Ngaba uyayazi ukuba ubunzima bobuchwephesha abusekwe kwiitye? Usenokuba ukhuliswe ukuba ukholelwa ukuba abanye abantu babesilungileyo kwizifundo ezicelomngeni, kwaye abanye bebengenalo ikhono lokufunda indlela yokuxazulula iingxaki zeematriki nezenzululwazi ezinzima.
Usenokumangaliswa xa ufumanisa ukuba uphando kunye nobuchopho kwiminyaka emva nje luboniswe ngenye indlela.
Abaphandi baye bafumanisa ukuba abantwana kunye nabantu abadala bangahlakulela nokuqeqeshelwa ingqiqo. Enye yezinto ezibalulekileyo zokukwazi ukuphuhlisa lo bulumko yiyokholo yokuba ulwaphulo-mthetho luyimiphumo yomsebenzi onzima nokufundisisa.
Ootitshala bayabiza le ngqondo yokukhula. Eli gama laqulunqwa ngumphandi wezemfundo waseStanford uDkt. Carol Dweck. UDweck uqhathanisa ukukhula kwengqondo yakhe kwiqondo elithile. Ngelixa abantu abanengqondo yokukhula bakholelwa ukuba bangakwazi ukuphuhlisa ubulumko babo, abantu abaneengqondo ezinqambileyo bakholelwa ukuba ingqondo ayikwazi ukuphuhliswa. Okubalulekileyo, abaphandi ngoku bakholelwa ukuba amandla okufunda izinto ezinzima kunye nocelomngeni zivela kwinkolelo yokuba unako.
Ngoko Uphuhlisa njani i-Mindset Growment kubantwana bakho?
Ezi ngcebiso zonke zibhalwa ngokugqiba isikolo nomsebenzi wesikolo engqondweni. Mhlawumbi uya kuqonda ukuba ezi ndlela zenzelwe ukuxazulula nayiphi na ingxaki ebomini.
Kuhle ukusetyenziswa kwengqondo yokukhula ngaphezu komsebenzi wesikolo kuphela. Ufuna ukukhula kwengqondo ukuba ube nesimo sengqondo esipheleleyo, kungekhona kumsebenzi wesikolo.
1. Fundisa Abantwana Bakho Kulungile ukuba bangalunganga
Uyazi ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukuzama into entsha xa ukwesaba ukungaphumeleli. Ukufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba kulungile ukwenza iimpazamo kuya kukhulula umntwana wakho ukuze azame umngeni omtsha.
Kwinkqubo yokwenza loo mzamo, baya kufunda oko kusebenzayo-kwaye oko kungenzi.
2. Bafundise Ukuzama Iingcamango ezintsha neendlela zokuSombulula iingxaki
Iingxaki kunye nemisebenzi eyahlukeneyo ifuna izicwangciso ezahlukeneyo kunye nezindlela eziza kuzaliswa. Ukuba umntwana wakho unenkathazo, babuze ukuba kukho enye indlela engayenza ukuba isombulule ingxaki.
Nangona uzakuhendeka ukulungisa ingxaki kubo, musa. Ukuba umntwana wakho unamathele ngxaki, bancede baqikelele enye into abangayenza ngayo ukuzama ukuyicombulula ingxaki yabo okanye ukugqiba umsebenzi wabo. Zama ukubuza ukuba zeziphi ezinye izixhobo abazifumanayo ukuze bahlole ulwazi oluninzi, njengeendawo ezahlukeneyo kwiincwadi zabo zokufunda, kwiiwebhusayithi ze-intanethi, okanye nokuba babuze abahlobo babo ukuba baxazulula njani ingxaki.
3. Bafundise ukuba baqhubeke bezama ukuxazulula ingxaki enzima, nokuba ngaba abakwazi ukubona iSiphelo Sokuphela
Ezinye iingxaki zidinga amanyathelo amaninzi ukuze kugqitywe. Mhlawumbi ukhumbule iiklasi zakho eziphakamileyo zezifundo zamabanga aphakamileyo njengokuba unolu hlobo lweengxaki. Kodwa imigangatho emitsha esetyenziswayo esikolweni yenzelwe ukubonisa abantwana kwiingxaki ezifuneka zihlaziywe kwaye zicingwe - kungekhona nje ukuphendulwa ngokukhunjulwa okanye ukubala ngokukhawuleza.
