Intsha iyatshintsha ngokuphawulekayo phakathi kweminyaka engama-13 no-19. Ngaloo minyaka, umntwana wakho uya kuhlakulela ubuni kwaye azilungele ukuthatha uxanduva lwabantu abadala. Iminyaka engama-10 ubudala inokuba yinto ephazamisayo ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa ukuguquka kwemizwelo kunye neenguqu zokuziphatha zidla ngokuyinxalenye yenkqubo.
Uphuhliso lwabantwana luye lwahlula zibe zigaba ezintathu eziphambili: ukususela ebusheni, ebuntwaneni obuphakathi, nasekufikeni kwexesha elide.
Ukuqala kwintsholongwane kubandakanya abantwana abaneminyaka eli-11 ukuya ku-13 ubudala.
Uphuhliso loCognitive
Ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo kubhekisela kwindlela umntwana wakho ocinga ngayo ngezinto. Intsha esemncinci iyanzima ukucinga ngekamva okanye ukucinga ngemiphumo yokuziphatha kwayo, kodwa oku kuphucula ixesha elide. Njengabantwana abakhulileyo, bahlakulela amandla okucinga ngokucacileyo. Esikhundleni sokucinga kuphela ngokwezinto ezibonakalayo, baqala ukuqonda iingcamango ezifana nokholo kunye nethemba.
Kuqhelekile ukuba abatsha abancinci bacinge ukuba baxhomekeke kuyo nayiphi na into embi eyenzekayo kubo. Kuqhelekile ukuba bacinge, "Asoze kwenzeke kum." Ngenxa yoko, banakho amathuba okuba bahlanganyele ekuziphatheni okuyingozi.
Iintsholongwane zicinga ukuba zihlukile kwaye zicinga ukuba akukho mntu uyaziqonda. Njengoko bekhula kwaye bavuthiwe, baqala ukuphucula ukuqonda okungcono kwehlabathi kunye nendlela abanye ababaqonda ngayo.
Uphuhliso Lwenyama
Ngokuqhelekileyo intsha iqala ukukhulelwa ebusheni. Zikhula zide, zithinte ubunzima, kwaye zikhule ngokomoya. Amantombazana asebenza ngokusemgangathweni ngexesha lokusasa phakathi kwamantombazana kunye namakhwenkwe athola ukukhula ngokomoya xa sele eselula.
Ukubonakala kwabo ngokubonakalayo ngokukhawuleza kunokubangela ukuba bazive benomdla.
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana bayabambana nemibandela enxulumene neembonakalo, ezinjenge-acne okanye ukugqithisa. Imiba yomzimba, njengengxaki yokutya, inokuphuhliswa ngexesha leminyaka eliselula.
Phuhliso loLuntu
Nangona abantwana abancinci bejolise kakhulu kwiintsapho, abatsha bahlakulela umdla omkhulu kwiintsapho. Njengoko banqwenela ukuzimela ngokukhulula kubazali babo, bathambekele ekuthembeleni ngakumbi kubangane. Uxinzelelo lwabaontanga lunokuba ngumbandela njengokuba ulutsha luhlala lufuna ukuva. Intsha ihlala ishintshela amaqela oontanga kwiminyaka yeshumi elivisayo njengoko iimfuno zabo zitshintsha.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuziphatha okuvukelayo kuyaqhelekileyo ngexesha elivisayo. Umntwana osemtsha unokuhlakulela abantu abahlukeneyo okanye ahambe ngezigaba ezahlukeneyo. Ngamanye amaxesha ulutsha luzama ukuphazamisa abazali babo okanye ukufuna ukuthatha iittoti okanye ukubhoboza njengendlela yokuziveza.
Kulo lonke ixesha elivisayo, intsha ikwazi ukunyamekela abanye abantu. Ukutshata kunye nolwalamano olusondeleyo lubonakala luba lukhulu ngexesha leminyaka eliselula. Kuqhelekile ukuba intsha ihlakulele iimfuno zesondo.
Uphuhliso Lomoya
Uninzi ulutsha lunokuguquka okukhulu ekuziphatheni kwabo. Bangaziva benomdla ngelinye ilanga baze bazive bengenelisekanga omnye.
Ukuguquguquka kwemizimba kuyaqhelekileyo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, intsha ibuyela ekuziphatheni komntwana.
Abaselula baqala ukuphuhlisa izakhono ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo. Njengoko bekhula, kufuneka bahlakulele izakhono zokubanceda ukuba baphumelele ngokomzwelo. Basenokufunda indlela yokuqonda iimvakalelo zabo kunye nokuhlangabezana neemvakalelo ezingenakuthatheka kwiindlela eziphilileyo. Bayakwazi nokufunda indlela yokulungisa ingxabano ngokuvelisa.
Imiba yempilo yengqondo inokuvela ngexesha leminyaka eliselula. Ukuxinezeleka, ukuphazamiseka kwezixhala kunye nokuziphatha kwezifo ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala.