Okukhethwa ngababini abangenako okanye abangafuni ukuphinda baxhamle omnye umbulo
Ukulahleka kokukhulelwa kuthinta abantu ngokwahlukileyo. Emva kokusweleka kwesisu, ezinye iibini zitshatileyo zingacinga ukuba ziya kuzama kwakhona - mhlawumbi kanye nangoko . Abanye bangayama ukukhulelwa okutsha emva kokuba bathathe ixesha lokusebenza ngenxa yentlungu. Inani elincinci lingahle lingakwazi ukuzama kwakhona okanye lingenza isigqibo ngokusicinga ukuba ungazama kwakhona.
Nangona uqobo ufanele ukukwazi ukukhulelwa, kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba ungenza isigqibo sokuba ungahambi (ubuncinane, kungekho ngenjongo). Ngokomzekelo, usenokujongana nokungabikho komntwana kunye nokuphuphuma kwesisu kwaye uphelelwe amandla ukuzama ukukhulelwa emva kweminyaka emininzi. Unokuba ngumntu oye wafumana ukulahleka kwamathambo amaninzi kwaye akakwazi ukujongana nethuba lomnye, okanye mhlawumbi uneminyaka engaphezu kwama-40 kwaye ukhathazekile malunga neenkcukacha ngokukhulelwa kweziphumo kumama omdala. Kungenzeka kube lula njengoko uvakalelwa kukuba awukwazi ukujamelana nomngcipheko wesinye isisu emva kokuba uhambe.
Ukuba ngaba uvakalelwa kukuba, kulungile. Kukho ezinye iindlela zokuba nomntwana, okanye unokugqiba nokuba ungenalo nanye. Akukho mntu unokukuxelela oko kukulungele wena - kuphela wena kunye neqabane lakho unokugqiba isigqibo.
Ukuba unquma ukungazami kwakhona, ezi zikhetho zakho ezine ezisisiseko zokuqhubeka.
1. Yeka ukuzama, kodwa ungawuthinteli ukukhulelwa
Ukuba isizathu sokuba ungafuni ukukhulelwa kwakhona kukuba uyagula ngokuzama ukukhulelwa, ukhetho olulodwa kukuyeka ukulandelela imizila yakho yokuya esikhathini kwaye uvumele imvelo ithathe ikhosi. Ukuba uneminyaka engaphantsi kwe-35 kwaye ungenayo imiba yokuzala, le nto ingaba yindlela efanelekileyo yokunciphisa uxinzelelo ebomini bakho ngelixa uyeka ukuvula amathuba okuba ukhulelwe ngethuba elithile kwixesha elisondele okanye elikude-mhlawumbi nangaphakathi unyaka okanye amabini.
Ukuba uneminyaka engaphezulu kwama-40 kunye / okanye unenkqantosi yokungabi nantoni , ukugqiba ukuyeka ukuzama mhlawumbi sisigqibo esinzima. Ugcina umnyango uvulekile ukuba nomntwana, kodwa ukuqonda ukuba akunakwenzeka - isigqibo esinokuyithatha ngokukhawuleza ukufunwa ngumphefumlo. Kungakunceda ukuba ufune amaqela enkxaso kwabanye abakwiimeko ezifanayo.
2. Ukwamukelwa
Ukwamkelwa komntwana kunokukhetha ukhetho lwezibini ezininzi, kwaye ukukhetha ukuqhubela phambili kunye nokwamkelwa komntwana akuyikulawula ukukhulelwa kwangaphambili. Ngokwemvelo, inkqubo yokwamkela ingadala kwaye ixinzeleleke, kodwa abaninzi abaye bahlala kuyo mhlawumbi baya kuthi bekufanelekile. Ukuba ukwamkelwa komntwana kuzwakalisa into ethile kuwe, kukho ulwazi oluninzi oluncedo oluya kukuqalisa:
- Ngaphambi kokuba Ugqibe u-Adopt
- Ukuqalisa ngokusungula
- Imithetho yokuThunywa nguRhulumente
3. Ukuzibuza
Ukuxhomekeka kweyona nto yinkqutyana yokutshatyalaliswa kweengqungquthela kubantu abathile, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo, i-surrogacy kuthetha ukuba omnye umfazi uthwala ukhulelwe. Kukho ezimbini iindidi eziphambili ze-surrogacy:
- Umama onqamlekileyo ufumana i- IVF , efumana umbungu owenziwe ngokupheleleyo kwi-genetic material; ukuxhomekeka kungenalo uxhumano lwe-biological kumntwana.
- Umntu othobelayo uhlaselwa ngokugqithiseleyo kunye nomntu oza kuba ngumzala kababa kunye nomama wofuzo lomntwana, kodwa umkhulula umntwana kumzali aze avumele iqabane lakhe ukuba lithathe umntwana.
Ezi zimbini zikhetho zihlala zibiza, kwaye izivumelwano ezifanelekileyo zifanele ukuba zikwazi ukulungiselela ilungiselelo elikhethiweyo.
Izibini ezingenazo izikhalazo zokuziphatha, kwaye ngubani na ongayifumana ngokuzikhethela, ukuxhomekeka kwezinto ezinokuzikhethela kunokuba yinto ekufuneka uyiqwalasele emva kwezinto ezininzi ezingabonakaliyo, okanye ukuba iqabane lomfazi likwazi ukukhulelwa ngokupheleleyo ngenxa yezizathu zonyango.
4. Ukugqiba ukungaba nabantwana / abaninzi abantwana
Ukuba usunayo okanye omnye abantwana, wena kunye neqabane lakho unokugqiba isigqibo sokuba ulungile kunye nosapho lwakho kwaye ukhetha ukuthatha amanyathelo okukhusela ukukhusela omnye ukhulelwe.
Mhlawumbi oku kukugwema intlungu yesinye isisu. Oku kukhethwe ngokufanelekileyo, kwaye wena kunye neqabane lakho kufuneka nigqibe ukuba ngaba kulungile kwiimeko zakho.
Ukuba awunabantwana abaphilileyo, kulungile kakuhle ukuba ugqibe ukugcina izinto ngaleyo ndlela. Abantu abaninzi baphila ubomi obupheleleyo kwaye bunentsingiselo ngaphandle kokuba ngabazali, kwaye akukho sizathu esingenakwenyaniso kuwe.
Ukuba ufuna ngokwenene abantwana bephantsi, kodwa ukhetha oku ngenxa yokuba awukwazi ukukhulelwa kwaye awukwazi ukufikelela okanye uvumeleke ukuba uwamkelwe, isigqibo sinokuba nzima nakakhulu ukuza kuhambelana. Kule meko, ngaphandle kokuba unayo imeko yezobugqirha efumana indlela yokukhulelwa, unokuhlala ugcina ukukhulelwa kuvuleka ngokungasebenzisi imithwalo yokukhulelwa. Kuze kubekho ukudala ukungabikho kwengqondo kunokusombulula ngokukhawuleza, ingakumbi ukuba akuchazwanga. Akunakwenzeka ukuba izibini zizenzeke ngokukhawuleza zikulindele nje xa zilahlile ithemba.
Kodwa kunikezelwa ukuba akude kuqinisekiswe ukuba kuya kwenzeka kuwe, kuya kufuneka ukuba wenze uxolo kunye neemeko ezikhokelela apha. Ukufumana umcebisi ngolwazi malunga neengxaki zokungabikho kwintlungu kunokuhamba kakuhle ekusebenzeni ngecala lomzwelo lokujongana nemeko yakho.