Ngaba uye wakha wacinga ukuxelela ugqirha wakho into ... waza wagqiba ekubeni ungayi? Ngaba zikhona izinto owaziyo ukuba umele umxelele kodwa ungacingi ukuba unokuzithetha?
Lo ngumzabalazo oqhelekileyo.
Ngelixa ugqirha wakho uqeqeshiwe ukuphatha ulwazi lwezokwelapha kunye neempawu ezingezimanga ngendlela efanelekileyo, akunakukhathazeka ukwabelana. Nokuba uyazi ukuba kufanele.
Yintoni egcina sisabelana?
Uloyiko Lokuthotywa
Akunakuze uhlazeke ukuxelela ugqirha wakho ngokungaqhelekanga okanye ukubetha okukulokhokho lwakho.
Kodwa ukuba loo nto iphosa okanye igosa "phantsi"? "Ngokukhawuleza, kunzima kakhulu ukuxoxa.
Kwabanye abantu, nantoni na enxulumene nezitho zesini, inkqubo yokuzala, okanye ukutyalwa kunzima ukuthetha ngawo.
Abaninzi bethu bakhuliswa ukuba bahlazeke malunga neengxenye zomzimba wethu. Awuthethi nje ngegesi yakho embi, ukuvumba kwamangqumbo engaqhelekanga, okanye ukuphazamiseka ngexesha lesini.
Kananjalo sinokuthi (sibonile) iingxaki zobundlobongela okanye zokuzala njengophawu lobuthathaka okanye uphawu lokuba ngandlela-thile "ngaphantsi."
Indoda enenkathazo yokufumana ukulungiswa inokuziva ngathi "ingaphantsi komntu." Ibhinqa elijongene neentlobano zesini okanye ubuhlungu besisu ngexesha lesondo livakalelwa kukuba "lingaphantsi komfazi."
Kodwa akukho nanye yale nyaniso.
Ezi zibonakaliso zibe ziimpawu zokungalingani kwe-hormonal okanye izikhokelo kwiinkalo zonyango kwaye mhlawumbi ezingabonakaliyo.
Akusho nto ngoobani njengabantu.
Ukuba sithetha, ugqirha wethu unokukwazi ukunyanga ingxaki. Ukuba sithe cwaka, sinokungafuneki ukuqhubeka sihlupheka.
Iimbali ezimbi ezidlulileyo
Oogqirha ngabantu. Njengabantu abathile bangaphantsi kobubele, kuyafana noogqirha.
Mhlawumbi ugqirha wakha waphulaphula izikhalazo zakho zentlungu.
Mhlawumbi xa ufuna uncedo ngobunzima bakho, bakugxeka ubuqhwaba okanye bakuncothula.
Mhlawumbi banamahloni okanye bahlazeka.
Mhlawumbi ugqirha wagqithisa iingxaki zakho. Ndakuxelela ukuba "usemncinci" ukuba ungenasiphelo , okanye ukuba "uqhubeke uzama."
Mhlawumbi zonke iimvavanyo ezibalekayo zibuyele ngokuqhelekileyo, kwaye esikhundleni sokuthumelela kwingcali okanye ucinga into enokuthi yenzeke, bayitsholwa ngokuba ngu-hypochondriac.
Ungavumeli amava amaninzi (okanye amabini okanye athathu) akuyeke ukufumana uncedo lwezonyango oluyidingayo.
Ukuba ugqirha akakuphathisi kakuhle, fumana udokotela ohlukile.
Ukungakholelwa Ukuba Ukwabelana Ngeenkcukacha Kuya Kunceda
Ukuba awunakunyanzeliswa ngugqirha kwixesha elidlulileyo okanye ngaba oogqirha bakuxelela ukuba abanakukunceda, unokuyeka ukunxibelelana.
Oku kuyimpazamo.
Ezinye izifo ziyaziwayo ngokuba nzima ukuba zixilonge. I-Endometriosis ngumzekelo omhle wale.
Abasetyhini babandezeleka iminyaka eminxinxu enkulu yokuya esikhathini, inhlungu yentlungu, kunye nezinye iimpawu. Kodwa ngenxa yokuba ayifumaneki kalula-ukuxilongwa kufuneka i-laparoscopy; ayinakufunyanwa ngokusebenzisa uvavanyo lwegazi okanye i-ultrasound - oogqirha abathile banokugweba iimpawu njenge-psychosomatic.
Basenokukuxelela ukuba "yonke into entloko yakho."
Akukho konke entloko yakho.
Ukuba unentlungu, qhubeka ukwabelana uze ufumane ugqirha oza kuphulaphula.
Kwakhona, khumbula ukuba ugqirha wakho wokunyamekela unganakho ukuqeqeshwa kunye namava ukuba ugqirha wamazinyo, ugqirha wokuzala, okanye omnye uchwepheshe.
