Ukugcinwa kwesigxina kwabantwana akuqhelekanga emva kokuqhawula okanye ukwahlukana. Kodwa kukho imigaqo abazali abafanele bayigcine engqondweni ngaphambi kokuhamba. Nangona ujongene nezihlandlo zoqoqosho ezinzima kwaye uzive ungenayo enye into enokuzikhethela, qiniseka ukuba ulinganise oku kulandelayo ngaphambi kokufudukela kunye nezingane zakho:
Isizathu sokuba abazali baqwalasele ukufuduswa kwabantwana
Kwabazali abathile, ukufudukela kumakhaya kubonisa okungenakucingeka.
Kodwa ukuba uyaxhalaba ngenxa yokuba wakho udala ucela ukunyuka, okanye ulinganisa ukuba uyinto ekufuneka uyicebise, yithwala engqondweni ukuba kukho izizathu ezifanelekileyo zokuba uhambo luya kuba luncedo kubantwana bakho, umzekelo, ukufuduswa inokuba yinto efanelekileyo yokuqwalasela ukuba:
- Ukufuduka kunokukusondeza kumalungu omndeni osondeleyo
- Kuya kukuvumela ukuba ufune umsebenzi ongcono kunye / okanye amathuba omhlaba
- Ukutyelela rhoqo kuya kusenokwenzeka
Inomdla kakhulu kuMgangatho wezingane
Khumbula ukuba injongo ephambili yenkundla isoloko ixhasa iminqweno engcono yomntwana. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo, xa umzali osisigxina okanye umgcini oyintloko kunye nomzali ongekho wokugweba enkundleni malunga neengxabano ezinxulumene nokufudukela kuyo, iinkundla ziya kulawula ukuphazamisa ubomi bantwaneni kunokuba kuyimfuneko. Enyanisweni, akuqhelekanga ukuba inkundla ithathe ngokuzenzekelayo ukuba ukufuduka akuyona nto inomdla kumntwana.
Ngako oko, umzali oceba ukufuduka kunye nomntwana uya kufakazela inkundla engalunganga, ngelixa umzali ongatshintshiyo kufuneka aqinisekise ukuba ukufuduka akuyona into enhle kumntwana. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, bobabini abazali kufuneka balindele ukuba nomthwalo onzima kakhulu kunobungqina enkundleni. Nangona kunjalo, ngokucwangcisa nokulungelelanisa, amacala omabini anethuba elifanelekileyo lokuwina.
Ukuqwalaselwa kweNkundla
Iinkundla zikulindele ukuba umzali othuthayo azise umzali ongeyena umfuduki malunga nokuhamba kwithuba elininzi kangangoko kunokwenzeka-ngokukhethekileyo, ngokukhawuleza xa umzali ofudukelayo esenza isigqibo sokuhamba. Iinkundla azibukeli kakuhle kumzali othuthayo owaziyo ukuhamba kwaye wakhetha ukuba angabhengezi kumzali-codi de ukuva inkundla.
Ukongezelela, iinkundla ziya kuqwalasela izinto ezininzi xa zigqiba ukuba zivumele ukuba umzali ahambe kunye nomntwana. Ezi zinto ziquka:
- Ubudala kunye nokukhula koMntwana - Kwabantwana abadala, ijaji inokufuna ukuthetha nomntwana ukuvavanya nokuba umntwana unqwenela ukuba ahlale kunye nokufuduka okanye umzali ongekho umfuduki.
- Umgama phakathi kweKhaya elitsha kunye neKhaya elidala -Inkundla iya kuvuma ukunyuka okubandakanya umgama omncinci phakathi kwekhaya elidala kunye nelitsha.
- Ngaba iya kuphucula umgangatho wobomi? - Inkundla inokuqwalasela ukuba ngaba umntwana uya kufumana ithuba elifanayo lemfundo kunye nokuzonwabisa kwindawo entsha.
Ukuba umzali angathanda ukufudukela kunye nomntwana wakhe, umzali wokufudukela kufuneka abe nesicwangciso esithile phambi komhla wenkundla. Ngokomzekelo, kumatyala okufuduka komntwana, umzali ofuna ukuhamba uya kulindeleka ukuba azi izikolo ezikhoyo kunye nemisebenzi yomntwana kwindawo entsha.
Ukongezelela, umzali kufuneka acinge ngezicwangciso zokuhamba eziqhelekileyo ukusuka kwikhaya elitsha kwindawo efanelekileyo yokuba umzali angatshintshiyo. Ekugqibeleni, umzali onokufudukelayo unokufuna ukucinga ngokuvumela ukuvakashelwa kweeholide ezongezelelweyo kunye nomzali ongatshintshiyo, ukuze aqhubeke kwaye mhlawumbi agxininise ukubophelana phakathi komntwana kunye nomzali ongenakufuduka.
Ulungiswe nguJennifer Wolf.