Abazali abatshatyalaliswayo basoloko befumanisa umba wokubambisana njengomnye wezona zinto zixhamla kuzo zonke izihlobo zabo ezintsha kunye nokungatshatanga. Kulo lonke iimeko, abantwana bahlupheka ngenxa yesahlukaniso. Baziva beqhekeke phakathi kwabazali ababini nabazali abahlala ngokuhlukileyo ubomi. Umama nobaba bahlala bejamelana nemvakalelo yokukhuphisana, ukukhungatheka nokungaqondi.
Ukongezelela, umzali onxibelelanisa kwimimandla emibini eyahlukileyo ayengayibhalisanga xa begqibile ukuba babe nezingane. Yonke into malunga nobudlelwane bobuhlobo bobazali inobungozi.
Nangona kunjalo, kwiimeko ezininzi, abazali kunye nabantwana bayavumelana nokutshintshwa kwaye bafumane indlela yokufumana umzali onomzali ngokuphumelelayo emva komtshato. Ingaba ngaba abazali banamalungelo okubambisana, nokuba ngaba omnye umzali okhuselekileyo kwaye enye ayikho, ukucwangcisa ngokucophelela kunye nomgudu wokubeka izinto ezilungileyo kubantwana kuqala kunokunceda ukudala amava amaninzi kwaye aphumelele ngokubambisana.
Oobawo bahlala benzima ngexesha eliqhelekileyo kuba bavame ukuba ngumzali ongekho phantsi kwaye basebenze ngendlela engalunganga ngokusekelwe kumalungiselelo okugcina amagosa enkundla. Bahlala benako abantwana beeyure ezimbalwa ngeveki kunokuba umama ayenze, kwaye ngoko banomuvo wokuba banokwenza ubuninzi bexesha abanalo nezingane.
Ingcinezelo yokugcina abantwana bexhamene nabo xa bexhamla kwixesha elingenakubalwa lingaba lukhulu.
Ubudlelwane obuhle bobuhlobo bobubele buya kufumaneka xa bobabini abazali belandela imithetho embalwa elula.
Ukuthetha ngokufanelekileyo
Ootata abaninzi abanokubambisana babonisa ukuba lo ngumgaqo obaluleke kakhulu. Imitshato emininzi iyahlukana ngenxa yamaphetheni anxibelelwano alungileyo, abazali abahlala beqhawule umtshato banzima ukuthetha nabo.
Ngenxa yabantwana, abazali-co-parents kufuneka bavelise ezininzi izakhono zokunxibelelana ezivulekileyo nezivelisayo. Kudingeka bakhulume kunye kwaye basebenzise iindlela ezininzi zokunxibelelana kuquka ukuthetha kwifowuni, ukusebenzisana ubuso nobuso, ukuthetha nge-imeyili kunye nokuthumela imiyalezo. Okubaluleke kakhulu kukuthetha ngokuthe ngqo kunye nomnye kwaye kungekhona kubantwana. "Tshela umama wakho ukuba ..." kufuneka ivinjelwe kuyo nayiphi na isilulumagama sikayise ongumzali.
Uxwebhu Lonke
Ngokuqhelekileyo, umngeni wobazali kunye nomzali ungabangela ukuba kuthathwe amanyathelo omthetho. Oomata kufuneka baqaphele yonke intsebenziswano nomama onomzali onomzali nomhla, ixesha, umxholo kunye nolunye lwabanye ababonayo ukusebenzisana. Ukugcina iirekodi ezicwangcisekileyo ngexesha elifanelekileyo kukunceda wonke umntu uthembeke kwaye aphendule.
Gcina iShedyuli esiQheleleyo kunye esivumelanayo
Izingane zikhula ngokuvumelana nokuzifumana zizixhala xa izinto zingahambi ngokucwangcisa. Abazali-Co-parents kufuneka basebenze kanzima ukugcina iishedyuli zinyani kwaye zihambelana. Ukuba utata unabantwana ngoLwesithathu ngokuhlwa kunye nezinye iiveki, faka ishedyuli yabantwana kuqala. Ukuba kukho iingxabano ezingenakukhuseleka, zama ukujongana nabo ngokukhawuleza kangako ukwenzela ukuba abantwana kunye nomama bakwazi ukucwangcisa phambili.
Abazali bobabini bahlala kunye neshedyuli esandulelwe ngaphambili, abantwana abaxhalabisayo baya kuba.