Nangona ezinye izifo kunzima ukuyixilonga nokunyanga, kwaye kukho iingxaki ngomzimba womntu ukuba oogqirha abaziqondi, ugqirha omuhle uza kukuva uziva uve kwaye uqondwe.
Hlalani nifuna umntu owenzayo.
Kufuneka Ugcine Ulawulo Nokuzimela
Oku kunokuba ngumzabalazo wangempela kubasetyhini kunye namadoda abhekene nokungabikho komntwana okanye nayiphi na uhlobo lwesifo esingapheliyo.
Ugqirha wakho sele eyazi indlela ongathanda ngayo ngomzimba wakho. Yaye ukuba uthe wafumana unyango olukhulayo oludinga ukulala, uogqirha wakho unokukuxelela xa ulala ngesondo. (Thetha nge-TMI.)
Ngaba ngokwenene ufuna ngokwenene ukwabelana ngeenkcukacha ezininzi zobomi bakho bobulili?
Ngamanye amaxesha, ewe.
Ukuba ufumana intlungu okanye utyini lwesisu, ugqirha wakho unokukwazi ukunceda. Ukuba iqabane lakho lijongene nobunzima bokulala, udokotela wakho unokuncoma ezinye iindlela ezifana nokuzama ukukhulelwa.
Uloyiko Lokuphazamiseka Ugqirha
Oku kunokuba lukhulu.
Mhlawumbi ugqirha wakho uye wakhuthaza ngokwenene, ekutshilo ukuba ungayeki ukunyanga . Kodwa uziva uzikhulile. Ulungele ukuhambisa okanye ubuncinane uthathe ikhefu.
Awuyi kudumala ugqirha wakho ngokuthatha ikhefu okanye ukuqhubela phambili. Unyango luyicinezelekile xa kukufunayo-akunyameki xa ungafuni ukuzama kwakhona.
Okanye, mhlawumbi ubona enye inzululwazi kodwa unenkxalabo malunga nogqirha wakho oya kucinga ukuba ubaxelela. Usenokuvakalelwa kukuba 'ukopela' ugqirha wakho.
Kuyinyani, akubona bonke ugqirha banomdla ngeendlela zokwenza ezinye zeyeza. Ezinye zikhona, kodwa kungekhona.
Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka uxelele ugqirha ukuba ufumana unyango kwenye indawo. Ngokukodwa xa uthatha naziphi na izongezo okanye iifom, njengoko ziyakwazi ukusebenzisana ngengozi nezinye iyeza onikwe zona.
Indlela Yokuqhafaza kwaye Uqale Ukunyaniseka Ngogqirha Wakho
Ukuba isisu sakho sikuxelela ukuba kufuneka ukwabelana ngolwazi nodokotela wakho, mhlawumbi ufanele wabelane ngako.
Kodwa, kwakhona, ukwazi ukuba kufuneka ukwabelana naye akukwenzi kube lula.
Nazi ezinye izicwangciso zokwenza kube lula ukubala ... utsho, ndiyathetha, ukuthwala:
- Khawukhumbule ukuba kutheni kubalulekile : Ukuba nesizathu esihle-ukuphelisa intlungu, unyango, uncedo lusondele ngakumbi ekuqiqeni isizathu sokuba ungazikhulelwa- kunokukunceda uqokelele isibindi sokuthetha into oyifunayo.
- Bhala phantsi phambi kokuqeshwa kwakho : Ngamanye amaxesha, kubonakala kulula ukuba ubhale phantsi kunokuba uthi. Bhala phantsi into oyifunayo ngaphambi kokuba uqeshwe - yenza ukuba mfutshane kwaye uye kwindawo, khumbula ukuba unako ukuchaza ngokubanzi xa ufuna - uze ulethe iphepha kumntu ogqirha ugqirha. Bese uyinike yona. Ndiqinisekile ukuba awuyena owokuqala ukwenza oku.
- Buza ukuxoxa ngolu hlobo kwiofisi yegqirha : Ukuthetha nodokotela wakho xa ugqoke ngokugqibeleleyo unokuncedisa. Xa ukwenza ukuqeshwa kwakho, cela unobhala ukuba atye ixesha elithile lokuthetha nodokotela wakho eofisini yakhe, ngoko akufanele utyhile iimfihlo zakho xa unxibile.
- Nika umhlobo inkxaso : Nangona umhlobo wakho ehleli egumbini lokulinda, ukwazi ukuba umntu ukhona ukuze uncede.
- Okanye, hamba wedwa kwi-aphoyintimenti : Ngaba iqabane lakho liya kuninzi lwabaqeshwa bakho, kwaye yintoni okufuneka uyenze ukuba uyabelane naye okanye angazi? Emva koko yenza iseshoni apho ungahamba yedwa.
- Ukuba izinto azihambeli kakuhle, ungalilahli : Okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuba ugqirha awunakunceda, akayi kukuphulaphula, okanye, ngokugqithiseleyo, akuphatha kakubi, ukhumbuze ukuba akukuthi ngawe ... uze ufumane umntu omnye oya kunceda.