuphinda uhambe kunye nabahlobo bakho kwakhona uqale ngoLwesithathu ngokude uziphatha ngokuhlonipha phakathi kwexesha langoku," okanye "Uyakwazi ukubukela iTV emva kokuba uqedile olu luhlu lokuqhafaza." Gwema ukunikezela ixesha elifanelekileyo, njengokuba, "Unokubuyisela amalungelo akho xa ndiyakuthemba," kuba oko kunokukhokelela ekudidekeni.

Amacandelo okuKhuthaza ukuziphatha okuHloniphekileyo kwixesha elide

Ukuba umntwana wakho usetshatyalaliswa kuwe, luphawu lokuba unomsebenzi othile owenzayo kwisebe. Nangona kubalulekile ukuba uthathe isinyathelo ngokukhawuleza ukuze umntwana wakho aqonde ukuba ukuziphatha kwakhe kwakungalunganga, kubalulekile ukusebenza kwiinkqubo eziza kunciphisa amathuba okuba kwakhona aya kwenzeka kwakhona kwikamva.

1. Qiniseka ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho kwiphepha elifanayo. Ukuba unomlingani, qiniseka ukuba ungumzali kunye kunye neqela ukujongana nentlonipho. Ukuba awuvumelani, musa ukwenza phambi kwentombazana yakho. Futhi ungalokothi uphazamise ngomnye nomnye phambi kwentombazana yakho. Ukuthetha izinto ezinjengalezi, "Uyihlo ukhululekile," okanye "Uyazi ukuba umama wakho ufumana njani ngezinye iixesha.
2. Yiba ngumzekelo omhle. Lawula umsindo wakho ngendlela ephilileyo. Ukuphatha abanye ngenhlonipho. Ukuba unyanzelekile kubasebenzi benkonzo okanye uqala ukulwa nomlingane wakho kwaye uthethe izinto ezingahloneliyo, umntwana wakho uya kukhangela kwimilinganiselo yakho ukuqinisekisa ukuba ungumzekelo omhle wakho kumntwana wakho .
3. Fundisa uqeqesho lwakho lwezakhono zobutsha. Qinisekisa ukuba wakho umntwana usempilweni yokujongana nempilo ukuze ahlangabezane neemvakalelo ezinomsindo. Fundisa izakhono zokulawula umsindo , njengokuhamba, ukuthatha umoya ophefumlelweyo, okanye ukubhala kwincwadi.

1. Jonga imisebenzi yakho yeendaba yeselula . Ingane yakho ingamxelisa ukuziphatha kakubi kumaphephandaba. Unokuba ufuna ukunciphisa ukutyhila kufuneka abe nemiboniso enobudlova okanye imidlalo yevidiyo apho abantu baphathana khona.

Imithombo

UChavez D, uSteffey CL. Isixazululo soMbango ngexesha loLutsha. Iingcali ekuhlaziyweni . 2012; 33 (3): 142-143.

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