Abantwana kunye neMkhosi

Indlela Ongaba Ngayo Ngayo Inkxaso Eyona Nkulu

Ubomi akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi abantwana abakhula emkhosini. Bamele bajongane nokuhamba rhoqo, abazali baqhutyelwa, kwaye bafumana indawo yokuzibandakanya njengoko bekhula. Akumangalisi ke ngoko, ukuba i-brats yempi idla ngokudideka, uxinzelelo , umsindo , ukwesaba okanye ukuphelelwa lithemba. Kodwa iindaba azikho konke okubi. Izingane zaseMpiya zifumana uvuyo olukhulu nolonwabo. Ngayiphi na indlela, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba abantwana baya kutshintsha ezininzi ngexesha lobuncinci kwaye baxhatshazwa ngokukodwa kwiminyaka yabo yobuntwana obudala, njengoko ubuntwaba buhamba. Nazi iindlela ezintandathu ezinamandla onokuba ngumxhasi wabo omkhulu kunye ne-cheerleader ngamaxesha amanzima.

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Thetha ngokuvulekileyo

Enye yezona ndlela ezibalulekileyo zokuxhasa abantwana bakho kukuthetha nabo- ngokuchasene nabo okanye kubo. Ngoko ukuba awuzange ube neengxoxo ezinde ngexesha elidlulileyo, ngoku lixesha lokuqalisa. Maye baholele ingxoxo baze bakhuthaze ukuba bahlanganyele iingcamango zabo, iimvakalelo, ithemba, ukuvuya, ukwesaba, okanye ukungabaza nawe. Kodwa ungabaxinzezeli ukuba bathethe-ukuba uzama, baya kuba nokufihla izinto kwixesha elizayo. Xa utshintsha indlela othetha ngayo nabantwana bakho, nabo baya kufunda ukuba banokuba nethemba kuwe. Ukuba noqhagamshelwano oluvulekileyo nolunyanisekileyo luyakunceda ukwazi kakuhle ukuba ungamnceda njani kwaye uncede umntwana wakho.

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Nika abantwana ithuba lokuvakalisa iimvakalelo

Uphando oluqhutywe yiNational Family Military Association luthelekisa abantwana kwicandelo labantu ukuba baveliswe kwimindeni yasemkhosini kwaye bafumanisa ukuba abantwana bezempi balwa kancinci ngakumbi ngexesha lexesha lokuthunyelwa kunontanga yabo. Bafumana ixesha elinzima ukulungelelanisa ukutshintsha kwaye banokuphelisa okanye bawunaki umgcini wabo. Bafumana ixesha elinzima lokudibanisa noontanga kwaye banokuba nomona xa bebona abanye abantu kunye nentsapho yabo yonke. Abanye bala bantwana basemkhosini banokusebenza kakubi esikolweni kwaye bazama ukuqhubeka eklasini. Abanye bajongene nempilo yengqondo . Ukuvumela abantwana ukuba bachaze indlela abazivakalelwa ngokwenene-enoba loo mvakalelo ilungile, imbi, okanye ayinandaba-inokubanceda kakhulu. Ukuba umntwana wakho usebenza kwaye ungazi ukuba kutheni okanye unokwenza ntoni ukunceda, kukho izibonelelo ezikhoyo kuwe kwimpi. Umntwana wakho unokufumana inzuzo xa edibana nomgqirha okanye umphathiswa wengqondo. I-thérapi yeqela ingaba ithuluzi elisebenzayo kubantwana okanye intsha yokuzivakalisa ngokweenkxaso zabanye abantwana abakwiimeko ezifanayo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokwenza ntoni, khumbula ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuvumela abantwana bakho ukuba banxibelelane nabantwana babo.

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Ukugcina iiRoutines eziqhelekileyo

Ingaba umzali ulungiselela ukuchitha okanye sele usetyenzisiwe, intsapho yakho iyashukuma kwakhona kungekudala, okanye abantwana bakho banenkxalabo ngokuqalisa isikolo esitsha, into enokuyenza yinto yokubonelela. Ukusekwa kwemizila kunokusebenza kakuhle ekuncedeni abantwana bakho bazive ngakumbi ekulawuleni ubomi babo. Qinisekisa ukuba abantwana baphakame ngexesha elifanayo ngosuku ngalunye kwaye bacaca oko bangayilindela ngexesha lokondla, emva kwemisebenzi yokutya, amaxesha okulala, neeveki. Abantwana abanemigangatho ehleliweyo yokufumana ubuncinane beemvakalelo ezinzulu, ukungaqiniseki, nokungaqiniseki njengalabo abangenalwazi ukuba balindele ntoni na ixesha okanye imini.