Umsebenzi owenzelwe ukukhuthaza ezo zakhono zokuxazulula iingxaki zinikezelwa kumaziko okuqala, ukunika abantwana ithuba lokuqala lokusombulula iingxaki. Kunokuba uxelele umntwana wakho ukuba alahleke ngokukhawuleza aze abuze uthisha ukuba benzeni xa bebona, makhe umntwana wakho aqale ukuzama ukusebenzela indlela yakhe. Ngamanye amaxesha amanqanaba alandelayo ayacaca emva kokuba kuthathwe amanyathelo okuqala. Ngamanye amaxesha umntwana wakho uya kuqonda ukuba kufuneka afikelele kwingxaki eyahlukileyo. Into leyo, abanakufika apho ngaphandle kokuthatha loo mathuba ambalwa okuqala.
4. Bafundise iMantra, "Iingcamango Zinceda Ubunzima Bobunzima"
UDkt. Carol Dweck ukhuthaza ngokuphindaphindiweyo ootitshala ukuba bakhumbuze abafundi ukuba amaphutha anceda ubuchopho babo bukhule.
Ufundisa ukuba xa umntu elula ukufumana impendulo, baye babonisa ulwazi abasenalo ngaphandle kokufunda nantoni na. Xa umntu wenza iphoso, baphoqeleka ukuba bafumene isizathu sokuba bafunde into entsha kwinkqubo.
Ukusebenzisa igama elithi "Iingcamango Zenze I-Brian My Grow" ayikuthi ithintele enye ingxaki yokwenza uloyiko lokungalunganga, liqinisekisa umzamo ofunekayo ekwenzeni impazamo. Kuya phambili ngakumbi ekukhuthazeni ukufunda ukuba impendulo eyiyo. Esikhundleni sokuvuza umntu ngenxa yokuziqonda (i-mindset), ikhuthaza indlela yokufunda ngokuqhubekayo.
5. Bafundise Ukunyamekela Iindlela Zabo Zokujongana Neengxaki
Oku akugcini nje ukuqinisekisa ukuba balandela uluhlu lwamanyathelo okugqiba iphepha labo lesiNgesi okanye benze i-algorithm yezibalo. Oku kucela ukuba bajonge indlela abazikhethe ngayo ukulungisa ingxaki. Ngaba baphanda umfanekiso ukuze baqonde kakuhle izinto abazama ukuzisombulula? Ngaba babekhangela imibuzo ethile ababebuzwa ngesabelo?
Izicwangciso zokusombulula iingxaki zingasetyenziselwa kwezinye iimeko ezingabonakali zihambelana nomhlaba. Unokubuza umntwana wakho ukuba zenze njani isigqibo sokusombulula ingxaki okanye ukuzidumisa ngokuyeka ukucinga malunga nendlela efanelekileyo yokusombulula ingxaki. Unokubuza malunga nale nto ngokukhawuleza ukuba ugqibe umsebenzi xa uhleli kufuphi nabo ngelixa basebenza, okanye xa ukhangela umsebenzi wabo ukuze ubone ukuba kuzaliswe.
6. Bafundise Ukuthetha Ngeziphoso
Oku akukona ukubonakala ngokuthobeka. Ufuna umntwana wakho akhululeke ukuxoxa ngezinto ezingasebenzi, ngoko bafunda ukuxoxa ngeendlela zokusombulula iingxaki kunye nokugqiba umsebenzi. Oku kunokubanceda bafunde ukufumanisa oko bakuye bazama ukukwenza oko, ngoko bazama kwakhona kwaye bafumane oko kusebenzayo. Oku kuya kunceda ekuphuhliseni izakhono ezifanelekileyo zokusebenzisana nabanye abantu, ubuchule obunokubaluleka kwindawo yokusebenzela.
7. Khumbula ukuba Awuyi kuba yi-100% Ukukhula kwengqondo yonke ixesha
Ingqondo ye-Growth ingaba yindlela epheleleyo yokujonga ukufunda izinto ezicelomngeni nokuxazulula iingxaki ezinzima, kodwa akunangqiqo ukuba uhlale ukwabelana ngengqondo yokukhula. Musa ukuzibetha xa ufumana utsho into ethile kumntwana wakho engakhuthazi ukuba angayeki kwaye ahlale esebenza ngombono onzima. Akukho mntu uphelele lonke ixesha. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzama ukukhula kwengqondo engakumbi kunokugqitywa. Xa ufumana le meko, ngakumbi umntwana wakho uya kuthanda.
Oku kuyenzeka nakumntwana wakho. Nangona ootitshala babantwana bakho bakholelwa ukuba ngamnye umntwana unako ukuqinisa ingqiqo yabo ngokufunda, umntwana wakho unokufumana ixesha apho engaqinisekanga ukuba uya kukwazi ukuqonda into ethile . Zibakhumbuze ukuba baqhubeke bezama.