Sonke sifuna okusemandleni ethu abantwana. Ukuba umntwana wethu uyaphula ingalo yakhe, siya ngqo esibhedlele, kodwa ukuba umntwana ofanayo ubonisa uxhalaba okanye ubonakala ecindezelekile, abazali abaninzi abanokuqiniseka ukuba benzani. Njengabantu abadala, abantwana bahamba kwiimeko ezinzima apho bafuna uncedo, ukhokelo okanye umntu ophulaphulayo. Abantwana bajongana nokuxinezeleka kwesikolo, ukuxhatshazwa, umdlalo womhlobo, intlungu, kunye nokutshintshwa kwezinto ezininzi ebuntwaneni bonke.
Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana banamahloni okanye besaba ukuxelela umama okanye utata ukuba into ephosakeleyo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha abazali abaqinisekanga ukuba ingxaki iphela okanye into enzulu. Kukho uncedo oluninzi kubantwana babo bonke ubudala kwaye akukho mzali omele azive yedwa xa kuziwa kwimpilo yengqondo yabantwana.
Nazi ezinye iimpawu ukuba umntwana wakho akamele akhulume nomgqirha:
Ukutshintsha Ukutya okanye Ukulala
Ukuba ukutya komntwana wakho okanye ukulala kwakhe kukutshintshile kakhulu, musa ukuyihoxisa. Ukulala kakhulu okanye kungekho nhlobo ifulegi ebomvu kunye neendlela zokutya ezintsha kunokuba ngumqondiso wesifo sokutya.
Ukubandakanyeka kwizinto eziMonakalisayo
Ukuba umntwana wakho uthatha inxaxheba ngokuphindaphindiweyo yokutshatyalaliswa, kubalulekile ukuba bathethe nomgqirha. Iziphathamandla ezizilimazayo zibandakanya ukuzisika okanye ukuzibamba, ukumba izipikili zabo esikhumbeni ukuze bazame ukubangela intlungu, okanye ezinye izenzo zokuzibamba. Ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha kakubi zibandakanya ukusetyenziswa kweziyobisi okanye iziyobisi.
Ezi ziphatha ziyi-mask ukuze unqine umsindo obunzulu, intlungu okanye intukuthelo, kwaye uncedo lomphengululi lunokwenza umehluko kwiimeko ezi.
Ukuvakalelwa Okudlulileyo okanye Ukukhathazeka
Ukuba umntwana ubonakala egxininisekile ngokungathandabuzekiyo, edabukisayo, okanye ecasulayo ixesha elide kwaye ufumana indlela yokukwazi ukwenza izinto aqhelekileyo akwenzayo, kuyilungileyo ukufuna uncedo.
Naka ingqalelo ukuba umntwana wakho ukhala kakhulu okanye ukhathazeka ngokugqithiseleyo.
Behaving Badly
Ukuba ukuziphatha komntwana kwakho kukuphazamisa intsapho yakho okanye ukumfumana enkingeni esikolweni, kunokunye okunye okunokwenzeka. Abantwana abaninzi babonisa iimvakalelo ngokuziphatha kakubi, njengokubambezela, ukuthetha kwakhona kootitshala okanye ukulwa nabahlobo ngoko-ke ngaphambi kokuba ugxume ukuhlwaya, cinga ukuba ukuthetha nomntu kungasisombululo esingcono.
Ukuqhelana nabahlobo
Ukuhoxiswa kwezenhlalakahle okanye ukwahlukana kwontanga kuwuphawu lokuba into engalunganga. Oku kuyinyani ngokukodwa ukuba lo mpawu luyinguqu enkulu ebuntwini babo.
Ukunyanzelisa
Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana baphucule emva kokutshintsha ubomi obuninzi, njengokuzalwa komntakwabo omtsha, ukuhamba okanye ukwahlukanisa phakathi kwabazali babo. Nangona kunjalo, ukurhoxiswa njengento yokulala, ukwesaba okugqithiseleyo, ukubetha, kunye nokubambelela okungahambisani nokutshintsha kunokuba ngumqondiso wembambano.
Izikhalazo Zokwenyama
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuxhalaba nokuxinezeleka kwabantwana kuthatha impawu yempawu, ezifana neentloko kunye neziqu. Emva kokuba ugqithise ukuba kukho naziphi na iingxaki zonyango kunye nogqirha, isinyathelo sakho esilandelayo sinokuba ngumcali. Eminye amava okuphila ayinzima, ayicinezelekileyo, okanye ayengumzwelo, kwaye iya kunceda umntwana wakho ukuba ngaba unomsebenzi oqeqeshelwe ukuthetha naye akusiyo umama okanye ubaba.
Ukuthetha Ngokufa Ngokuqhelekileyo
Kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba abantwana bahlolisise umgaqo wokufa baze bathethe ngayo ngendlela enomdla, kodwa ukuthetha ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngokufa nokufa kuyisimboli esibomvu. Mamela iingxelo malunga nokuzibulala okanye iingcamango zokubulala abanye abantu. Nayiphi na inkulumo malunga nokuzibulala okanye ukubulala omnye umntu ufuna uncedo olukhawulezileyo.
Imiba xa i-Therapist ingenceda
Iimeko ezilandelayo ziquka utshintsho lobomi okanye iimeko ezixinzelelekileyo ukuba umntwana wakho akanako ukufumana izixhobo ezifanelekileyo zokuhlangabezana nazo. Abantu abadala baya kwiyeza ezininzi zezizathu ezicacileyo, ngoko kuyacaca ukuba umntwana uya kuba lusizi, adideke okanye adideke kwaye akakwazi ukukwazi ukuphatha kakuhle izakhono kwaye kufuneka nje umntu afune ukuthetha naye ongeyena umzali:
- Ukulawulwa kwezifo ezinzulu, ezinzima, okanye ezingapheliyo
- Umzali uqhawule umtshato
- Ukuba nobunzima kunye nomntakwabo omtsha
- Ukuhamba kwamakhaya okanye izikolo eziguqukayo
- Ukujongana nomsebenzi kwintsapho okanye kumhlobo osondeleyo
- Ukuhlolwa kwamalungelo
- Ulwaphulo olulandelayo olulandelayo ngokwesondo, emzimbeni, okanye ngokunyanzeliswa ngomsindo okanye nezinye iziganeko ezibuhlungu