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Ncedisa Abantwana Ukuthetha Nomzali Osebenzayo

Abanye abantwana baya kugcina ukubhala okanye ukubiza umzali osusiweyo ngenxa yokoyika ukuba izinto zihlukile okanye zivakalelwa kukuba zishiyiwe. Nceda abantwana bakho abancinci babhale ileta elula okanye bafake umfanekiso kumzali wabo othunyelwe. Baxelele ukuba unonwaba yileta okanye umfanekiso oza kwenza ubaba (okanye umama) kwaye ubakhuthaze ukuba badibanise lo mzali ebomini babo. Khuthaza abantwana abadala ukuba bagcine ii-journals okanye i-mementos yeziganeko ezibalulekileyo okanye iziganeko ezingabelana ngazo nomzali osusiweyo xa ebuya. Khuthaza onke amalungu entsapho ukuba athathe inxaxheba kwiifowuni zeefowuni kunye nevidiyo kunye nokwabelana ngeendaba ezilungileyo kunye nelungu lentsapho elisebenzisiweyo.

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Bancedise Udidile Ngezo "Eza ekhaya" iimvakalelo

Bonke abantwana bavumiwe ngumzali wabo ukuba babuyele ekhaya kodwa baya kubonisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Abanye baya kuba neengxaki kwiiveki, iintsuku, kunye neeyure ngaphambi kokuba umzali esetyenzisiweyo eze ekhaya. Basenokuvakalelwa benetyala ngenxa yokhathazeka. Ukuba uyayiqonda ukuba yintoni eyenzekayo, kubalulekile ukubanceda ukuba baqonde ukuba loo mvakalelo iyinto engokwemvelo. Abantwana banokuziva bexhala ngenxa yokuba abaqinisekanga ukuba izinto ziya kuhamba njani xa umzali esetyenzisiweyo efika ekhaya, nokuba umzali utshintshile, okanye ingaba akayi kubona ukuba umntwana utshintshile kwaye wakhula ukususela ekuqaleni kokuthunyelwa.

Abanye abantwana banenkxalabo yokuba amalungelo athile aya kuthatyathwa xa umzali esetyenzisiweyo efika ekhaya okanye ukuba uqeqesho luya kuba lukhuni. Kwaye xa umzali esetyenzisiweyo efika ekhaya, abantwana banokuba nzima ukulungiswa. Iintsana kunye neentsana ziya kuba ziqaphele "umfokazi" omtsha, kwaye abantwana abancinci banokuba neentloni ekuqaleni. Abantwana abaneminyaka engama-5 ubudala bangenza njengokuba ubaba uyigorha yabo kwaye bamlandele kuyo yonke indawo, ngelixa abantwana bekhusela ubaba ngenxa yokuba abaqinisekanga ukuba bangayenza njani kuye. Ezi zihlandlo zohlengahlengiso ziqhelekileyo kwaye zithatha ixesha elithile ukuba wonke umntu athathwe.

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Ukubhiyozela Izipho Zabo Ezizodwa kunye neetalente

Wonke umntu unempawu ezikhethekileyo zobuntu, izakhono, ubuchule, izipho, kunye neetalente eziya kubanceda njengoko behamba ubomi. Abantwana abakhuthazwayo ukuphuhlisa nokulandela iinjongo zabo ekugqibeleni baphumelele kakhulu kunabo abakhuthazwa kancinci. Enye yezona ndlela ezilungileyo zokumisa umntwana ekugqibeleni okanye ukukhathazeka ngokungapheliyo ukuguqulwa kunye nokugxila kwenye indawo. Abantwana baseMpi bangaba nobutyebi ngokukhethekileyo, baqulunqa, baphefumlelwe ngenxa yeemeko ezinzima abaye bafuneka bazinyamezele kwasekuseni ebomini. Bafanelwe ukunakwa, uthando, nokunyamekela. Asazi zonke iindlela zokuba zihlala kwintsapho yasemkhosini zitshintshe, kodwa siyazi ukuba aba bantwana bahlala banamandla kwaye banamandla. Baye babhekana novavanyo olunzima kwaye baninzi baphuma ngcono. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, uninzi lwabantwana abanesiqinisekiso sokuba abazali babo bayabathanda kwaye bayabaxhasa baya kwenza okulungileyo.