Musa ukunyusa
Kaninzi, ootata badla ngokugqithisela kwiimeko ezibangalisa. Hlalani nantoni na, nangona xa umama enza okuthile okucaphukisayo. Ihlabathi aliyi kufikelela ekupheleni kwakho okanye kubantwana ukuba umama ubalekele ukumema kwisiganeko okanye kungekudala ukutshintshana kwabantwana. Xoxa ukukhungatheka kwakho - kungekhona phambi kwezingane.
Ukungavumelani kwiBucala
AbamaMama nootata bahlala behluke kakhulu, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha (okanye ngokuphindaphindiweyo) awuvumelani nento enye eyenzayo nabantwana.
Ukuba unokungavumelani okunjalo, jongana nayo ngasese kwaye ungayi phambi kwezingane. Ukuba abantwana babona uMama noTata njengothando kunye nenkxaso yabo (kunye nomnye), baya kuziva bekhuselekile. Ungawafaki abantwana phakathi kwakho ukungavumelani okanye ukuxhatshaza omnye umzali kunye nezingane.
Lungiselela ukutshintshisa ngokukhawuleza nohlobo
Xa umama nobaba badibana ukuhla okanye ukuthabathela abantwana, yenza kube lula kunye nemigqabantshintshi njengoko kunokwenzeka. Gwema nayiphi na idrama ngexesha lokutshintshana. Umzekelo, musa ukuza naye intombi yakho entsha ukuba uthabathe okanye uphonsa abantwana. Ungazami ukuthetha noMama malunga nombandela onobuchule - gcina oko emva koko.
Yabelana Ngezithuba Zethu Ngexesha Lakho Nezingane NeMama Wabo
Xa wenza into emnandi kunye nezingane, okanye ukuba kukho umzuzu omhle kakhulu, cima umfanekiso uze uyibhale phantsi. Ngokuqhelekileyo uya kuphinda aphule abantwana ngexesha lakho kunye nabo, kunye nesicatshulwa esheshayo, ifoto okanye ividiyo inokukunceda ekuxhalabeni kwakhe ngezingane xa unayo. Ukuba wenza njalo, uya kuba nokulungelelanisa xa ufuna kakhulu.
Yakha uphinde ulandele Isicwangciso sakho sobuzali
Abazali abaninzi abanamalungiselelo okugcina amasondo banesicwangciso sobuzali esivunywe yiinkundla. Ukuba unesicwangciso esilungileyo, landela ngenkolo. Ukuba awunayo, yakha enye yakho emva kokunyamekela kunye nenkqubo yokubambisana ukwenzela ukuba wena kunye nomlingane wakho owayengumlingani uyazi ukuba ulindele ntoni ilungiselelo lozali. Ukuthetha ngezinto ezinzima ngaphambi kokuba kwenzeke kungenza umehluko omkhulu kwindlela izinto ezihamba ngayo kwinkqubo yemihla ngemihla yokulawula umzali-ntsebenziswano.
Sebenzisa iKhalenda ye-Intanethi
Uninzi lweentsapho ezinokubambisana kunye neentsapho zinomzabalazo xa ukucwangcisa kuphuka. Ukugqiba kwikhalenda evamile ye-intanethi evumelanisa nekhalenda yakho siqu ingakuphepha ezininzi iingxabano. Ukuba ukwabelana ngeenkcukacha malunga neziganeko ezibalulekileyo ezifana nezihlandlo, amakhonsathi esikolweni, udaniso kunye namaqela, unokuphepha ukudideka nokulahlekelwa yithemba. Beka zonke izinto zakho kwikhalenda eyabelwanayo, kwaye yena kunye nezingane ziyakwazi ukulungiselela ukucwangcisa imiba.
Gwema ukuba yi-Disneyland Dad
Esinye sezikhalazo eziqhelekileyo zamama-co-parenting kukuba bonke ootata xa benabantwana bayonwabile. Ufanele athathe umthwalo weeshedyuli zesikolo, umsebenzi wesikolo, imisebenzi kunye nemisebenzi yecandelo. Qinisekisa xa unabantwana ukuba unomxube omnandi wexesha elithandekayo kunye nezihlandlo ezithandekayo, ezonwabileyo kunye nemisebenzi, imisebenzi yeveki kunye nezinto ezingaphezulu. Ukugcina ibhalansi ngoncedo ekuphephekeni umona nokuncintisana, akukho nto efanelekileyo kubantwana okanye nabazali-co-parent.
Khumbula - konke malunga nezingane kwaye kungekhona malunga nawe kunye neyokuqala. Njengoko ubeka kuqala abantwana kuqala, yenza ngokuhlonipha nangesidima, kwaye udale ubudlelwane obutsha bokuthembela, amava okuba ngumzali onokubakho onokubakho okulungileyo kuwe nakubantwana bakho.