Ukucinga okufanelekileyo kunye nokuqinisekiswa kokukhulelwa kunye nangaphezulu
Ukugqiba ekubeni unomntwana inyathelo elikhulu. Xa isigqibo senziwe ukuba ukhulelwe udla ukucinga ngecala lomzimba wenkqubo. Ulandelela umjikelezo wakho wokuya esikhathini. Usebenza kwimikhwa enempilo njengokondlo olungileyo kunye nokusika izinto ongeke uyenze xa ukhulelwa. Kodwa bambalwa abantu bacinga ngokulungiselela ukukhulelwa ngokomoya okanye ngokomoya.
Ngaba Unokunceda Ndiqonde?
Ngaba ukuqinisekiswa okunokukunceda ngokwenene kwinkqubo yokukhulelwa? Ngokuqinisekileyo banokunceda ukulungiselela ingqondo - kwaye ngoko umzimba - ngeendlela ezimbalwa ezibalulekileyo. Ukuqinisekiswa kunokunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nokuxhalabisa, oku kunokunciphisa umzimba. Ukuqinisekiswa kunokukwenza kube lula ukulala nokutya-kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukulala rhoqo kunye nokutya kubalulekile ukukhulelwa. Ukusebenzisa ukuqinisekiswa okulungileyo kunokuncedisa ukwesaba malunga nenkqubo yokukhulelwa nokulungiselela ingqondo yokukhulelwa.
Ekubeni ukuqinisekiswa ngamanyathelo amancinci amabhinqa namadoda angathatha kwinkqubo yokukhulelwa, ngokuqinisekileyo ayikwazi ukulimaza ukuzama ukucinga ngokuqinisekileyo, nangona xa ukhulelwe kunzima.
Indlela Yokusebenzisa Iimpawu Eziqinisekisiweyo Zokukhulelwa
Ukusebenzisa iziqinisekiso ezichanekileyo, unokwenza isigwebo okanye ibinzana elinentsingiselo kuwe kwaye liphinda liphindwe rhoqo. Abanye abantu bakhetha ukuzithumela ngeenxa zonke kwindlu nakwiikhalenda zabo okanye bazithumele nge-imeyili.
Bathi ukuqinisekiswa ngokuvakalayo kwaye uzame ukucamngca ngentsingiselo yayo kwimigqa embalwa. Ukuqinisekiswa okwenziweyo kungatshintshwa rhoqo njengoko ungathanda. Nayi imimiselo oyisebenzisayo:
- Ndiyinyamekela umzimba kunye nengqondo ukuze ndiyamkele umntwana.
- Umzimba wam wenzelwe ukukhulelwa.
- Umzimba wam usebenza kakuhle ukuze ukhulelwe.
- Ukunyamezela nokunyamekela kunceda umzimba wam ukulungiselela ukukhulelwa.
- Isibeleko sam sivulekele ubomi obutsha.
Ukuqinisekiswa kufanele kufaneleke into oyifunayo ukuqinisekisa. Cinga ukuzenza zakho iimpawu. Ukwenza oku kufuneka uqale ngokuthetha okusebenzayo:
- ndingu
- Ingqondo yam ivulekile
- Umzimba wam uvulekile
- Wam umntwana
- Ndiyazi
- Umzi wam uyazi
Ukuqinisekiswa okulungileyo kwiMpilo yokukhulelwa
Emva kokuba ukhulelwe, ingqondo yakho iya kuba yimibuzo emitsha, imiba kunye nexhala. Ngaba umntwana uya kuphila? Ngaba uya kukwazi ukulawula umsebenzi wam xa ekhulelwe? Kubuhlungu kangakanani inkqubo yokuzalwa? Ngaba ndibe ngumama olungileyo? Kuthiwani ngokusondeza kwebele?
Iziqinisekiso ezintle zingenza umehluko ngexesha kunye nangemva kokukhulelwa, ukuba uwathatha ngokubaluleka kwaye uziqhelise rhoqo.Ayi, abanakukunceda ukuba uqinisekise umntwana opheleleyo, kodwa unoku:
- Ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nokuxinezeleka, oku kunokunciphisa ukugula kwasekuseni kunye nezinye iintlungu neentlungu;
- Khuthaza umxholo wokuxhamla nomntwana ongakazalwa;
- Ukuxhasa impilo kunye nengqondo yengqondo xa ukhulelwe;
- Yenze kube lula kuwe ukuba ujabulele ukukhulelwa kwakho;
- Yenze kube lula kuwe ukulawula inkqubo yokuzalwa;
- Nciphisa uxhalaba o no kucinga ngalo malunga nokukwazi ukulawula umama.